|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine.
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|J.K.Erickson||Flora Maranville Morris|
Thank you Janet, for adding the tombstone photos to her memorial.
|Robert Boehm Rathbun||Betsey Rathbone 5835525|
Thank you for adding the foot marker of Betsey Rathbone! It is greatly appreciated. I hope to visit her grave site again next June on a return trip to Vermont. Again thank you, Rob Rathbun
"Rudolph Hulett's name may have included "Albert," but it's my policy to match my memorials to the names on the gravestones. Otherwise, someone will come along behind me and create a duplicate memorial."
Of course, it's entirely up to you but...I found him on a Census as Albert R Hulett. I have numerous memorials that have another name that doesn't appear on the marker and to my knowledge no one has made duplicates. Just wanted to make this information available. Again, it's entirely your choice.
Added by SMG on Aug 22, 2016 8:10 AM
|Samuel P. "Preston" Adams 3rd||RE: E. Adelbert Wells # 52970605|
Hi Janet. I have 23 photograph and tintype JPGs recently sent to me by a Walter Hooker over Ancestry.com for several of my very distant cousins. Walter’s hobby is collecting and scanning old photos, both front and back, for their Ancestry relatives. Somehow he managed to find me through Ancestry. These photos include a family group for: Edwin Wells Gibson, Edmund Harrison Gibson, Harry Potter, Jonas Gibson, Lucia Loomis Blossom, Rebecca Blossom Wells, and Roxie Potter.
I cleaned each of them up with Photoshop before posting to my Ancestry pages, along with trying to find their Find-A-Grave listings. At this point I will gladly send them all to you as an email attachment for your further disposition if you provide an email address. You can reach me at prestonadams3 @gmail.com. Kindest regards, SP Adams, Sarasota, FL.
|Rebecca Dodds||RE: Frank Howland sponsorship|
Hi Janet, yes I'm still working on those Howland, Simpson, Dodds, Harkness etc connections.
I hope to eventually sponsor all of Abbie & Frank's Howland children, (I have the boys left I believe).
The Howland children's many letters covering 30+ years of life in Waterford and Greenvale Twps in Dakota County, has kept me entertained and warm and happy through many a cold winter night- reports of the crops in the fields, apple harvests and butter making, town fairs, who was sick, who was in love, friends and neighbors and especially family pitching in when bad weather and bad times came, simpler times in days gone by...
Janet, I agree with your policy on edits. Actually, I contacted findagrave personnel and informed them I will not accept edits at all. They understand where I'm coming from. I am, though, more than happy to transfer the memorials in question (unless they are related to me). This is stated on my profile page. Many people don't read my profile page though. Some people are very nice abt my policy and some get upset. When they see I will transfer the memorials in question they're usually fine.
|Allison Ferris Pierce||Josephine Barnard|
Thanks so much for the excellent gravestone photo!
|Nancy Cackler||RE: John & Harvey Harrington|
Not sure what you are talking about Harvey Memorial. Before you accuse someone, please make sure you look at the person that was the contributor.
I have not created a findagrave memorial in months.
|Hank Kingston||RE: Elizabeth Rockwell Warren|
My source for Eliza Rockwell Warren's memorial (#28295472) update comes from "The Rockwell Family" book, 2nd edition, published 2008, page 384, by Kenneth W. Rockwell.
Secondly, Nathan and Eliza had five (5) children. You may want to add Henrietta born and died 1850.
|Anonymous||Weir vs Wier|
So good to see you back at Find A Grave! Best regards and enjoy this wonderful summer weather :)
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