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Tim & Grace (#46907821)
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Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
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Maureen Keillor
RE: Willis family in Mount Prospect, Bridgewater
Hey, I found marriage records for Allie & Harriet to Francis Henry Ludington! All's well that end's well, as long as you have great MA records. :-)
Added by Maureen Keillor on Oct 05, 2015 7:00 PM
Maureen Keillor
Dean/Willis family in Mount Prospect, Bridgewater
Hi Tim,

I did some photographing at Mount Prospect on a visit to Bridgewater recently. In the Dean/Willis plot, there's a beautiful headstone marked "Harriet" with no other info. I've searched for both Harriet Dean and Harriet Willis and found too many of each to pin it down. I noticed that you linked the family members together, and acknowledge you may not be related. Just a shot in the dark to see if you know who Harriet is. I'm going to add her just by her first name and note that she's in the Dean/Willis plot.
Thanks for all your hard work on findagrave, and for your service to our country. Go Air Force!
Maureen Keillor
Fayetteville, GA
(from Whitman, MA with an Air Force son :-) )
Added by Maureen Keillor on Oct 04, 2015 11:33 AM
Sue Fetzer
RE: Dwinnell photos

Yes, this volunteer stuff pays well! Problem is that Find A Grave is addicting! I have been working on a cemetery here in Henniker, where I has been a summer project that went from 300 names to 3400 names and pix....there are so many small-medium size cemeteries in this area that haven't been touched. Plenty of fun time to be had.

I will load up the rest of the Dwinnells and transfer them to you....and let you figure them out!


Added by Sue Fetzer on Oct 03, 2015 11:03 AM
Sue Fetzer
RE: Dwinnells
Hi Again,

I loaded the pictures and transferred the 3 "new" Dwinnells to you...enjoy!

Added by Sue Fetzer on Oct 03, 2015 10:35 AM
Sue Fetzer
RE: East Weare and Johnson Cemetery
Great! I love to make you have any idea where the plot is? Pine Grove is a pretty old cemetery and not many "flags flying". I looked for all of them....and did not find Frank the younger.

Johnson cemetery is fact, they are separated only by a gravel path. You would not know if unless a small sign on a chain link fence pointed it out.

I will take another trip out there and look for your Johnson Cemetery person.

The snow will be flying soon....


Added by Sue Fetzer on Oct 03, 2015 10:12 AM
Tim J.
Steven Eugene Wells transfer
Thank you so much Tim & Grace.
Added by Tim J. on Oct 03, 2015 8:53 AM
Sue Fetzer
Dwinnells of NH

I visited Pine Grove and East Weare cemeteries today (they are across the street from one another). And while I did not find your Frank, I think I found his father and several other Dwinnels...

George H 1904-2001
Hilda G 1896-1970
Maurice E 1910-1992
Frank P 1871-1963 (? father)
Ina E Hadley 1881-1940
Chester H 1908-1923
Gladys S E 1915-1933
John M 1906-1988
Edna P 1914-2000

Are any of these of interest?


Added by Sue Fetzer on Oct 02, 2015 1:18 PM
Philena Groves Downs
Hi Tim & Grace,
I went back to the Palmer Rd. Cemetery in Newport, ME the other day. Still did not find
Philena. I did get photos of a lot of others at the cemetery and have uploaded them to find-a-grave. My camera batteries ran out when I was about one third through the cemetery. Will probably be going back, not sure when. It looks like there are a lot of unmarked graves there.
Betty B
Added by BETTY BANNERMAN on Sep 29, 2015 1:48 PM
Linda Allen
Barney Dolan
Thank you very much for the photo.
Added by Linda Allen on Sep 28, 2015 9:14 PM
Fran Bennett
John Janes 1/1752
I'm having a problem confirming this to be my 3rd Great Grandfather. Most of the information on this grave matches what I have except the name of his wife's (I show only one wife)M. Goodspeed. This record shows his 1st & 2nd wife have the same first name and their last names are really similar. Also I show his mother to be Mercy Batchelder. I would to be able to confirm this is the John James I'm related to. Thanks for any help you can give.
Added by Fran Bennett on Sep 25, 2015 5:54 PM
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