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Tim & Grace (#46907821)
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Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

This new edit system is pretty good. It makes it possible to edit memorials belonging to "Fallen Gravers" , whether they be deceased or just gave up. the problem though is that since memorials now show up as "hints" on, many novices are submitting edits based on unverified sources. It takes time to verify edits when they are submitted. It would be great if source information could be attached to the edit request. In the meantime, it would be helpful if people could submit edit "other" with source documentation along with the edit.
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Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
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J E Swett
RE: Jeremiah Swett in Dean Hill Cemetery in Orrington, Maine
That would be fine, thank you.
Added by J E Swett on Jun 26, 2016 2:24 AM
Jim Easom
grave picture
Thank-you very much for the grave marker picture for Myra Adams in Riverside Cemetery in Newport, ME. I appreciate it.
Jim Easom
Added by Jim Easom on Jun 18, 2016 8:02 PM
RE: Hayes family in Woodlawn Cemetery in Everett
funny because when I visit cemeteries sometimes I will have the office tell me the location of a grave I am at to see if I am in the right area to one looking for and it is weird how many they say they dont have record for.and I am like well its here..
Added by bernice on Jun 15, 2016 10:48 AM
RE: Cemeteries in Boston area
so I went to woodlawn in Everett mass looking for your photo request yesterday with the help of the grounds staff I located where the grave was but there was no stone for the Hayes family in Ephron south nor was there a stone for Jane Jacobson in Evergreen.I took pics of location and will post them,the areas are right behind each other, then I went to look for Mary Hayes in the pilgrims rest area when I called the office for help by giving them the name I was near I was only a few numbers away so again no stone,, surprised me that the other family lot had no stone but in those 1800's I guess they didn't have $$ there was however a huge Hayes monument site that had like 9 ppl in it that said 1901 on front being that you can not gain entry to it I could not see any names on the slabs inside. it was also near the pilgrims rest but they were not in there per office..
Added by bernice on Jun 15, 2016 8:23 AM
RE: Jennie Sawtelle Smiley & Frederic Eugene Barton in Forest Dale Cemetery
I looked at your photo request I will print them out and next time I get free time I can try to locate the graves at woodlawn in everett. as long as I have location..I am the next town over . Bernice
Added by bernice on Jun 13, 2016 10:47 AM
RE: Jennie Sawtelle Smiley & Frederic Eugene Barton in Forest Dale Cemetery
no prob I happened to be there today visiting all my family (watering plants) and it is easy to locate graves with the area..the woman in the office is super nice and helps me locate the exact spot as I walk around ..let me know if there is anything else I can help within my area.. Bernice
Added by bernice on Jun 13, 2016 10:43 AM
John Kelley
John & Catherine Madden McManus
Catherine Madden who married John McManus was my third Great Aunt and her sister Mary Agnes Madden Tracey was my 2nd great Grandmother. Mary A Madden married Michael Tracey in 1850s. Their only child Mary(Mumsie)Tracey married a Michael Flaherty and their son James Tracey Flaherty's daughter Margaret Christine married my dad John R Kelley Sr. Since 1987, I have been working on our family history and my focus is on the photographic history our family. Obviously, I'm quite interested in the early years of Catherine and John McManus. In addition, I'm a member of the Center for Civil War Photography and my interest perked when I discovered John McManus was with the 3rd United States Artillery Regiment. I do have a tree on Big question, have any photographs come down of Catherine and John McManus & were you aware of any images of James and Mary Madden, the parents of Catherine Madden. Sincerely, John Kelley
Added by John Kelley on Jun 04, 2016 9:43 AM
Holly J Van Ostrand
RE: Braggs & Kellers in Achorn Cemetery in Rockland, Maine
you are welcome. it was a lovely sunny day and I enjoyed strolling through the cemetery. take care. holly j van ostran
Added by Holly J Van Ostrand on May 27, 2016 2:18 PM
Ralph Gowen
RE: Grace C. Farrar Briggs in Buckfield Village Cemetery
I attached the information to her memorial - it appears that her middle name should be Clarinda
Added by Ralph Gowen on May 11, 2016 2:43 PM
Bill West
RE: Dunhams in Mount Vernon Cemetery
My pleasure. They are distant cousins. My 2x great grandmother was Florilla Dunham.
Added by Bill West on May 10, 2016 7:56 PM
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