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Saundra Dowling (#48231502)
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Bio Photo "We cannot undo the past,... but we can insure... that these men/women shall be respected and honored forever."
We need to connect to our past to help understand our future.

Thank you so much to everyone who leaves flowers for our son! It means a lot to me to know he's remembered.

On Dec 23, 2014 we got a phone call every parent fears. Our middle son James Henry "Tank" Dowling age 37 had passed away suddenly in his sleep. It would be a great honor if you could leave a note with a guitar or something yellow in color as he was colored blind and yellow was about the only color he could see.

James Henry "Tank" Dowling (1977 - 2014)

In Memory of James Henry "Tank" Dowling
Nov. 15, 1977 -- Dec. 23, 2014
Our faith in God and prayers is keeping us going. God is good and I will praise His name.
Thank You & God Bless,
Saundra Dixon Dowling

** Thank You Thousandwinds So Much For Sponsoring Our Son, James Henry Dowling's, Memorial Page
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♥ James ♥
Hello Saundra~
It was an honor to visit James' memorial. He was such a kind, loving young man with a huge heart; a wonderful, precious son. I am so sorry for your loss. God bless you~ You are in my heart and prayers.

Love & Blessings,
Karen Jo
Added by Oregonite♥∞&#... on Mar 30, 2015 6:24 PM
RE: Suggestion: In Memory of Your Son ... to Keep Him Close to Your Heart
We have James's guitar but never thought of adding
a pick in his memorial shadow box.

Make a list of his hobbies and personality traits that you most think of when you think of him and try to find little items that make you think of that hobby or trait.

If he had a favorite song as a child you can buy a 45 rpm record and put it in their ... or take sheet music and use it. You can even get creative like having someone turn a piece of sheet music into origami for the shadow box.

Speaking of origami ... often dollar bills are used for origami ... a bill taken out of his wallet (if you have any) might be nice for a shadow box. It doesn't make a different what paper you use but if the paper has some special connection to James it will have more meaning.
(sometimes YouTube has nice origami instructions that are easy to follow because you can actually watch someone doing it.

Things like their drivers license are nice to put in a memorial shadow box (especially since their photo is on it ... if you find an older one that you like even better than his last one when looking through his things you can use that instead ... or cover the photo on the license with a more favorite one).

Their are a lot of small items that can be interesting ways of remembering them if you use some creative thinking.

God Bless ...
Added by JCJohnsong on Mar 30, 2015 4:28 PM
MC Fresne
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I will come as often as I can visit your son's memorial. I'm sad for you he is gone. God Bless. Myriam
Added by MC Fresne on Mar 30, 2015 2:37 PM
rosie mcnaughton
RE: 140937054
You are very welcome. I have two sons just a little older than yours, and I can imagine how great your loss is.
Added by rosie mcnaughton on Mar 30, 2015 12:32 PM
RE: 140937054
it was an honor dear friend, beautiful tribune. god bless
Added by TERRY REYNOLDS.. on Mar 30, 2015 10:59 AM
RE: 140937054
Sondra,thank you for your kind note. You are very welcome.It's honor and pleasure for me.
Added by Iemanja on Mar 30, 2015 7:19 AM
Suggestion: In Memory of Your Son ... to Keep Him Close to Your Heart
Do you still have any of your son's guitar picks??? ... they are nice ways to keep a piece of a person close to ones heart. Look through his guitar cases and music items see if you can find any. If you gave his guitar away ask the person if they still have any picks with the guitar and if you might have them back.

Then buy one of these ...

... and drill a hole in one of your son's real picks and write his name on it in silver bronze or gold metalic ink ...
(practice using the pen on plastic before writing on the guitar pick till you get used to writing with it).

You might also want to take a photo of your son and glue it to a guitar pick and trim it to size and add that to the necklace as well.

PS: And do a good deed in his memory today to keep his loving influence continuing on in this world after his body has left it.

Peace... JCJohnsong
Added by JCJohnsong on Mar 29, 2015 1:03 PM
Zane's Mom
RE: 140937054

Thank you for your kind note. We belong on a journey that makes no sense - our children aren't supposed to go before we do - they are to carry on a family's legacy. I do hope that one day, this will all be explained. Blessings to you and your family.
Cecilia Lee (Zane's Mom)
Added by Zane's Mom on Mar 23, 2015 6:39 PM
RE: 140937054
You are very welcome ...
... and I will remember to keep James and you and the rest of his family in my prayers (I pray one hour a day).
Whenever I have gone through a very difficult loss in the past it has helped me to stop watching the NEWS on TV or listening on the radio for awhile. The news always seems to focus on the negative in life and society and doesn't report the good that is being done in the world around us ... and when we are grieving it is important not to add to the grief with feelings of anxiety fear or depression.
Also do NOT eat Sugar when grieving ... it makes the emotions much more strong and overpowering even if it seems to help when you first eat it. If you have the impulse to eat sweets keep some fresh fruit with you at all times and if the craving is too strong than have fruit instead of candy cake. If you use sugar in your coffee replace it with honey for awhile. You will still grieve but it will be a more peaceful feeling if you do this and easier on you.

I know James played the guitar ...
I have found going to a local Banjo club where I live and listening to them practice once a week is uplifting when going through loss. If you live in Florida one of these web sites may know if any banjo groups have practice sessions near you that are open to the public ...
or ...
Music stores in your area that sell banjos might know of a group that practices in your area and allows the public to listen in for free.
... print out a copy of the poem footprints ...

... and keep a copy by your bed to read at night before you fall asleep. May God comfort you with his peace and calm strength at this time and in the future as you deal with your loss...
Added by JCJohnsong on Mar 13, 2015 1:36 PM
RE: 140937054
It's my pleasure. You so very welcome.I'm so sorry for you lost your son.
Take care
Added by Iemanja on Mar 11, 2015 7:05 AM
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