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ASB (#47486614)
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Bio Photo I love the peace and quiet of cemeteries. (There are no telemarketers calling.) I also love taking pictures. The exercise is at my own pace. The stones are interesting, and they absolutely need to be documented before they are lost to the ravages of time.

I'm 10 generations forward from my Mayflower ancestor George Soule. I'm 13 generations from my New Haven founder Capt. Nathaniel Turner. 13 Generations is 1024 direct ancestors (doesn't count siblings etc.) My husband also has 1024 direct ancestors going back to the Mayflower. That's 2048 direct ancestors. I haven't found them all in the 40+ years I've been researching. But I'm still looking. Thanks to all of you members at Find a Grave, who are making finding their burial places easier.

PLEASE use the EDIT tab for suggestions, corrections and transfers. I'm happy to make changes, but I'm going to ask you for a source, if it's not directly on the stone. (Using the new edit system you can send source information through the "Suggest any other correction or addition" line.) The internet is a wonderful thing for genealogists but it's also very good at spreading misinformation, and I am trying very hard not to spread undocumented genealogy. That's one of the reasons I love Find a Grave, because I can look directly at a gravestone and see exactly what it says and don't have to depend on second and third hand information. Happy hunting.

PHOTOS OF GRAVESTONES. Please feel free to use mine, that's why I took them. I do like to get credit, though. "ASB"

PHOTOS OF PEOPLE. I've posted them to be enjoyed by visitors to Find a Grave. I was a little taken aback to see my mother's photo on Ancestry. So you're welcome to use them, for your personal use, but I would appreciate it, if you would avoid posting them to other internet sites.

Photo icon: Boris De Behr, traveling companion, enjoying a quiet moment along the Connecticut River.

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Barbara Harackiewicz
RE: Hormidas Belanger 93806832
Sorry, I just wanted him linked to his wife. I don't have all the information yet on his family.
Thank you.
Added by Barbara Harackiewicz on Aug 25, 2014 5:51 AM
Dave Robison
George and Lillian Hall
Hello! I've just submitted a few edits, mostly to ask to link George and Lillian then Lillian to her parents, Edward Harmon Bassett and Emma Eleanor Tuggey, my maternal great grandparents. If this is not sufficient, please let me know.

I've also been a contributor since December 2000 but I've not had the time to do much more than my own family.

You might enjoy my Facebook page "Find-A-Grave Genealogy Discussion." If you're interested, you can contact me directly at

Dave Robison
Added by Dave Robison on Aug 21, 2014 9:22 PM
Re Melita Vinton Cady
Thank you so much for taking and posting this photograph. I never knew where "Grandmother" Melita was buried, or even if she died in Southbridge or Woodstock. Many thanks for your kindness in sharing. Suzanne
Added by Suzanne on Aug 14, 2014 5:38 PM
Adelina N Healy
RE: Maj. Lemuel Healy 113312319 Dudley MA
We still know where it is. I need to check the dates again on it. I will do that and get back to you.

Addie Healy
Added by Adelina N Healy on Aug 01, 2014 12:45 PM
Adelina N Healy
RE: Elisha Chamberlain
I found him,he is buried in Kent, CT. He also is a Revolutionary Pariot. He is a great grandfather of mine.
Added by Adelina N Healy on Jul 31, 2014 5:44 PM
RE: Evan Balcum 118590509
Great thanks putting it in the bio is just fine. If you'd like a source I have a family record written by his father that includes his full name and his birthdate as well as the birthdate of his siblings - I've been looking for him for quite a while - was never able to pin down where he was buried! So thanks for taking the time to put him on the site!
Added by kisetta on Jul 30, 2014 6:10 AM
Martin Smith
Thank you!
Thank you! I have discovered the same thing and thought of it after I sent the edit. Now I have a couple of mine to rearrange, too!
Added by Martin Smith on Jul 30, 2014 5:56 AM
Hannah Pardee Mix - 79804247
Would you like management? I'm not related in any way. All updates posted. Thank you.
Added by Heidi on Jul 29, 2014 10:32 AM
Susan Barrow Spaulding
Lillian Crofut Spencer

Thanks for pointing out the duplicate. I thought I did delete it, but the site on my computer has been acting weird the last few days.

Yes, we probably are somehow connected with the Spencers. I also photographed the cemetery when I was in the area for the Boyd Family Reunion the end of June.

It's going to drive me nuts until I figured out the connection. I believe my line crosses with the Spencers and the Hills.

Added by Susan Barrow Spaulding on Jul 10, 2014 6:40 AM
RE: Re transcriptions etc.
Re transcriptions etc.

I will not get into arguments with another volunteer over how each person sees his/her tasks.
It is a rule of the site that people stay polite and respectful, and you fail to follow these basic guidelines.
I will however, out of my own sheer courtesy, try to answer your criticism by explaining where I come from:

Your message:
A. Why would you bother to do a transcription on a stone, when the photo is perfectly clear and simple. "Really!!!" - John Smith died Month Day Year. Why waste your time and mine.

My response:
"What information should I include from a headstone?
All of the information on the headstone should be typed into the appropriate fields in the memorial form. It is not sufficient to create a memorial with only a name and a headstone photo and expect people to click on the photo to read the information that should be readily available in a name search, such as birth and death years."

This is taken from the site guidelines, and I have therefore concluded that information needs to be typed in rather than viewed on the pictures.
Likewise the ‘Marker Transcription' field should be used to specifically provide a full transcription of what is marked on the stone, not interpretations/conclusions thereof as I have found in several instances in this particular cemetery.

Your message:
B. "However, if there is already a photo of the headstone, a second similar photo should not be added unless the original is of poor quality and the new photo is dramatically better." - Quote from guidelines. I realize that many of the photos I took are not top notch photos, but most of yours are not any better.

My response:
Regarding pictures: I am having a difficult time reading stones and find that very often, 1-2-3 poor pictures help as they each give a different angle and sometimes help. There are many, many pictures I took that I have not submitted because they added nothing, but in several instances, I felt they did, and could help someone in the future. I find that pictures taken a few years earlier often show stones in a better shape and playing with pictures from different times helps decipher the whole message- even if only one word is at a better angle in a specific picture. Also, if you try to enlarge the pictures, many of them are too small to do so effectively; so I felt that adding larger pictures is sometimes also a desirable attribute. Hence the addition of some imperfect shots, which can be downloaded, enlarged, played with at different angles and lighting to help readers find the info they may want.

That being said, I am learning the process and have only worked with one cemetery before this one. I found, in this earlier case, that the administrator was useful, grateful and gave great guidance, in a very courteous and friendly manner. The way you are addressing me today is far from this and I fail to see how we can build on such attitude.

Your message:
C. You sent way too many at once. I've spent several hours, double checking and processing.

My response:
Here again, I fail to see how you can justify such a comment. I have seen no guideline about the amount of data to send nor about sending this in small increments. I also fail to understand what appears like anger, as I don't believe there is any deadline of any kind on your side, so if you take a year or a week to review all that I have sent, who really cares?

If there are guidelines about data limits, then please point me in the right direction and I'll be happy to comply. In the negative, I will continue to send in however amount of work I have prepared for the site in a way and timing that suit me. That is all you can ask of any volunteer.

D. A little addition of my own: when you pointed out earlier today that I may have the wrong picture, I was only too happy to thank you, correct and respond kindly. I am open to constructive comments, not to simple differences in opinion and open, public reprimands. We are neither in a schoolyard of underage children who don't know how to behave, nor am I your employee awaiting your review and orders!
Added by SGWEBS on Jul 08, 2014 2:29 PM
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