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GerbLady (#46637511)
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Bio Photo NOTE: Contrary to messages being left, valid in-guideline transfer requests submitted via the proper protocol (using the EDIT tab, not messages left here or via emails) with relationship identified and that fall within the FAQs are processed within the 30 day window. Other than the thank-yous, none of the members who have posted their rants, requests and pleas here regarding transfers have followed the FAQs.

Having been a beta tester for the new EDIT system, have nothing but praise for this new feature! Can get through updates in minutes what used to take hours. This new edit feature is also proving to be a huge leap in getting the name fields clean up per the naming conventions found in the FAQs (these are not optional or subject to interpretation):

Memorial Naming Conventions:

If a hyphen or an apostrophe is part of the name, use the punctuation.

A period should be used after names where only an initial is known. If the full name is known, use the full name and not the initial.

No other punctuation should be used within any Name Field.

Full capitalization (ALL-CAPS) of names should not be used in any Name Field.

Suffixes and Prefixes do not belong in any Name Field.

First Name - First name of the deceased. Put the entire first name (if known), even if the grave marker is only an initial.

Middle Name - Middle name of deceased. Put the entire middle name (if known), even if the grave marker is only an initial.

Nickname - Nickname of deceased, if known; the nickname is automatically placed in quotes.

Maiden Name - Maiden name of a married individual, if known (otherwise leave blank); the maiden name is automatically italicized and should only be used if the individual was married and took the spouse's surname as their new surname. If the deceased was never married, then the surname should be placed in the "Last Name" field, NOT in the "Maiden Name" field.

Last Name - Last Name as you would find it on the tombstone, if the interred had more than one marriage or other possible spellings please place this information in the bio and use the family links. Do not include honorary or other suffixes in the Last Name field.

Any photos I've added to this site are open for anyone to use, no permission or credit needed.

I strictly adhere to the Find A Grave guidelines regarding transfers. No exceptions. Requests made outside of the guidelines, or do not state relationship, are no longer being acknowledged. Virtual cemeteries are the way to "gather" your ancestors together.

Copy-and-paste census, military and other data is not a "bio". Please don't send these type of bios because they will not be added.

Finally, I will NOT add a link to a burial unknown memorial. This site is named Find a GRAVE for a reason. Not a difficult concept.
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Mrs. Farrell
Oh dear! I didn't realize my post below would look like War and Peace. :-O
Added by DM on Jul 27, 2014 6:21 PM
Mrs. Farrell
I ignored the request for a prefix switch because I found the death record with her correct first name, thus no longer requiring the "Mrs." You should be aware that the prefix category did not include "Mr." or "Mrs.," and many other prefixes back in the earlier days of Find-a-Grave. I only became aware of these additions to the prefixes recently and I've been knocking around here for over 10 years. Submission etiquette has changed over time, but the desire to find family members here never changes.

I don't really have a problem with these being pointed out, now that there is a newer way to format entries, but I can see where volumes of them might become an annoyance to people. Maybe the idea is that someday it will enable an easier way to search via a first name. I don't know what direction Find A Grave is taking with its newer affiliation. Personally, I don't focus on other people's entries, graciously keep a looser policy toward transfers, and wish others would abide, at the very least, by the transfer policies laid out by Find A Grave. It's deeply troubling to read that you refuse to do transfers outside of the traditional request emails. I stand as one who has repeatedly been denied transfers, over a period of years, by the same original submitter, because they claim to have some relation to everyone they've listed. It's laughable that they consider themselves closer to my grandparents than I am.

At any rate, transfers and informational updates are first and foremost IMHO. If you have too many entries, I would suggest focusing on transfer and additional information requests, instead of playing clean up. So a person doesn't ask in the "proper" format. Is it really that big of a deal? I'm truly not trying to create more hub-bub, but as someone who doesn't get overly involved in surfing for corrections to report for edit or even posting in forums, it strikes me that a lot of upset fellow contributors are out there. I'm able to swiftly maintain my edits, transfers, and email queries because I don't have the number of submissions you do. With volume, comes greater responsibility to field all the requests......and no, not everyone reads our bio/links before hitting a send button. Regardless of how clearly you outline your wishes, it ain't always going to happen! ;-)

Thanks for your long term commitment to Find A Grave, but do consider softening your stance a smidge. Just a friendly message. :-)
Added by DM on Jul 27, 2014 6:20 PM
Git 'Er Dug
Just a thank you for the work you do. I especially like the guidelines you have noted.
Added by Git 'Er Dug on Jul 27, 2014 12:44 PM
Donald Leaman
Find A Grave Memorial# 12629312
Please add father as Harry Leaman, Find A Grave Memorial# 56882668

Added by Donald Leaman on Jul 25, 2014 12:00 PM
Elizabeth Barrie
Thank YOU
I just wish to thank you for this site. I have been unable to get any info on my sweetheart's grave. In 2011 I was able to find him in FL and finally get some closure, since when he passed I lived in Canada and he passed in FL. If there were someway I could get a picture of him, military etc. I would carry it with me until I am with him. All I have of him is a very blurry picture. We were to be married 2 months after he passed. Thank you Colleen Elizabeth Barrie
Added by Elizabeth Barrie on Jul 25, 2014 11:53 AM
RE: Flowers
Thank you, I'm a newbie' still learning. :)
Added by mcc on Jul 23, 2014 7:50 PM
Lela Parris Koch
Sarah Bridgewater Taylor
The marriage record says Bridgewater just as plain as day. Therefore I think it is safe to say her maiden name was Sarah Bridgewater Taylor.

Respectfully yours,
Added by Lela Parris Koch on Jul 23, 2014 4:30 PM
Thanks for the clarification. It's a shame that findagrave does not offer Mr. as a title in those circumstances. Maybe I'll have to elevate them to the position of "Sir".... (just kidding) Thanks again! liz
Added by liz on Jul 23, 2014 2:18 PM
GerbLady, I appreciate your desire to clean up name fields "per the naming conventions found in the FAQs (these are not optional or subject to interpretation)". I understand naming "conventions" to be guidelines, or a suggested way of doing something... I do not see where findagrave says your use of MALE vs. MR. is the mandatory directive nor even a suggestion, unless I have inadvertently overlooked this. In many cases, an individual is listed as MR. in the burial register, which denotes an older individual. MALE suggests an arbitrary age and could be an infant. In situations where "MR." is indicated, I think that is a preferred alternative, as often no age is given. At this time, I wanted to inform you that I respectfully choose to ignore your edits based on this logic, but will continue to consider each suggestion judiciously. Thanks for all you do! liz
Added by liz on Jul 23, 2014 1:24 PM
Anne Shurtleff Stevens
Mr Able
I am not understanding why you want me to change him to "ma Able"?
Added by Anne Shurtleff Stevens on Jul 23, 2014 1:22 PM
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