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Thomas LaFaive (#47181747)
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Bio Photo I am currently retired and live in Clinton Township, Michigan. I worked the majority of my life as a Quality Control Manager and Engineer in the Plastic Industry. I became interested in Find A Grave as a means to document my relatives lives, and to supplement the information my daughter Nicole collected through genealogical research. She was able to research our family history through approx 15 generations and 50,000 names.
Most of my records are relatives, or friends with the exception of some notables in Clinton Grove Cemetary where I frequently ride my bike.

My thoughts on death:
We pass into oblivion, lying as base elements to be used in the formulation of other entities. Sharing the electrons and protons and other atomic concentrations with whatever organic assemblage is likely to evolve.

We lie in dust, but continue on in memory for what we were, the actions we stumbled upon in our brief time. The undying elements counterpoint our quiet demise and memories flicker and fade as each day another passes. Attainment of an eternal union coupled with the superstitious elements of tradition: symbolic rituals, haggard drawn undertakers vested in black, granite slabs of identity, sonorous organ fugues, burning candles, ascending incense, the cold impersonal scalpel wielded in autopsy. Viewing death the mind rebels the loss of conditioning. A learning process must evolve to recognize the dead as they walk amongst our memories and dreams, with the cause heightened in proportion to the needs satisfied in life.

Daily we walk amongst the living dead as friends become strangers, children become adults, and adults become children, severed from ties, seeking a means to adjust to constant change. Who can surface the victor with a similar fate awaiting us all insect or man?

Our backs turned, we view the heavens rather than view the cold impassive repository of earth, our loss but a shroud of hidden regrets and intentions that never came to pass.

We question the inequities of birth, but insight reveals all men are slaves, held in bondage by the motivational directives of emotion. Lying subservient to defensive ploys, receiving the lash of inner guilt, the pang of grief, the horrors of frustration and depression as deployed in varying levels of dopamine and hormonal secretions, incarcerated within the confines of physical limitations, taunted by actual and imaginary pain: fears of extinction, devaluation.

Passive, we see our young torn from us by the villain time, blurring the exhilaration of birth our memories scarred in counting the dead. Passive we see our youth torn from us by the villain time as we watch the aging atrocity developing in the mirror each day. Light me another killer fag, mix me another killer martini, oh so dry! Fortunately for me and depressing for survivors I will die sooner.
Life was such a quick thing before I had the time to blink it was over, hardly enough time to investigate all the possibilities, the potential configurations that had lain before me.
.and yet:
Somewhere in the great void of universal space, serenity is approaching and I am standing here with my thumb out, in eager anticipation of adjusting modes scented in finality.

Emblazoned with a Latin plea for the ages: requiest in pace.

Thomas G. LaFaive
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Messages left for Thomas LaFaive (31)[Leave Message]
RE: Bertha Henning
You're welcome. I've seen Gethsemane fixed toppled stones, maybe you just have to ask. $5 is cheap. Trinity charges $20.
Added by Marilyn on Nov 18, 2014 8:33 AM
RE: Tucker farm
:-) hoping to go tomorrow. Saw some of it today my self at my nieces soccer game at Lance Cruise North High School. Blue Angels are so cool !!!

Ancestry is who you went through, I was thinking of using them as well. Good to know you were happy with them.
Added by M.Bolton on Sep 06, 2014 8:13 PM
RE: Cady Memorials
That is Fantastic !!! No, I have not done it yet. Who did you go with ???
Added by M.Bolton on Sep 06, 2014 8:48 AM
Gail Campbell Schulte
RE: Stone
Hi Tom- I'm there Monday mornings.

When the library is open on Sunday, I'm there from 1-5, but they aren't open on Sunday again until September.

Added by Gail Campbell Schulte on May 22, 2013 6:49 AM
Gail Campbell Schulte
RE: Stone
Hi Tom--

I finished the Clinton Grove update in December, it should show up on the library shelf in another month or so.

Then I proofread a book of funeral home records and a few other small things.

My main project now is a compilation of records from Trinity German Lutheran Cemetery on Elmwood Avenue in Detroit--about 15,000 records from 8 or 9 different sources. Everything is in the spreadsheet and now I'm weeding out the duplicates and highly questionable records. Eventually it will also be on the library shelf.

I took a brief photo shop class; it was a landslide of information, most of which was way over my head.

And I volunteer at the Mount Clemens Library in the genealogy room twice a week.

Other than that, I bake a little.

How are you?

Added by Gail Campbell Schulte on May 18, 2013 5:42 AM
Gail Campbell Schulte
RE: Bolensen stone
Hi Tom.

So it was you! Yes, all 10 of the stones are in one lot (probably lot 10) in Section C, there's a large Bollenson marker facing West and the stones face East. The stones are upright, small and hard to read because of age and lots of lichen growth.

Added by Gail Campbell Schulte on May 16, 2013 4:16 AM
RE: Photo Bolensen
Thank you so much for trying.. it looks like someone got her picture of her stone !!!because it is now there. I am just missing now Corp.Henry and Susanna Lehner Bollesen Headstone !!!
Added by M.Bolton on May 15, 2013 6:23 PM
Marilyn Nenni
RE: Ortenzio Nenni
Not my grandfather but related to my husband's grandfather. Albert was a 2nd cousin to Corrado, my husband's grandfather. I didn't realize Albert was from the Detroit area. My husband's family lived in Royal Oak and they are all in Mt. Olivet also. That's so interesting that you knew him and then made the connection here. It is a small world.
Added by Marilyn Nenni on Feb 19, 2013 1:22 PM
Kathleen Fleury Bilbrey
I noticed a couple by the name of Tucker in your care I was wondering if they were related to a few I knew back in the 60's who lived on Donaldson Street the street after Deanhurst which was the start of Mount Clemens Michigan, we lived next door to.

Added by Kathleen Fleury Bilbrey on Dec 18, 2012 9:22 AM
Kathleen Fleury Bilbrey
Hi friend , that was so cool of what you wrote on your profile page , something different than the regular stuff I think I understood it all .
Are you sure you werent a teacher?
Anyway I transfered Mr Hebert 's interment over to you .
If he is not a relative that is ok at least he is in the section his parents are .
Keep up the good work and good luck finding your Ancestors for their section to be with you .

Added by Kathleen Fleury Bilbrey on Dec 18, 2012 9:18 AM
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