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sr/ks (#46847659)
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Bio Photo First, my deepest thanks to those who have kept my spirits up by being supportive friends and who have honored my dear ones so faithfully.

I still find myself trying to focus on the theme of rebirth, and trying to shake the gloom of the losses of 2012.

2014's start has been rocky with the loss of three of my guiding lights; our Romberger Family Association founder, the gent who found our original immigrant ancestor and his family home in Germany, a friend and genealogical mentor has passed. Thank you if you can honor Dr. John A. Romberger. The day we laid Dr. John to rest, another Doctor left us - my dear godfather, Dr. Edwin R. Baldrige. Not long after that, my sweet silversmithing teacher, Jane Martindell passed as well. It sort of feels like my mentors are all taking flight.

I'm finding using the site difficult right now. Some people have found it very therapeutic after a loss. Unfortunately, it has the opposite effect on me; I see all the losses of my fellow contributors, and it makes me feel terrible. I see your now-gone loved ones, and in a small way I re-live the loss of my loved ones. I think my feelings are still too close to the surface to be so easily stirred.

If you have a moment, would you kindly visit Randall Buckley? This is our friend Paula's brother.

If you are wondering whom else to visit, perhaps you'd kindly look in on my dearest.

If you have a moment, would you please send prayers to fellow contributor Ann H?

And if you have another moment, please consider leaving a token for our fellow contributor, White Light.

Picture use: You are welcome to use pictures for personal use, but I do NOT consent for their use online or on commercial or paid sites. FindAGrave is about sharing what you know, and I will not have my good will co-opted and monetized. I saw some of my pics stolen from here and put on and I am taking action to correct this.

Transfers and suggestions: Forgive me, but experience has been a harsh teacher. I used to be very cool about transferring, but I've had about enough of being easy about this. I'll gladly transfer the memorials of anyone not related or without meaning to me in a heartbeat, and I have hundreds to give away. But on family, I'm adopted, working on both birth and adopted families. I have a lot of family to cover, possibly double the size of yours, and I have not articulated my relationship to the subject of every memorial for privacy reasons. Rather than quibble, I would be gladder still to improve a memorial with your suggestions sent via SAC. Let's do the right thing and make the memorial accurate, suitable and a reflection of that person's life. You can put the improved memorial in a "virtual cemetery" without needing ownership of it, as I have done with relatives that other contributors have added to the site. I can add links or the info you wish, and you are welcome to add pictures.

On the other hand, if the memorial is one I have added by chance or the subject is no one related to me or is one to whom I have no attachment, I will offer to transfer instantly.

FindAGrave memorials are online representations of real graves, not trading cards. I don't collect them for numbers and am frankly relieved to see them go to family if they have no connection and meaning to me. There are relatives of mine another contributor has memorialized on the site that I do not "own" and have not asked for, content that I have added the info I have, and linked them to their kin.

"Many African societies divide humans into three categories; those still alive on earth, the sasha, and the zamani. The recently departed whose time on earth overlapped with people still here are the sasha, the living-dead. They are not wholly dead, for they still live in the memories of the living, who can call them to mind, create their likeness in art, and bring them to life in anecdote. When the last person to know an ancestor dies, that ancestor leaves the sasha for the zamani, the dead. As generalized ancestors, the zamani are not forgotten but revered. Many can be recalled by name. But they are not living-dead. There is a difference." -- from "Lies My Teacher Told Me" by James Loewen

So perhaps the progression of the living to the sasha to the zamani cannot be helped, but we record here those we knew, both sasha and zamani, and leave some record of them. And if they are sashas to us, perhaps our record keeps them sashas longer as we offer our first hand accounts of them.

It bothers me that time passes, because I sense my friends and family members moving out of sight as they pass through the celestial plan, or whatever you like to call it. I am just conscious that our grip on those we know and love is constantly eroding. I think this is why I have been drawn to FindAGrave; I can't stop people from dying, but I can stop them from being forgotten, and can see the lives of people other contributors feel the same about, those they don't want to shift out of focus as time clouds memories and people who knew others pass on. Here, at least, we can freeze them in time and recount all that made them good or special.

Your visits to my loved ones mean a lot to me. They mean my folks here are not forgotten, and honor people I really loved or respected or took the time to research, so thank you. I enjoy honoring people remembered on Find a Grave, and do take the time to read bio info on memorials. I appreciate knowing about the people other folks want remembered.

Every memorial entered here has been done with respect and good intent, in the hopes dear ones will not be forgotten. Any concerns, additions and so on are most welcome here on this page.
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Jim Sanders
Gladys Wood
All set now. Thanks

Jim Sanders
Added by Jim Sanders on Apr 14, 2014 3:12 AM
David L Aten Sr
RE: Thank you
Added by David L Aten Sr on Apr 09, 2014 7:57 PM
James Bear
Thank you for noticing!! I appreciate your kind words.

I have linked James' parents for you, and added your note about his life.
I also photographed his wife's stone, so I linked them together, too. Her memorial is 94676862.

Added by LVPennGen on Mar 24, 2014 2:23 PM
robert reinbold
You asked if I was related to Robin Reinbold. If the Robin Reinbold you asked about is the daughter of Arlen Reinbold, then the answer is yes. Arlen was my uncle.
Added by robert reinbold on Feb 13, 2014 3:30 PM
Diane Reich
Clara Willard
Memorial updated. Thanks!
Added by Diane Reich on Feb 07, 2014 9:51 AM
Michael Milliken
Harry D Buffington
1930 census:
Added by Michael Milliken on Feb 06, 2014 7:51 AM
Michael Milliken
Harry Buffington
According to my uncle, Harry Buffington left his family and moved to OH when Clara was very young. My uncle is looking for more info, but he's having health issues right now. Harry & Elsie had 3 sons, Bill, Harry Jr "Tiny", and Robert "Tuffy".
Added by Michael Milliken on Feb 06, 2014 7:25 AM
Michael Milliken
Clara Buffington Clay
Clara was my aunt. Her husband was my mother's brother. Clara was born in 1920, so if her dad left in 1921 she may not have known her father at all. I asked my mom, but she doesn't remember anything about Clara's father, however she said she'll ask other family members, and see if they know anything. I'll let you know if I learn anything new.
Added by Michael Milliken on Feb 06, 2014 6:50 AM
Sharon Salza Spangenberg
RE: Thank you...
My husband and I are well-aware of the Tocks Island dam project. Many of his direct descendants date back to the first European settlers of the Minisink. Most migrating from Esopus, NY (Kingston) - a Dutch outpost. Some of his family names include Van Auken, Depue, Van Campen, Hornbeck , Rosenkrans, and also the infamous Tom Quick. My husband has lived in Layton, NJ his entire life. (Layton is about a mile from the park boundary.) We have personally witnessed some of my husband's ancestors homes as well other historic homes being vandalized and subsequently bulldozed down. He also has many non-Dutch direct descendants from the area: Stewart, Bensley, Struble, Hill, Gould, Clifford, Cron, and Huff to name a few.

If you would be so kind as to also transfer Elizabeth Bensley to me so that I can update that information.

Thank you so much.

Added by Sharon Salza Spangenberg on Jan 29, 2014 3:40 PM
Sharon Salza Spangenberg
RE: Thank you...
Yes please send me any information that you have on Sally Ann (Clifford) Bensley. She is my husband's ggg grandmother.

I have had experience in the past where I have asked the original contributor to make changes and I would never receive a return message. My apologies for not contacting you.

You may want to check out Elizabeth Bensley who is also buried in Swartwood cemetery as I added a virtual flower entry. Sharon
Added by Sharon Salza Spangenberg on Jan 28, 2014 8:16 PM
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