|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine.
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Barb Destromp, Brent Benson, Carol Page Tils..., Clint Dunn, George Falk, J.K.Erickson, Jen Snoots, John Arsenault, Laura Stevers/ ..., Marilyn Solari, Michael Buye, Rebecca Bromley..., Steven Smith
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|Susan Barrow Spaulding||RE: Philip Spauldin Memorial|
The Spalding/Spaulding/Spalden names are spelling differently in so many places, it's hard telling. I've seen that before where the father does not have the "u" and the children do or some of them have the "u" and some not. Crazy bunch I guess. Sometimes the agency doing the spelling (census, death, Birth records, etc. spelled the best they knew how.
|Susan Barrow Spaulding||RE: Philip Spauldin Memorial|
I appreciate your position. It's tough sometimes. Do you think the "G" was either left off on purpose, or faded with time.
I've seen Spaulding/Spalding spelled with Spaulden, but not with the "i".
Susan Barrow Spaulding
|omigosh||RE: Arithusa Raynford|
You're welcome, and I completely understand!
Added by omigosh on Jul 23, 2016 2:32 PM
|Carolyn Gray||RE: Byron Eugene Peck|
Source is book "The Yaw-Yeaw Family in America". First Edition of this book was 1962 and it was compiled by 3 members of the Yaw-Yeaw Family that had done extensive research on their family lines. At that time the research involved direct communitcations with family members still alive. James Yeaw and I (Carolyn Yeaw) are currently updating this book. We check and recheck all information sent in to us from Yaw-Yeaw family members all over the United States. I truly believe our information is correct.
|Roslyn Roisman-Patchi||RE: Elizabeth (Landon) Ives|
Yes I check for new Landon memorials every day. I'm sort of obsessed you might say! Thanks for processing the edits!
I found the answer to my question.
I believe from not finding Francis on the cemetery index, and seeing his death certificate, that Francis was placed in at Vault at Green Lawn until being moved to Vermont for burial. If you can find him buried at the same cemetery as his wife, I would be interested in knowing what you find. I will touch base with Green Lawn Cemetery to see if they have any other information on Francis.
Added by Patty on Jul 18, 2016 4:46 PM
Do you know where the parents or wife were buried?
Added by Patty on Jul 18, 2016 4:26 PM
|dmiller||I am going to decline|
're messages you left on my public message board: "Joannah (Marchant) Randal
I am going to decline your edit because I don't link my memorials to people whose burials are unknown.
Janet Muff" Thank you for your message, I am not certain to whom you were referring to as I need a memorial number to reference.
Added by dmiller on Jul 16, 2016 3:22 PM
|Larry Empey||Thank you|
Just a note to thank you for the photo of Grace Empey's tombstone.
|Kristina Church||Edit on Oliver Church|
http://findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=gr&GRid=108475580 according to papers in my dads collection, collected in 1989 "oliver church died in 1826 (age below ground)"
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