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Doug & Marilyn Parman (#43900458)
 member for 14 years, 4 months, 21 days
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Bio Photo I have always been interested in cemeteries. As a teenager we would stop at old cemeteries and we would read the old headstones.

In 1981 while going through my mother-in-law's keepsakes I came across an obit for her uncle who had died young. I was taken by the wording and I want to find out more about him. I was hooked. We have traveled to many states looking in cemeteries and libraries.

My husband, Doug and I retired in 2008. We live in Modesto, California. We now have lots of time to work on our family research. We have a daughter, Jennifer and a son, Kevin. Kevin is married to Glena; they have a son, Shawn, he was born in 2004. Our grandson, Shawn is our reward after many years of long hours of work.

I registered years ago but just started using the site Feb 2009; I also volunteered to look up graves in our area. Shawn and I put on our detective's hats and went to investigate. It was very rewarding.

If I have added in any of your family I will be happy to transfer the memorial to you. You may use any photo that I have posted, that is what we are all about SHARING information and finding our loved ones final resting place. It would be nice if you gave us the credit for the photo or info, so we could learn more from others also.

Some of our family names are: Parman: Petty: Ervin: Wade: Harmon: Wilson: McCall: Lawler: Hodges: Mann: Stuart: Smyth: Waddle: Kelso: Maple:


Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where others cried
For loved ones whose lives are stilled.

Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.

Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds -
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.

Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hollowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.

Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.

Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.

Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.

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Thank you for your service and the transfer of my family member.
Added by WeShallMeetThem on Aug 02, 2015 1:33 AM
Blakesley photos
Thanks so much..and so quick! Really helps to confirm who these people were.
Added by Montereygenealogist on Jul 30, 2015 9:50 PM
Blakesley photos
Thanks so much..and so quick! Really helps to confirm who these people were.
Added by Montereygenealogist on Jul 30, 2015 9:50 PM
M Roberts
Ellen Hanchett Photo
Thank you so very much for posting photos of my great Aunt and Uncle's headstones. Your quick response to my request is appreciated. Thanks for all you do for Find A Grave.
Added by M Roberts on Jul 27, 2015 9:52 PM
Daniel & Fannie Burger
Thank you so much for your lightning response to my photo request for Daniel & Fannie at Wood Colony Cemetery in Salida. Ya'll are faaaast!
Added by Grams on Jul 27, 2015 7:05 PM
vera stober
Jeanette Blair
Thank you!
Added by vera stober on Jul 21, 2015 6:18 AM
Ellen Spertus
Thanks again!
Now that I've carefully read your profile, I see you do give people permission to share your photos. Thank you very much! No need to reply to my other message.
Added by Ellen Spertus on Jul 17, 2015 10:59 AM
Ellen Spertus
Thank you!
Thank you so much for uploading the headstone picture for Vernon C. Tindell. It is an important link for our family.

Assuming you took the photo, may I have permission to repost it elsewhere, with credit to you, of course?

Added by Ellen Spertus on Jul 17, 2015 10:56 AM
Robert and Alice Meany Photos
Thank you so much for all your time and trouble in photographing the graves of Robert and Alice Meany, my cousins. It is much appreciated. Thank you for your kindness.
Added by PastorDeb on Jul 17, 2015 9:36 AM
Thomas Gatzman - # 128020642
Once again the two of you have made a significant contribution to my family research. Haven't looked at the Gatzman files lately, but a Find A Grave update request brought me to the cemetery where I found the memorial you created for Thomas Gatzman. Did a quick search and was shocked to find the complete probate record - 147 pages worth. Always read the first few as I save them to my computer, and one had the complete date of death.

So once again I need to thank you for the gift of your time in fulfilling photo requests, and for going the extra mile - or more accurately MILES. Didn't know you could look at the plot map for Modesto Citizens Cemetery, will have to meet the manager next time I visit.
Added by personna on Jul 11, 2015 4:11 PM
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