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Mike B. (#47525629)
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Bio Photo There are over 98,100 souls buried in Oakwood Cemetery in Richmond, Va. and 11,800 Confederate soldiers give or take a 1,000. The picture on the left Is the Confederate section Oakwood Cemetery taken in 1865.



You can destroy them by using any kind of soap, bleach, Ajax. I came across a marble stone over 200 years old a few years ago. I went back and somebody had cleaned it. It was all pitted and the details were almost gone and the stone turned gray. Reason you do not clean them. There are chemicals in all modern cleaning materials. They will eat them away faster than the weather. SO LEAVE THEM ALONE!!! If you can't read them DO A RUBBING with paper and pencil. Post the headstone and the rubbing together. I also found out you can use thin aluminum foil using a soft brush and brush lightly over the letters. Shaving cream has salt in. It gets into the stones pours and cracks.

Cleaning techniques known to damage stone
Bleach or bleach‐like products Household bleach or other oxidizing cleaners, such as Daybreak cleaner or HTH Shock N Swim pool treatment may chemically react with the stone surface and leave soluble salts in the pores of the stone which will lead to decay. Check the label of the cleaner or the Materials Safety Data Sheet (MSDS) for active cleaning ingredients. If the products contain sodium hypochlorite (NaClO), sodium perborate, sodium percarbonate, sodium persulfate, tetrasodium pyrophosphate, calcium hypochlorite or urea peroxide, do not use them for cleaning the headstone. For example, Daybreak cleaner contains 14% sodium hypochlorite and is not recommended.
Strong acids or bases Strong acids, including muriatic acid, hydrochloric acid, or others are too harsh and will dissolve the stone surface. Because they are corrosive, they can also be hazardous to workers. Strong bases, such as concentrated ammonia, sodium hydroxide, calcium hydroxide, potassium hydroxide, or others may be aggressive on the surface of the stone and may be hazardous to workers. Mechanical cleaning: Power tools Harsh mechanical devices such as sand blasting, or power tools such as sanders or drills equipped with a wire brush remove the original material of the grave marker.

I'm starting to see where people are rewriting history to fit there agenda.

F. A. Q. How do I get a relative's memorial transferred to me?
First, Determine if you really need the memorial transferred to you for management. Transferring of management should only be requested If you have extensive changes to make to a memorial. You can add photos and suggest corrections without having to request management. Simply having someone in your family tree is not grounds for a management transfer request. With hundreds of thousands of contributors, we have many overlapping family trees and it would be impossible for all contributors to manage their entire tree. Also, the goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it.
I like to thank you to those who contribute to my memorials for sometimes I forget to say that. Thank You.
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Chuck Schubert
Memorial 79814200
You just left a message on my post that says "79814200' THIS IS FROM THE PATE plot. The subject was "pictures" What are you requesting. Your picture of the tall pillar has a triangle on it with letters. This is a very unusual secret society symbol that I have only seen 2 times in my entire life. The other is located on a wall in Germany. You should take a closer picture of it and post it.
Added by Chuck Schubert on Feb 03, 2016 3:02 PM
Cheryl Washer
Calculated relationships for Norman Jerome Washer
Hi there --

Norman Jerome Washer was my great-grandfather. I'd appreciate it if you could add his daughter, Rosa Lee Smith as a relationship.

PS -- the rest of the family buried in Oakwood is correct - Ella, Mayme, and Edna as children, Catherine as wife.

If you would like additional family information, I can be reached at


Cheryl Washer.
Added by Cheryl Washer on Feb 01, 2016 3:05 PM
Vernon Miller
RE: John Grantham
Thanks Mike for clarifying this for Me
Added by Vernon Miller on Jan 11, 2016 7:41 PM
RE: Nellie Runkle
Thank you so much!
Added by LRobin on Jan 03, 2016 5:08 PM
Thomas B Westbrook
Hi, I am related to this CSA soldier who is buried in the Oakwood Cemetery. I can't thank you enough for adding him to the Find A Grave for this cemetery. If you had not, I'd probably still be looking for him. Is there anyway you can transfer him to me? He is Find A Grave #116498027. Thank you, Jim Martin
Added by JAMartin66 on Dec 28, 2015 3:39 PM
LoRetta Hughes
Memorial update
William Michael Hoke
Memorial #115740187

I have adjusted my memorial for
William. Let me know if it is ok
with you.
Thank You for his actual burial
Added by LoRetta Hughes on Dec 10, 2015 8:11 AM
Philip Warren Rupp
Thank You
Thank You for cemetery stone cleaning technique; am anxious to do so on my Paternal-Great-Great-Grandfather's stone next spring. Sincerely, P.W. Rupp
Added by Philip Warren Rupp on Dec 08, 2015 8:18 PM
Cynthia Scott
Caleb Spratt
the reason I asked you to photo Caleb Spratt is because I photoed his grave in southern Virginia Beach on Knotts Island and when I went to put in find a grave someone else has him in Richmond. Thank you for letting me know he is not in Richmond.
Added by Cynthia Scott on Dec 05, 2015 8:23 AM
Sandra Fisher
RE: Katherine Courtney
It appears he was married twice. Both wives had the name Katherine. His first wife Katherine Thomas Tignor died in 1976 and she is buried next to him. He remarried in in 1977 Katherine Loving Prince. She passed away in 1994. Do you know where she is buried? Since you maintain memorial for Catherine Thomas Tignor Courtney you could delete her incorrect parents and add a bio showing her parents as Thomas Tignor and Violet Stevens as her death certificate shows.
Thank you for all you do for Find A Grave.
Added by Sandra Fisher on Nov 25, 2015 3:27 AM
RE: Cold Harbor names -ODIN-, -ERG
Yes, I agree these are unique and special examples. It will be interesting to see how Find A Grave decides.
Added by Chris on Nov 23, 2015 11:12 PM
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