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Squeak (#47437442)
 member for 4 years, 5 months, 20 days
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Bio Photo UPDATE 2.11.15:

Please be patient as I will try to get to my emails as soon as I can. My father passed away on New Year's Eve and I was gone for a month, so I am a bit behind on things. Thanks for your patience. If you would like to leave flowers on my dad's memorial page, click on my dad's name, David Hernes.


Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow;
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle Autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush,
Of quiet birds in circled flight;
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there, I did not die

~Mary Elizabeth Frye (1932)
Her memorial page is #40647533


Strangers in the Box
by Pamela A. Harazim

Come, look with me inside this drawer,
In this box I've often seen,
At the pictures, black and white,
Faces proud, still, serene.
I wish I knew the people,
These strangers in the box,
Their names and all their memories
Are lost among my socks.
I wonder what their lives were like.
How did they spend their days?
What about their special times?
I'll never know their ways.
If only someone had taken time
To tell who, what, where, when,
These faces of my heritage
Would come to life again.
Could this become the fate
Of the pictures we take today?
The faces and the memories
Someday to be tossed away?
Make time to save your pictures,
Seize the opportunity when it knocks,
Or someday you and yours could be
The strangers in the box.


Behold and see as you pass by
As you are now so once was I
As I am now so must you be
Prepare for death and follow me

(Taken from the headstone of my great-great-great-great-great-great uncle, Josephus Benoni Bellamy, whom died in 1777 at age 16)


The Recording of a Cemetery
by Thelma Greene Reagan

Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where others cried
For Loved Ones whose lives are stilled.
Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.
Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds -
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.
Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hallowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.
Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.
Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.
Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.


The Ancestor

Your tombstone stands among the rest;
Neglected and alone.
The name and date are chiseled out
On polished, marble stone.
It reaches out to all who care
It is too late to mourn.
You did not know that I exist
You died and I was born.
Yet each of us are cells of you
In flesh, in blood, in bone.
Our blood contracts and beats a pulse
Entirely not our own.
Dear Ancestor, the place you filled
One hundred years ago
Spreads out among the ones you left
Who would have loved you so.
I wonder how you lived and loved,
I wonder if you knew
That someday I would find this spot,
And come to visit you.

~ Walter Butler Palmer (1906)
His memorial page is #87759950
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Martha Cook Highley
Thank you so much for locating and photographing the gravesite.

I'm sorry for the loss of your dad. As I daddy's girl, I can only imagine the pain you feel.
Added by Martha Cook Highley on Aug 03, 2015 9:40 AM
John Shuck
RE: East End Cemetery
You are welcome. We have 2 overgrown cemeteries side by side with 2 different owners. For 5 years I worked in the cemetery next to East End, Evergreen Cemetery. It is 60 acres in size. We had an issue with the owner a couple of years ago and so moved to East End which is a more manageable 16 acres in size and not all of it suitable for burial. There is a lot more politics involved in cemeteries than I would have every guessed. John
Added by John Shuck on Aug 01, 2015 5:58 PM
D&A Parnigoni
RE: Parnigoni family - Holy Cross Cemetery, Colma, CA
Hi Squeak!

We keep asking ourselves, what are the odds we'd meet a photographer from find a grave when we were walking around the cemetery?? It was so much fun and we really appreciated your help.

We went to the cemetery office and they were actually very nice and helpful. You were correct and both John and his wife were buried in the large mosoleum. We took a picture of their crypts but unfortunately they were on the 7th level (all the way at the top) so we couldn't get a good photo. The map they gave us of the mosoleum was very helpful. It might also be a help to you. I don't know how to upload it to this message but I'll post it on John's site so you can use it if it's helpful.

Thanks again for taking the time to help us last weekend. It was very helpful and added to the fun! If you ever need help with cemetery plot info or photos in CT, just let me know - I'd be happy to help!

Added by D&A Parnigoni on Aug 01, 2015 12:31 PM
Peter Garrity
Thank you so much. I really appreciate the photos and the information on the other members of his family.
Added by MottGene on Aug 01, 2015 11:18 AM
Susan Bellon
John J Whalen
So excited to find the photo! Don't know if it was just a typo, but headstone says he died in 1935 and it was typd in as 1965.
Added by Susan Bellon on Jul 31, 2015 5:10 PM
RE: Joseph Castillo photo request/questions, Holy Cross Cemetery, Colma, CA
You're fantastic! This is my first day registered with this website and now, thanks to your kind efforts, I can't wait to help someone in my area.

I did know that there are many cemeteries in Colma, I have other relatives from the other side of my family in some of those, I only hoped to find more Castillos buried near Joseph (unfortunately I believe they were farm workers at this time and probably moved around a lot).

Thank you for taking time out of your day to help me!
Added by Saffy on Jul 30, 2015 6:34 PM
RE: Thank you! (Ada Sturdivant)
Yes:) and to confuse things further, Ada Ledden (maiden name Ledden) first married Charles T Ledden (same surname with 5 children born to them) and then married our Joseph Hutchinson Sturdivant. Family history work sure can be a challenge... a FUN challenge! :)

And thanks for your links! I'll investigate! and I did see your comment to the Mattingly family! A LOT of info to take in.... a lot of FUN info!!!!! Thank you!!!!!!

Added by MK O on Jul 30, 2015 1:50 PM
Thank you!
Squeak! You've done it again! The notes you've included (with the photo of the Mattingly headstone ref: Ada Ledden) are intriguing! It'll take some time to figure out all the relationships, but without your contribution, how would we have known about the prospective relationships! Thank you!!!!!!
Added by MK O on Jul 30, 2015 1:17 PM
Barbara Hoblit
Thank you
Thank you for the photo. Sad that all of those graves are unmarked :(
Added by Barbara Hoblit on Jul 30, 2015 6:40 AM
William Mattingly
RE: Richard and Sara Mattingly, Holy Cross Cemetery, Colma, CA
This cowboy and I have never really known each other, nor is he a friendly subscriber. I knew his memorial was in the wrong cemetery but didn't want to create a duplicate and he won't return messages or make corrections. A few years ago he was barred from findagrave for reasons unknown to me. Doesn't look like he is now.
Added by William Mattingly on Jul 30, 2015 3:10 AM
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