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Michelle Cooley (#47154454)
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We Are The Chosen

My feelings are in each family we are called to find the ancestors.
To put flesh on their bones and make them live again,
To tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve.
To me, doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead,
Breathing life into all who have gone before.

We are the story tellers of the tribe.
We have been called as it were by our genes.
Those who have gone before cry out to us:
Tell our story.
So, we do.
In finding them, we somehow find ourselves.

How many graves have I stood before now and cried?
I have lost count.

How many times have I told the ancestors
you have a wonderful family, you would be proud of us?

How many times have I walked up to a grave
and felt somehow there was love there for me?
I cannot say.

It goes beyond just documenting facts.
It goes to who I am and why I do the things I do?
It goes to seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever
to weeds and indifference and saying I can't let this happen.
The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh.

It goes to doing something about it.
It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish.
How they contributed to what we are today.
It goes to respecting their hardships and losses,
their never giving in or giving up.

Their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family.
It goes to deep pride that they fought to make and keep us a Nation.
It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us
That we might be born who we are.
That we might remember them.
So we do.
With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence,
Because we are them and they are us.
So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family.

It is up to that one called in the next generation,
To answer the call and take their place in the long line of family storytellers.
That is why I do my family genealogy,
And that is what calls those young and old to step up and put flesh on the bones.

[Author: Della M. Cumming ca 1943.]
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Woodlawn = Canandaigua

Cooley Dean O. b 6-1888 d 10-10-1889 Canandaigua SECT -5 Lot-260EH Burial date 10-12-1889

If you are going to manage them all at least get them right.
Added by crazycassie283 on Mar 27, 2014 4:07 PM
Janice Tirrell
Ann Frances Warfield
Michelle, Thank you so much for all your help and research, and for updating 'Fanny's' memorial. (I had no idea the town records were in such a mess.) She is my 4th cousin 4X removed and it was confusing trying to straighten out the family. Another set of eyes always helps resolve problems. Thank you again for all your help. You are a blessing.
Added by Janice Tirrell on Mar 23, 2014 9:40 AM
James Bianco
I could not help but read the lengthy reply on your wall regarding duplicates. Find a Grave is clear on this issue, the first memorial created in the correct cemetery is the permanent memorial. This is a burial registration site, not an individual registration site. As I go and photograph/transcribe some of the more remote cemteries I discover many people where it was not known what became of them. Occasionally someone will move a memorial into that cemetery and claim mine a duplicate. In fact they have created a duplicate if they will not remove it, Find a grave will either remove theirs or merge it into the one I have created. Standard Find A Grave policy.
Added by James Bianco on Mar 16, 2014 6:22 PM
James Bianco
John Preston
Have you seen the beautiful memorial created for John Preston?

Find A Grave Memorial# 17802747
Added by James Bianco on Mar 16, 2014 5:44 PM
James Bianco
John Preston
It is difficult to know which stones/graves were actually moved, apart from those still standing in Evergreen. In this case, however, as a token memory of the old Burial Ground, John Preston's stone (and grave naturally) was left on the spot where the cemetery once stood. According to the 1944 transcript "This stone is located back of the Gaylord Library, by a spruce tree, where the Old Cemetery used to be."

Perhaps it is still there.
Added by James Bianco on Mar 10, 2014 12:26 PM
Cooley - Calvary
Hi Michelle,

Would you please transfer the 4 Cooleys in Calvary cemetery, Canandaigua over to me. They are my father's parents and siblings.

thank you
Added by crazycassie283 on Feb 09, 2014 8:00 PM
First burial Place
Michelle, Thank you so much for creating this wonderful memorial! Fascinating information. Great work.
Added by Theresa on Jan 25, 2014 11:03 AM
Albert Cooley
RE: Cooley Line
Thanks for the feed back. I dug up the Benjamin and Mary Bliss names the other night but still have to piece things together. I don't know Ester's maiden name. That is still under search. I have not created a tree in Ancestry since I am relatively new to this and have been overwhelmed with what information is suddenly available to me. I would like to keep your offer of assistance open for the future. You have been more than helpful. One question I have is what was the source of your information on the Cambria Cemetery post that listed Oroson's second wife as Mary Susan French? That is information the Cooley family has been wondering about for a long time.
Added by Albert Cooley on Jan 24, 2014 6:48 PM
Albert Cooley
RE: Cooley Line
The information I have I obtained on Ancestry from a tree of the family of Chester and Emily Childs Poole. From it I got back as far as Barnes Cooley and wife Eleanor Sloan Cooley. That's it I assume you are going back farther and does the last Benjamin on your list correspond to Ensign Benjamin Cooley who I think was the ancestor of most Cooley's in America?
My email is
Added by Albert Cooley on Jan 20, 2014 7:02 PM
Mark Peebles

Look up my page (profile) and type in Cooley as there are 25 in four different cemeteries I have done.

Added by Mark Peebles on Jan 20, 2014 12:05 AM
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