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Janet Muff (#46951416)
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Bio Photo Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference."
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If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
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Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
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OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
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Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
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But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
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Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
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And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
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PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
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Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
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Kathy Brown
Roswell Parker
Would like your permission to use photos for Roswell Parker who is my husband's fourth GGrandfather. Thank you in advance. Kathy Brown mlfamilytree@yahoo.com
Added by Kathy Brown on Nov 12, 2014 12:37 PM
Beverly Smith Leach
Abner Blackmar
Would like your permission to copy gravestone picture of Abner Blackmar 1764-1825 in Read Cemetery to my ancestry.com family tree. He is there by virtue of marrying a relative in the distant past. Loved reading your "Dutch Uncle" dissertation, think you made your points clear. You did not mention snakes in cemeteries. You are brave.
Beverly Smith Leach
Corpus Christi, TX
Added by Beverly Smith Leach on Nov 10, 2014 8:43 AM
Beverly Smith Leach
Abner Blackmar
Would like your permission to copy gravestone picture of Abner Blackmar 1764-1825 in Read Cemetery to my ancestry.com family tree. He is there by virtue of marrying a relative in the distant past. Loved reading your "Dutch Uncle" dissertation, think you made your points clear. You did not mention snakes in cemeteries. You are brave.
Beverly Smith Leach
Corpus Christi, TX
Added by Beverly Smith Leach on Nov 10, 2014 8:43 AM
Grave Finder
RE: John Newton Whipple
Awesome thanks!
Added by Grave Finder on Nov 09, 2014 11:21 AM
Josie
Theron Streeter
Thank you so much for the research you did on the gravestone for Theron Streeter. Knowing where he isn't is almost as important as knowing where he is! Now I know he isn't there, and will continue to look elsewhere for him. I know that kind of research takes time and I appreciate your efforts. Thank you for all you do for Findagrave - Diane (Josie)
Added by Josie on Nov 02, 2014 11:55 AM
KRR
Altheah Rumsey
Dear Janet,

Thank you once again friend for giving me a gift of your wonderful pictures. I know this one was difficult because it was much neglected and hard to find. It truly means a lot to me as it is always proof that someone before us was here briefly on this earth and left their mark.

Sorry I didn't thank you earlier but I was not notified.

Thank you so much.
Kathy
Added by KRR on Oct 30, 2014 3:22 PM
Sabina
Converse Trask
Janet, thanks for the excellent photo! Happy Trails...
Added by Sabina on Oct 21, 2014 6:49 AM
SG
White Family Photos
Thank you Janet for taking these great photos in such a timely manner. I also want to thank you for all the work you have done for Find A Grave! Keep up the good work!

Cheers,
Sylvia
Added by SG on Oct 20, 2014 11:56 AM
David Southwick
Spouce for Josiah Southwick
Hi Janet, Thank you for your work photographing the markers and entering the family information. A question though. How did you link Josiah with Rachael Brown? I have him married to Mary Baker. Of course my information could be wrong. Just courious. Thank you for making me aware of the guidelines for the photos, my first day on the site and already stepping on peoples toes. I am a descendant of Lawrence and Cassandra Southwick through their son John, same line as Josiah.

Thanks,
David E. Southwick
Added by David Southwick on Oct 19, 2014 9:59 PM
Bushnell
RE: Doty Cemetery - Holden Burials
Thanks for the pics. They enabled me to enter the headstone inscriptions except for Jonas Holden since his Rev War marker blocks it.
thanks again!
Added by Bushnell on Oct 14, 2014 7:05 PM
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