|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine.
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Barb Destromp, Brent Benson, Bruce Scott, Carol Page Tils..., Clint Dunn, George Falk, J.K.Erickson, Jen Snoots, John Arsenault, Laura Stevers/ ..., Marilyn Solari, Michael Buye, Rebecca Bromley..., Steven Smith
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|Peg Stewart||Polly Curtis|
In response to your recent message stating you did not understand my request for a change:
I am trying to determine the maiden name for Aaron Curtis' first wife, Polly.
I was trying to make a distinction that Curtis
was her married name -- NOT her birth name.
And I guess, it can only be done if both names are known.
Thank you very much for your effort to put these family members of mine on Find-A-Grave. It is a godsend for me (I live in northern California)) to find them here, so well documented.
Again, Thank you for your wonderful contribution!
|Nadeen Sobottka||Sarah Doolittle @ Mound Cem., Racine, WI|
Hi Janet, just wanted to let you know that I've added a tombstone picture to your memorial for Sarah Doolittle. Regards, Nadeen
|mozilla976||John J. Nelson|
Question: You have John J. Nelson listed as son of John Rogers Nelson and Jane McCarter. I'm having trouble proving this relationship - would you please tell me where you got your information that they are parents/son? Anything would be greatly appreciated!
|Julie||Deacon Mathew Barber and Hannah Barber|
Would you be willing to take a picture of Deacon Mathew Barber and Hannah Barbers Tombstones in the same photo? I don't think they are side by side, So it would be nice to see how they really are in the cemetery.
Would you also be willing to take a picture of the whole cemetery without the sign? I would like to see where Deacon Mathew Barber and Hannah Barber are compared to Rev. Dan Kent.
I would appreciate it so much!
I have been there, but it was dark and I could not get photos.
Thank you so much!
I love Benson! It is a nice little town!
Added by Julie on Jan 15, 2017 2:35 PM
|Agard-Wallace64||RE: Mary Jane (May) Winslow|
You're Welcome. Mary Jane is my 4th Great Aunt.
|john komar||RE: Erlonzo Mansfield|
Thanks for the info Janet.
|James Jewett||RE: Find A Grave Memorial# 50629123|
Thanks Janet, if you magnify the death certificate you will see 25 Nov 1895. I want to say, I have made dozens of corrections on Find A Grave and you are the first to question them, and I mention that as a complement.
|Susan Gates Davis||RE: Helena Ray Memorial# 28390918|
Commercial Advertiser, Canton, NY, May 2, 1933, Page 8:
Miss Helena Reed and Mr. Gilbert Roy were married by Prof. Morrell Tuesday evening. They were attended by Mr. Wiltz Teal and Miss Dorothy Woods.
The Tribune-Press, Gouverneur, NY, January 28, 1970, Page 6, Sec. 1:
MRS. HELENA RAY
The funeral for Mrs. Helena Marion Ray, 58, Russell, will be held today (Wednesday) at 2 p.m. at the family home, East Road, with the Rev. Stanley C. Vollmer, pastor of the United Methodist Church, officiating. Burial will be in North Russell cemetery.
Mrs. Ray, wife of Gilbert F. Ray, died at her home Sunday morning. She had been disabled for years.
Surviving besides her husband are three daughters, Mrs. Robert (Harriette) Kinney, South Russell, Mrs. Lewis (Charlotte) O'Shew and Mrs. Alton (Linda) Guyette, North Russell; one sister, Mrs. Ceylon (Celia) Tousley, Canton, three brothers, Halstead Reed, Leo Reed and James Reed, all of Russell, and seven grand-children.
She was born Aug. 19, 1911 in the town of Russell a daughtr of Archie F. and Estelle L. Clark Reed. She attended Russell schools and was married to Gilbert Ray April 25, 1933 at Canton with the Rev. H. Philbrook Morrell officiating.
|James Jewett||Find A Grave Memorial# 50629123|
Hi Janet, not sure what the conflict is with the birth date for Leon Hadaway. I have not found a birth record. WWI and SS give birth as 25 Nov 1895 and WWII gives birth year as 25 Nov 1897. If I don't understand what the question is, my email Jsjewett@comcast.net , Jim Jewett
|john komar||Erlonzo Mansfield|
Janet could you tell me where you got the dates for his stone.
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