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RCG (#47255907)
 member for 5 years, 5 months, 19 days
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Bio Photo A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole. Then it stopped, as if it couldn't go further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon. The butterfly emerged easily but it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch it, expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge and expand enough to support the body, Neither happened! In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around.

It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand: The restricting cocoon and the struggle required by the butterfly to get through the opening was a way of forcing the fluid from the body into the wings so that it would be ready for flight once that was achieved.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us. We will not be as strong as we could have been and we would never fly.

So have a nice day and struggle a little and teach well.

Author Unknown

I didn't know what to put here, I like this little story, so I thought I would share it.
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Toni Helvey Schlaefli
RE: Sutton memorials
you are very welcome.. glad i could help
Added by Toni Helvey Schlaefli on Sep 01, 2015 7:24 PM
RE: Sutton - Noyes
Hi Ron,

Glad to have helped!
I am on Hughes net, but their smallest package. When the Fed. program came out to attempt to get rural Vt connected they offered what at that time was a cheaper service if you had proof you had no other option for internet.
I had considered bumping up the package but when I did a speed test for what we were paying for now it showed we were not even getting the advertised speed. So no need to bump it up.

I have also made a compromise in resolution size. When I first started Find A Grave the max size was about 3, now I think it is 8. When I did the smaller sizes I kept getting requests for higher sizes. So, I hang out at about 3-4. Seems to keep everyone happy enough.

Someday maybe technology will creep on out to rural Vermont. Or I will get sick of rural Vt and move into society.

Added by Anne on Aug 28, 2015 7:23 AM
RE: Albert E Damon
I see have transferred the listing to that cemetery - it already exists. I'd recommend that you submit edits to the existing one and delete your listing as it is a duplicate.
Added by MNaber on Aug 26, 2015 5:30 PM
RE: Sutton - Noyes
Hi Ron,

I can sympathize with you in regards to getting edits and transfers done. It can be frustrating and time consuming. I can say that the Laura and Nate that have the original Etta have always been right on top of any edits I send them. In my time on Find A Grave I have encountered more members that are as involved as me than those that are MIA.

Multiple memorials do however present many issues. One not withstanding is trying to fill photo requests. I tend to follow the rule of placing the photos on the oldest memorial. I have had times when I added it to the duplicate as requested and then that gets deleted and I then have to add the photo again. (As you see in my profile picture that can be a real time consuming issue for me)

Linking is another huge issue that messes a lot of things up. With your linking of Charles Hitchcock I now have on my memorial for him two Etta's as I already had them linked.

As I said, I understand your gripes. However, my view is that it creates more of a problem than it resolves. Any edit you send to the memorial holder does get done, either by the holder or find a grave.(if it is not done in 21 days by holder Find a Grave does it automatically)

It can all make your head spin some days.

Added by Anne on Aug 26, 2015 3:59 PM
RE: Sutton - Noyes
Hi Ron,

Please, there is no need to apologize for messages. I am more than happy to help.

I have some good news...and some bad news...

The bad news (figured you would want that first)
Your memorials for for Etta, Reginald and Charles are all duplicates of existing memorials)

The good news is that there are photos already added to the other memorials.

Might I suggest that you do a search of the cemetery prior to adding your memorials.

Added by Anne on Aug 26, 2015 2:17 PM
RE: Webster, Carson, Dresser and Sutton
You are more than welcome!
BTW I LOVE your profile message! I had never seen that before, very glad you shared it.

Added by Anne on Aug 24, 2015 1:15 PM
RE: Minnie Baldwin
I found her in the 1930 census in Manchester, at least what looks like her as father was born in Vermont. Since she died later that year, it looks like she never married. Also found her in 1901 Quebec census with her father, again unmarried. Does that help?
Added by Airrow on Aug 24, 2015 10:59 AM
Minnie Baldwin
Her memorial is 151148297.
Added by Airrow on Aug 24, 2015 10:00 AM
RE: Sutton corrections
Minnie Baldwin . . . let me know if I need to look up the memorial number, I have to add a second screen to see that one, LOL.
Added by Airrow on Aug 24, 2015 9:56 AM
JR Blain
RE: Tacy Caroline Sutton corrections
Thank you for the updates.

Added by JR Blain on Aug 20, 2015 2:52 PM
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