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CryptoGram (#46897564)
 member for 9 years, 4 months, 12 days
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

The words above are thought to be based on a eulogy Queen Elizabeth made for her sister Princess Margaret.

RE: erroneous memorials in Santa Fe National Cemetery ~ ALL people buried in ALL National Cemeteries are findable at VetGravesLocator

I don't make more than a couple memorials a day on average, but have done research into the families of lots of them...same for many whose pictures I post...making me gladly able to help with most anyone's ancestral brick walls however I can.

As the activity on FindAGrave increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? ˝-LOL and go figure.

When the picture "request" function first started, pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed. Back then there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Us'uns who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I've encountered snakes, dogs, & Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter.

Some might think others of us are too possessive about pictures we take/post, but you probably haven't encountered a self-aggrandizer who deletes memorials after lifting the pictures others added to them and then remakes memorials with same pictures claimed as their own. As on any real city block, not everything is hunky-dory here; and not all the neighbors are nice. It takes just one rotten apple plus a few manipulators, stalkers, and green-eyed game players...especially the ones who post wrong poor-quality pictures on purpose, change names &/or places of burial to make originals look like duplicates, &/or put deaths willy-nilly into incorrect cemeteries just to inflate their "contributions" and then get huffy & vindictive when others notice the obvious, require the rest of us in the barrel to ignore the inappropriate comedy of their intentional errors.

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >>The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.<<

Sad to have to point out that I have posted NO pictures on, but some members there and elsewhere online lifted pictures I DID add to FindAGrave ~ ESPECIALLY of KINFOLK ~ & reposted them as their own with no credit given. When you see a picture on identical to one I've added to FaG, mine is the original; if included posting dates, I would not have to explain this. It's also quite silly that when I/others have made family trees there from personal information, they're noted as having no sources, but then when others copy same, their "source" is US!

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including "© FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

Why I got on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died from the effects of Agent Blue (used along with Agent Orange in Vietnam) while my husband was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors: at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my Swedish "hanky-panky in the palace" & Scottish Robert the Bruce people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My head-smacks in research are people assumed to be kids of step-parents when the bio-parent (usually mother) died too young & seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly called "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of restoring ladies' kids &/or maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have just ONE nee name in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up.

May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(sung by Bobby Goldsboro in 1970...when he & God were watching Scotty grow)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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Onnolee Stone
Thank you for the photo! It's sad to see her resting place reduced to what it is, but now that I know, I can work on fixing it. Thanks again!

Added by LVPennGen on Jul 22, 2016 12:29 PM
Marjorie Kulba
RE: Cookie'sPiano
Hi again! Thanks for the information about Emma Reis. I was wondering if you could contact me at my email address? I had a couple of questions about Emma that I didn't want to post on the public page. thank you in advance!
Added by Marjorie Kulba on Jul 20, 2016 6:55 PM
Rosemary Millar
Guy Ingalls
Thank you for the 2 photos of the Family plot and of Guy's marker.
I was hoping I'd be able to read a date of death on it, but no such luck.
Thanks so much for your efforts. They are greatly appreciated.
Added by Rosemary Millar on Jul 20, 2016 5:46 PM
Laura Majors
Patience Slocum
Thank you so much for your help with information regarding my ancestor.
Added by Laura Majors on Jul 19, 2016 11:13 AM
Marjorie Kulba
Emma Reis
Thank you for the information. I was wondering if you can message me at I had a couple more questions I wanted to ask you, if possible. Thank you very much!
Added by Marjorie Kulba on Jul 18, 2016 6:56 PM
Samuel and Mary Wildrick memorials
Thank you so much for the detailed photos you added to these memorials. What you do means so much to extended family.
Added by SMPowell on Jul 17, 2016 8:28 PM
Marjorie Kulba
Emma Reis
Hello. I noticed you had left a comment on the site for Emma Reis. Ms. Reis was my biological great-grandmother. She had a daughter named Doris Lucille McQueen, my grandmother, with a man she was married to for a brief time by the name of Omer McQueen. My grandmother was raised by a sister of Emma's. Lyle was technically Emma's third husband. I am attempting to obtain information about her as a person, since I never met her in life. For instance, I saw that she had the nickname of "cookie". I was just wondering if you could speak to that and your memories of her, since I have none. Thank you in advance for your assistance.
Added by Marjorie Kulba on Jul 17, 2016 12:44 PM
Jeremiah and Eva A. Folts
thank you so much for the great photos of their stone. I do the same when I visit a cemetery and when I discover a request nearby.
Added by Tom on Jul 17, 2016 4:06 AM
Many thanks for the SCHUBERT/JACOBSEN photos--much appreciated!

Added by Mary on Jul 16, 2016 4:38 AM
Pamela Thompson
Gravestone Photo Permission
Thank you for photographing the gravestone of Charles Halford in Wildwood Cemetery (Memorial# 158884961). I appreciate it.

I would like to add this gravestone photo to the non-profit Alford American Family Association's collection of New York Obituaries, where his obituary is (or will be) included. You can see the current collection at

May I have your permission to include your gravestone photos? If so, the photo caption will say:

Photo from [cemetery name, city, county, state]—
Permission granted by the photographer, CryptoGram [or your name if you prefer]

And thanks so much for your gravestone photo work!

Best regards,
Pamela Alford Thompson (Find A Grave #47195155)
Obituaries Project Manager, Alford American Family Association

Added by Pamela Thompson on Jul 15, 2016 4:25 PM
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