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Tim & Grace (#46907821)
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Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
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Stowell's in Paris,Maine
Thanks for all the edits you did for me regarding the Stowell's.Elias and Polly are my 4th Great Grandparents.I see that you are related through the Hersey line.Thanks again for all the hard work you have done.
Chuck McDonald
Added by Chuck on Apr 18, 2014 11:02 AM
Connie Lagasse Russell
Arnold Meager
could you please add a copy of the tomb stone from Arnold Meager on to my memorial 124047347..thanks
Added by Connie Lagasse Russell on Apr 11, 2014 8:02 PM
Kathy Manning
Allie Coxen
Hi Tim,

I've received your edit suggestions of Allie. However, her marker in the cemetery clearly shows her DOD as 19 Mar - not 9 Mar. Do you have documentation to support the change? Also, you're proposing changing her from Allie to Alice however the documentation I have for her shows the spelling as Alys if that indeed is her name.

I would also ask what documentation you have for the other changes you're proposing for both Allie and Sarah.

Added by Kathy Manning on Apr 10, 2014 6:35 PM
Frank Hatch # 93974906
Many thanks for the transfer. I've filled in some of his story if you're interested. Regards.
Added by DaurRegt on Apr 10, 2014 1:11 AM
Kathy Manning
RE: Your great grandmother married a Durgin
We descend from Joseph P. Durgin who married Hannah Adams. Their son Joseph A married Clementine Sands (twin to Rebecca who married 2 Holden brothers from Jackman).

The Durgin Cemetery is like "home" for me. My mother adored Clem as she lived with them after Edna Burns Marshall left when the girls were young. My brothers, Chuck and Steve, as you saw, are both buried there as well. No, they are/were not twins. They were only 14 months apart though. Both appear to have died of something genetic at fairly early ages.

Thanks for the contact. I have spent many hours in the cemeteries in Moscow and others in Somerset County. My living Grandmother (second wife of Betrand) lives in Waterville so we visit at least once a year. :)

Added by Kathy Manning on Apr 08, 2014 3:55 PM
Kathy Manning
RE: Hannah Bates Adams, wife of Joseph Patten Durgin
OK - Found it in my e-mail and took care of it. It didn't come through as an edit, it came through as a note from you.

I'm presuming you're related to the Adams family? My ggrandmother married a Durgin. :)

Thanks for the info.

Added by Kathy Manning on Apr 07, 2014 9:01 AM
Kathy Manning
RE: Hannah Bates Adams, wife of Joseph Patten Durgin

I went into Edits and Hannah wasn't there for me to approve. There was another one that I took care of.
Added by Kathy Manning on Apr 07, 2014 8:50 AM
Kathy Manning
RE: Hannah Bates Adams, wife of Joseph Patten Durgin
Hi Tim,

Sorry. I haven't been on the computer much lately. I had some issues. I'll get right on this.

Sorry for the delay.
Added by Kathy Manning on Apr 07, 2014 8:48 AM
Glenn Simmons
Sarah (Hall) Williams
Sorry, I see you transferred ownership:

Maintained by: In Memory
Originally Created by: Tim & Grace
Record added: Feb 05, 2010
Find A Grave Memorial# 47601509

Westbrook Street Cemetery
South Thomaston
Knox County
Maine, USA
Added by Glenn Simmons on Apr 06, 2014 2:55 PM
Glenn Simmons
Sarah Hall Williams
b. 1806 So. Thomaston, Knox, Maine. Do you know who her parents were?
Added by Glenn Simmons on Apr 06, 2014 4:51 AM
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