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Janet Muff (#46951416)
 member for 8 years, 10 months, 17 days
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Bio Photo Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference."
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine.
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David Harrison
Hannah Ingraham Martin Woodard
Amazed no credit or thanks for correcting your sites with incorrect information for 8 years.
How many where mislead from careless research.
Added by David Harrison on Sep 20, 2016 6:04 AM
Mary Lou McCormick
Katherine Spicer (1746-1802)
Hi Janet,
Received your edits for Katherine and want to explain why I need to decline them, the photos attached to this memorial are not for Katherine.

Here is the link I have for some information on Katherine, I believe that I have the wrong date of death for her and need to do more research.

I will ask Jen to remove the photos from this memorial. Thank you very much for your edits. I see that I can't ask Jen as she has no link.
Added by Mary Lou McCormick on Sep 19, 2016 4:00 PM
Ross Adam Wood Sr.
RE: Laura (Olin) White
I extrapolated from the census. In 1910 she was living in Hamburg. In 1920 she moved to Buffalo to live with one of her children. With her advanced age it makes sense she wasn't going to move again. The same child is living in Buffalo in 1925. If you require a death certificate for proof then I suggest you leave it as is.


Ross Wood
Added by Ross Adam Wood Sr. on Sep 13, 2016 12:45 PM
David Greer
RE: Vera Vose
Whoops. Found her (Margaret Jenks) on the internet.
Thanks again,
Added by David Greer on Sep 12, 2016 4:32 PM
David Greer
RE: Vera Vose
Thanks for checking.
I've never heard of the "Jenks transcriptions". Where can I find this?
David Greer
Added by David Greer on Sep 12, 2016 4:23 PM
Patty Murphy
RE: Ellen A Lee Wallace Bragg
Janet, yes John and Ellen had only one child, Francis Albert "Frank" Wallace. Lena is from her second marriage to Eugene Bragg. Ellen had a total of two children. Francis and Lena are half siblings, connected by Ellen.
Hope this helps.
Added by Patty Murphy on Sep 12, 2016 3:59 PM
Patty Murphy
Ellen A Lee Wallace Bragg
Find a grave memorial # 103170516
Hi Janet, Could you please add a son to Ellen's children on her Find A Grave site? His name is Francis Albert (Frank) Wallace,1877-1949, child of Ellen Lee and John Wallace.I have yet to find their marriage record.
Francis is my son's 2nd Gt Grandfather.
Many thanks
Patty Murphy
Added by Patty Murphy on Sep 12, 2016 7:56 AM
David Greer
RE: Vera Vose
Thanks for catching that typo and for making the other edits and adding the photo to the Charles E. Vose memorial. Just wish I could find Vera's mother's, Sarah J. Tapper Vose's, gravestone. She died sometime between 1880 and 1895.
David Greer
Added by David Greer on Sep 06, 2016 12:03 PM
Kenneth Bersinger
RE: Henry D. Tuttle
I noticed that after I sent the message but I couldn't remember how to delete it. My apologies.
Added by Kenneth Bersinger on Sep 03, 2016 8:35 PM
M. R. Clark
RE: Mary (Fitch) Andrus
I have seen others who have written that they feel the same way. I can understand that, but it also helps to connect family members and give a more complete listing.

Thank you for sending me your reasoning.
Added by M. R. Clark on Sep 01, 2016 6:15 PM
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