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Janet Muff (#46951416)
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Bio Photo Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference."
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
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Philbrook Barrows
Hi, I was advised that Philbrook Barrows grave had been photographed but I can'fined the new photo's of his grave. he was born in 1754 and served in the American Revolution. I am a 4th great grandson. Thanks Carl Hanley
Added by Carl on Oct 01, 2014 1:35 PM
Alan Lathrop
RE: Rosa Baslow
Good morning Jan,
I have played with that family some and too many questions. Rosilla (Rose, Rosa) is in the vital records as born to John and no mother listed.
I was given the mother's name as Veronica before from a cousin but never found who that was. Some records have Sarah and some Avandice LeHerin or LeHeris. I have thought that there may be another John but that never worked out for me either. I have found many spellings for Baslow, Bassalow, Barslow etc.
Those darn Frenchmen are so confusing, eh.
Added by Alan Lathrop on Oct 01, 2014 8:49 AM
Brent Benson
Gravestone Pictures

Is It Ok That I Use Any Pictures U Have Taken For My Family Tree I Will Put In The Caption Piture Taken By Janet Muff If Thats Ok

Thank You
Brent Benson
Added by Brent Benson on Sep 30, 2014 6:27 AM
Brent Benson
RE: Photo
My Mom Has A Photo OF Just Daniel Pillsbury Fales. So I Guess She Thought That Might Be Him And Louisa Or His Secound Wife.
Added by Brent Benson on Sep 30, 2014 12:47 AM
Brent Benson
RE: Daniel Pillsbury Fales
janet muff

i have a picture my mom sent me in a email and i though it was daniel pillsbury fales but the picture was taken in albany new york its a guy and a woman any way of finding out who it my mother has a bunch of information on her side of the family a briefcase full of papers and documents that my grandma had done when she was alive she got pics of stone, people and birth and death documents......she got a picture of wilbert and william martin also i will let you know when she sends it all to me cause she told me she will i will also see if she can scan wilbert and williams pic for me.....if you would like to see that old picture let me know and i will email it to you

thank you brent
Added by Brent Benson on Sep 29, 2014 8:31 PM
Brent Benson
RE: Daniel Pillsbury Fales
my mother has a picture of him that i will be posting soon she just has to find it
Added by Brent Benson on Sep 29, 2014 10:13 AM
Brent Benson
RE: Daniel Pillsbury Fales
i talked to my mom today and asked her about daniel pillsbury she said that the reason why he would have died in south dakota is because he left his family and moved there his wife had him legaly declared dead and 7 years after that he died.
Added by Brent Benson on Sep 27, 2014 8:43 PM
Ann Parkinson
THANK YOU!!!! You have helped immensely!!!
Added by Ann Parkinson on Sep 27, 2014 6:51 PM
Teriesa Hinkle Tauber
Isaac Meacham #111260555
I'm pretty sure that one of Isaac children Rosetta Rosina is my ancestor. Can you tell me where you got this information? I want to confirm her husband is Silas Tupper Jr.

Wonderful job, if I make this connection, you have helped me on a new Meacham trail.

Teriesa Tauber
Colwich, Kansas
Added by Teriesa Hinkle Tauber on Sep 26, 2014 8:24 AM
Alan Lathrop
RE: Mary Barton
OK Mary is entered. I don't find much on her yet but will work on it when I get a clear head,
Added by Alan Lathrop on Sep 21, 2014 8:15 PM
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