|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine.
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|MSue||RE: Caleb Broskins|
I am going to change the name to Brookins and then add the Broskins name in the bio. I would enter both names in the last name box but not sure if the search engine would need both names to find the person.
Added by MSue on Feb 11, 2016 5:48 AM
I only transcribed cemetery records from Painted Hills Genealogy Society.
The listing on both sites might be incorrect but only a picture or original cemetery book would resolve the question.
Added by MSue on Feb 08, 2016 8:03 PM
|Donna ||ELiza Hill Leonard|
Thank you Janet for making the edits. It is truly appreciated. When I come across the record, I will certainly share it with you.
Thanks again for all you do.
Added by Donna on Feb 07, 2016 8:18 PM
|Sara||RE: Gideon Dimmuck|
Thanks so much...if I find anything else..or a marriage VR..I'll let you know.
Added by Sara on Feb 07, 2016 6:24 PM
|Sara||RE: Gideon Dimmuck|
Well..having a little difficulty finding an exact Vermont VR for their marriage!!
1. I did find on Ancestry a death certificate for Eaton Dimmick...their son....from 1895. It states his father's name is Gideon and the mother's first name and maiden name is Parmelia Woodcock.
2. I also found a Permelia Dimick birthdate 25 January 1828..only father's name Gideon Dimick.
3. Also on Permelia Pratt's memorial page it states that her first husband was Gideon Dimick before she married Liberty Pratt...and Electa (the child listed) has the maiden name of Dimick.
4. I use Steve Dimick's website for all Dimick info which states that Gideon/Permelia Woodcock were married and after his death, she married Liberty Pratt...although there are some mistakes on this website.
5. Various family type trees on the internet state that Gideon Dimick and Permelia Woodcock were married.
None of these are proof positive that it's true but a compilation of various sources that state the same thing...but perhaps they are incorrect.
If you are still reluctant to link them...maybe would you put a note on his memorial page stating who (perhaps) is his wife and that it has not been verified with a VR.
Thanks so much and sorry that I had you spending time looking for a VR that's not there,
Added by Sara on Feb 07, 2016 3:39 PM
|Donna ||RE: Eliza Hill|
Thank you Janet for your response and for all you do. I am a direct descendant of Eliza and Elizabeth's brother, Phineas Hill. I understand your request for sources.
The 1820 Rutland County, Vermont census indicates that Nathaniel and Diantha had two females under the age of 10 yrs old (which would be Eliza b. 1815 and Elizabeth b. 1818 - who went by Betsey.)
Eliza and Betsey were two different people and the first two daughters. The next daughter was Emily b 1821 and she died in Augusta, GA in 1865. Elizabeth or Betsey md Solomon L Bassford in 1837 - they lived in Augusta, GA. He died in 1853 in Augusta. She married again to Alymer Usher in 1857 in Augusta - he died in 1862. She died in 1885 and I have both their funeral notices. There are extensive newspaper articles regarding the Hills and Bassfords in Augusta, GA. Elizabeth's funeral notice includes her brother, Marson Edgerton Hill's name.
Elizabeth (Betsey) Harmon Hill's g-grandson, Stanley V. Burnside, along with his nephew, William Burnside Forney, who died in 1998, passed family records down through the family, which listed Eliza as Elizabeth's sister and included her birth and death and her marriage. These records came from the granddaughter of Elizabeth (Betsey) Hill.
Do I have an actual record that states Eliza's parents? No - but I have done serious, extensive research over many years, and I don't doubt it a bit. I have now found birth and deaths and spouses, if any, for all 11 children of Nathaniel and Diantha. What a blessing it has been.
Thanks so much.
Added by Donna on Feb 06, 2016 2:03 PM
|Marilyn Cavanaugh||Cavanaugh Cemetery|
Hi Janet thank you for adding all the headstone photos for the Briggs/Cavanaugh Cemetery. When I was there years ago, many were lying in the dirt covered with moss. It is wonderful to see how they have been restored.
Thank you also, for letting me manage the second stone of Darrel's and tell the story of how it came to be. Are you from the Briggs/Cavanaugh line?
Once again, heartfelt thanks for your wonderful work.
|Glen Mc Call||RE: George M Dailey #132718037|
Source is New York Death Index
|Kathy Brown Rose||RE: Edit requests|
Thanks for making the edits.
Both middle names are from additional trees on ancestry.com as well as Julia's date of birth. 1900 census confirms Aug 1858 and her death certificate states born in Brandon VT.
Also, L Melvin Baker's mother is Avaline Belknap Baker Salls. She married second Stephen Salls.
|Mildred Clough||RE: Charles Day|
Sources for Charles Day are:
"Genealogical Register of the Descendants in the Male Line of Robert Day of Hartford, CT" with a supplement giving descendants of John Day, number 194, who moved to Sheffield, Ohio, in 1816. Published in 1848 and again in 1913.
Also in the Genealogy of Lee Summner Day and in my family records left by my grandmother, Edith Day Allen. I have also been fortunate to meet my 3rd cousins, descended from Charles. We attended the Bicentennial last summer in Sheffield, Ohio. Charles was my grandmother's Uncle and she was sent to visit him in 1880 to get her away from the man who was pursuing her. She married him anyway after teaching school in a town right near where Charles lived. The descendants of Charles have the "Baskett/Hall/Day/Davidson tree on Ancestry and they have also given me information. Is this enough? Mildred Clough
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