|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
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|MemphisGirl||James Parkhill & Temperance Kelsey Higgins|
I appreciate all the work you have done on the Higgins family. Wow!
I have one correction however. James Parkhill (Memorial #123834472). You list 2 spouses. One of the spouses, Temperance E. Higgins (1849-1866) (Memorial # 65245139) is the incorrect Temperance. Temperence E Higgins never married. She was 17 at death. I believe you have inadvertently attached the wrong Temperance to him. The correct one is Temperance Kelsey Parkhill (1756-1831) (Memorial #20184288).
I have requested an edit through Find A Grave, but thought I would give you a head's up.
Hope this helps.
|Ms. G||RE: Harvey Clark parents|
Someone asked me to transfer this person to them, adding a comment that another Clark relative was available too.
Most of the Clark relatives just appeared on my site. I informed him that I had no contact with them and he could keep the CLark relatives.
If you are Janet, they are yours now. Take good care of them.
Added by Ms. G on Feb 26, 2015 6:14 PM
I know you are off adventuring so definitely don't expect a reply, just wanted to give you a heads up that I got a spam email from you. Subject line "From: Janet Muff". Didn't open it, but suspect you have been hacked/people have managed to get into your account to send spam.
|Cherie_in_OC||RE: Find-a-grave Edits|
Have a wonderful vacation and hope you are somewhere warm. I don't think any of those people are in a hurry ;-) Thanks for all your work!
|Sheri West||John Eddy|
Memorial has been deleted :)
I do not plan to visit the cemetery for photos...another Find A Grave member I have worked closely with has expressed an interest but their list of to do's is long so if you would like to followup on this one this summer I'm sure they would not mind.
I will continue to send edits but will keep an excel spreadsheet of what I send you so you can track them, check them and change them as you wish. Will send you the spreadsheet when you are available. Have deleted your message to insure your privacy. Enjoy your adventure.
|Kim ||Lydia Vail headstone|
I thank you so much for taking this picture for me. I appreciate you taking the time to do this.
Again THank you Kim
Added by Kim on Feb 11, 2015 12:20 PM
|Jen Hart||Lura adams|
Thank you so much for taking the time to find my dear cousin !
May all your goodness come back to you twofold! Jennifer
Added by Jen Hart on Feb 09, 2015 3:41 PM
|Anonymous||RE: Jean Page|
you are very welcome and THANK YOU and your friends and canine pals for all the miles you have driven and trod to contribute to Find A Grave. It IS much appreciated and the effort will be valued for generations to come. I'm grateful to your collaboration!
|Emma Simmons||RE: Cyrell Bacon|
I must say in almost 13 years on this site I have never met such a person. I contacted findagrave. Do not contact me further.
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