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Janet Muff (#46951416)
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Bio Photo Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference."
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
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Stiles Cemetery
Thank you so very much for photographing all those that you could find buried there. It was a tremendous help that you made Memorial pages for them. What a wonderful job you did! May I use your photos in my Family Tree (with proper credit)? Again, thank you. Helen
Added by Helen on Jul 29, 2014 9:18 PM
K. W. Sellew
Re: Tamer Benton
Janet, I'm sorry you had gone to so much work and decided to delete the memorial.
I will keep the Evarts as a possible surname for Tamer as we have nothing else to go on. There were Evarts living in Cornwall, Addison Co, VT at that time. Are you researching the Evarts name? Possibly that is where the info came from.
Keep up the Good Work!! It is greatly appreciated!
Added by K. W. Sellew on Jul 25, 2014 7:40 AM
Colleen Stokes
Spink photos
Thanks Janet for giving of your time to photo grave sites which I otherwise would never see.
Added by Colleen Stokes on Jul 24, 2014 8:21 PM
K. W. Sellew
Tamer Benton
Tamer Evarts Benton
Birth: 1732
Death: May 1, 1811
Cornwall, Addison County, Vermont, USA
Wife of John Benton.
Burial: Cornwall Central Cemetery, Cornwall, Addison County, Vermont, USA
Created by: Janet Muff
Record added: Aug 15, 2011
Find A Grave Memorial# 74968799

Janet where did you find the maiden/surname (Evarts) for Tamer wife of John Benton?
Family researchers have been searching for this name.
Plus there already is a memorial for Tamer/Tamar, see Find A Grave Memorial# 68282078, they should be merged.
Added by K. W. Sellew on Jul 23, 2014 5:46 PM
Doris Miller
RE: Stella A (Miller) Streeter
Everyone really appreciates all your work!
Added by Doris Miller on Jul 18, 2014 4:14 PM
Doris Miller
RE: Stella A (Miller) Streeter
That's so nice. I will be looking forward to seeing the photos. Have a good trip!
Added by Doris Miller on Jul 17, 2014 7:01 PM
re: your message about Aaron Orr's wife
Aaron Orr
Michigan, Marriages, 1822-1995
Name: Aaron Orr
Birth Date: 1793
Age: 57
Spouse's Name: Charlotte New
Spouse's Birth Date: 1808
Spouse's Age: 42
Event Date: 25 May 1850
Event Place: Barry, Michigan

Indexing Project (Batch) Number: M51824-2 , System Origin: Michigan-EASy , GS Film number: 1008320
Citing this Record

"Michigan, Marriages, 1822-1995," index, FamilySearch (, Aaron Orr and Charlotte New, 25 May 1850; citing reference ; FHL microfilm 1008320.

This marriage would have been after Mary's death on Aug. 30, 1847.
Added by drbuck on Jul 09, 2014 6:54 PM
Gayle Harmon
Thank You
Again, for your contributions to findagrave. I appreciate my fellow cemetery walkers,photographers for their time and efforts. I was up in the New England area last summer and had the chance to walk Old Bennington and Rupert St. in Vermont, as well as in Suffield, Ct and in Massachusetts. Such a beautiful area. Thanks for the so many Harmons that you have included in your ventures. Happy 4th!
Added by Gayle Harmon on Jul 04, 2014 9:43 PM
Joe Gibbens
Ruth Hollister Smith
Hi Janet - You just sent me information that Ruth Hollister Smith was the mother of Asa Smith. Thank you very much. She is my g-g-g-g-g-grandmother. I had no idea where she and spouse, Isaac, were buried. I am not asking for her memorial as I don't have anything I could add to it anyway. In fact, I agree hardily with your assessment of the rudeness of the recent requests for transfers. I attribute it to the Ancestry people moving in and thinking they own the place. I have left one particularly rude person's messages up on my page for everyone to see. Thanks again.
Added by Joe Gibbens on Jul 03, 2014 7:13 PM
Liz Burdick
Smith and Porter headstones-Hebron
As I've said before - you ladies do a super job - thanks again for all your work. Thank you Thank you! Some notes are forth coming.
Added by Liz Burdick on Jul 02, 2014 9:09 PM
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