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First, my deepest thanks to those who have kept my spirits up by being supportive friends and who have honored my dear ones so faithfully.|
This is my second Christmas without my folks, and I'm trying to pull myself up and into the spirit. Got a tree this year, yay me. I still find myself trying to focus on the theme of rebirth, and trying to shake the gloom of the losses of 2012.
I'm finding using the site difficult right now. Some people have found it very therapeutic after a loss. Unfortunately, it has the opposite effect on me; I see all the losses of my fellow contributors, and it makes me feel terrible. I see your now-gone loved ones, and in a small way I re-live the loss of my loved ones. I think my feelings are still too close to the surface to be so easily stirred.
If you have a moment, would you kindly visit Randall Buckley? This is our friend Paula's brother.
If you are wondering whom else to visit, perhaps you'd kindly look in on my dearest.
If you have a moment, would you please send prayers to fellow contributor Ann H?
And if you have another moment, please consider leaving a token for our fellow contributor, White Light.
Picture use: You are welcome to use pictures for personal use, but I do NOT consent for their use online or on commercial or paid sites. FindAGrave is about sharing what you know, and I will not have my good will co-opted and monetized. I saw some of my pics stolen from here and put on ancestry.com and I am taking action to correct this.
Transfers and suggestions: Forgive me, but experience has been a harsh teacher. I used to be very cool about transferring, but I've had about enough of being easy about this. I'll gladly transfer the memorials of anyone not related or without meaning to me in a heartbeat, and I have hundreds to give away. But on family, I'm adopted, working on both birth and adopted families. I have a lot of family to cover, possibly double the size of yours, and I have not articulated my relationship to the subject of every memorial for privacy reasons. Rather than quibble, I would be gladder still to improve a memorial with your suggestions sent via SAC. Let's do the right thing and make the memorial accurate, suitable and a reflection of that person's life. You can put the improved memorial in a "virtual cemetery" without needing ownership of it, as I have done with relatives that other contributors have added to the site. I can add links or the info you wish, and you are welcome to add pictures.
On the other hand, if the memorial is one I have added by chance or the subject is no one related to me or is one to whom I have no attachment, I will offer to transfer instantly.
FindAGrave memorials are online representations of real graves, not trading cards. I don't collect them for numbers and am frankly relieved to see them go to family if they have no connection and meaning to me. There are relatives of mine another contributor has memorialized on the site that I do not "own" and have not asked for, content that I have added the info I have, and linked them to their kin.
"Many African societies divide humans into three categories; those still alive on earth, the sasha, and the zamani. The recently departed whose time on earth overlapped with people still here are the sasha, the living-dead. They are not wholly dead, for they still live in the memories of the living, who can call them to mind, create their likeness in art, and bring them to life in anecdote. When the last person to know an ancestor dies, that ancestor leaves the sasha for the zamani, the dead. As generalized ancestors, the zamani are not forgotten but revered. Many can be recalled by name. But they are not living-dead. There is a difference." -- from "Lies My Teacher Told Me" by James Loewen
So perhaps the progression of the living to the sasha to the zamani cannot be helped, but we record here those we knew, both sasha and zamani, and leave some record of them. And if they are sashas to us, perhaps our record keeps them sashas longer as we offer our first hand accounts of them.
It bothers me that time passes, because I sense my friends and family members moving out of sight as they pass through the celestial plan, or whatever you like to call it. I am just conscious that our grip on those we know and love is constantly eroding. I think this is why I have been drawn to FindAGrave; I can't stop people from dying, but I can stop them from being forgotten, and can see the lives of people other contributors feel the same about, those they don't want to shift out of focus as time clouds memories and people who knew others pass on. Here, at least, we can freeze them in time and recount all that made them good or special.
Your visits to my loved ones mean a lot to me. They mean my folks here are not forgotten, and honor people I really loved or respected or took the time to research, so thank you. I enjoy honoring people remembered on Find a Grave, and do take the time to read bio info on memorials. I appreciate knowing about the people other folks want remembered.
Every memorial entered here has been done with respect and good intent, in the hopes dear ones will not be forgotten. Any concerns, additions and so on are most welcome here on this page.
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|Patty Valentino||RE: thank you...|
Hi sr/ks ~ You are very welcome, and I was honored to pay homage to your loved ones. There was so many interesting things that you wrote in their bios, that I didn't know which particular thing to write. You did a really splendid job on them. And I thank you for visiting Sgt. Michael Manno, I really appreciate that.
I hope your Holidays will be lovely as well, and filled with lots of love.
|Floral Designer||Thank You|
For Remembering My Mom's Birthday, Have a Blessed Christmas
|Barbara Schwartz||RE: hi there|
I've come across this myself and haven't been able to reconcile the difference in Barbara Zehner's maiden name. I can tell you that a genealogy published in 1939 called "The first Zehner-Hoppes family history : Adam Zehner, John Michael (Habbas) Hoppes of Schuylkill County, Pennsylvania" reports that Zimmerman was her maiden name. The book is on Heritage Quest.
|Ann H.||RE: hello Ann|
Oh my I tried raise my arms over my head but that did not help it any. I would be afraid to stand up and try it because sometimes it hits a nerve and makes me pass out.
I rarely have pop of any kind and I drink decaf coffee when I drink any. Most of the time I drink water. I need the water for thirst and for a dry mouth. I am thankful you are praying for my hubby too. Hugs, Ann
Added by Ann H. on Oct 27, 2013 7:42 PM
|Remembering YOU Always.....LOVE PAULA||THANK YOU|
DEAR FRIEND FOR HAVING MY BROTHER ON YOUR PAGE AND FOR ALL THE HELP AND ADVICE YOU HAVE GIVEN ME,AND JUST FOR BEING A FRIEND,YOU ARE TRULY AWESOME!
|Sue Mueller||RE: Rumberger question...|
I have no info, but if you e-mail me directly, I may be able to offer some assistance.
|Valenciaღ Angel of Mine ƸӜƷ||Oops!|
Wrong receipient, my apologies
|Valenciaღ Angel of Mine ƸӜƷ||Paula|
My deepest condolences to you and your family on the loss of your beloved brother, my heart goes out to you. Couldn't help but read about the memorial not being transferred to you. In the past when I had a problem with a family member's memorial not being transferred to me, I emailed the findagrave admin and explained the situation. The requested memorial was my family just like your situation. Findagrave admin inturn transferred it over to me. Hope this helps, Paula. Again, I'm so so sorry sweetie
|Remembering YOU Always.....LOVE PAULA||THANX|
FOR THREE THINGS,1ST FOR BEING A FRIEND,2ND FOR THE KINDNESS YOU HAVE SHOWN DURING MY BROTHER'S ILLNESS AND DEATH,AND 3RD FOR THE MESSAGE YOU LEFT JAZZYJOHN,I WAS PRETTY UPSET WHEN I CAME TO FIND A GRAVE YESTERDAY TO MAKE A MEMORIAL FOR HIM AND HE WAS ALREADY ON HERE AND WASN'T EVEN LAID TO REST WHEN HE WAS PUT ON HERE,I HOPE SOON THIS PERSON WILL TRANSFER HIM TO ME! THERE IS A LONG STORY BEHIND MY BROTHER'S DEATH AND IT'S NOT PRETTY!
I AM BROKEN OVER ALL THIS,IT HAS BEEN AN ORDEAL THAT I HOPE I NEVER HAVE TO FACE AGAIN,HE WAS FUNNY,LOVING AND KIND BEYOND WORDS,AND GONE WAY TOO SOON!
HOPING YOU ARE COPING,AND DOING WELL! I GUESS WE ALL JUST HAVE TO KEEP OUR HEADS UP AND GO ON WITH OUR LIVES,NO MATTER HOW HARD IT IS,BUT I WILL NEVER GET OVER THIS!
PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!
|Dan Oh||RE: william fleck|
This is the fleck in Morris Cemetery, correct?
The cemetery records for Morris are held at Mount Zion Cemetery (Chester County) with a Pottstown Mailing address.
Mt Zion Cemetery Kim Lenhardt email@example.com 610-326-3102 fax 610-326-1549voice fax is best
Above is their contact information. They should be able to give you the exact location of the burial, and maybe they can get their man to locate the stone.
Between us, the cemetery is a bit disorganized with regard to ownership and management, but Mt. Zions office us usually very helpful.
Added by Dan Oh on Oct 19, 2013 2:08 PM
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