My home base is Columbus, OH, with easy access to the Ohio Historical Society Archival Library. Researching surnames: DULIN, YOUNG, AMOS, STEITZ, NICHOLS, ROBINSON, HILL, McKITRICK, REDINBO, HYLAND, RADER, FRESHWATER, MARSH. Have 15,000 names on my Family Tree Maker D/B - but am not yet back to Adam & Eve - so I continue! Always glad to help & to get help.
I am a very distant cousin. My 5th great grandparents on the maternal side were John McKittrick & Mary Ross. Their son William was my 4th great grandfather. Another of their sons, James, was the father of Susannah McKittrick, who married Lorenzo Dow Dulin. Their son was Erastus Fields Dulin, who married Rebecca Ann Robinson. Their son was William Tazwell Dulin, who married Sadie Amos. I believe their son, Delmar Leroy Dulin, who married Dot Young, was your father . . . I think that makes us something like 5th cousins, once removed, if I've done the figuring correctly.
I want to thank you for all the work you've done on your branch of the family tree. You've helped fill in a great many gaps, which I deeply appreciate. Would you be terribly bothered if I "borrowed" the photographs you included on the memorials for my tree? I promise, I'm not writing a book, nor do I have any plans to ever publish anything. Everything I have on the family tree is for immediate family only. No one has access to any of my records or notes. To be perfectly honest, since I disproved the Native American connection that was part of our family lore, no one has much interest in any of my Family Tree "nonsense," and they think I'm a quack. I have a Bachelor's degree in History and most of my Masters, I just love doing this.
Oddly, I've found some family resemblances among your photographs. My grandson resembles your dad in the picture of him on the horse, a little blonder, but the features are very close.
I know what you mean about this "merging" stuff. I have now encountered it a number of times. Some people now appear to have more than one page, leaving "orphaned" pages that, as you mention, can no longer be changed.
Concerning tombstone repair... I have many of my own ancestors at Oak Grove. (Denison, Stanbery, Mendenhall, etc.)
My great great grandfather, Wesley Denison (who was an engineer and did a whole bunch of work for Oak Grove involving filling in a pond, drainage, etc.), erected a memorial headstone at Oak Grove for his father, John Denison, who died on 27 Jul 1840, and is buried somewhere in Licking county. It is double-sided, with the front being a regular tombstone (birth, death), and the back being a short synopsis of his life (names of parents and wife, year of emigration from Luzerne Co, Pa. to Hebron, Ohio, etc.). The stone has been flaking off on the front, and has become severely worn on the back to the point of illegibility. I was also thinking about replacement (too expensive!) or possibly the addition of an engraved metal plate at the base to record the original dates and wording. Part of the wording at the base of the stone on both sides has already been lost. Some things I already know, but the wording on the back contained information that may have been important.