|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine.
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|Brent Benson||RE: Ebenezer Gould|
Thanks For The Help
|Melissa (Tolene) Rura||Elizabeth Penifield Wallace|
If you have access to the ancestry card catalog it is easily looked up there with much more detial than I give below:
Source Title (view source details)
History and Genealogy of the Families of Old Fairfield, Vol. II
|Brent Benson||RE: Phebe (Gould) Whitney|
Captain Ebenezer Gould 20 December 1724 Killingly, Windham, Connecticut, United States Died 9 January 1809 Granville, Washington, New York, United States
Rhonda Robbins 30 March 1754 Killingly Windham Connecticut United States Died 6 March 1832 Walworth, Wayne, New York, United States
That's Per Someones Family Tree On Ancestry So I Don't Know How Much Of Its Right
|Brent Benson||Ebenezer Gould & Roda Robbins|
Do You Know If They Had A Kid Name Phebe Gould Born 14 April 1770 Died 14 April 1846?
|Brent Benson||RE: Arthur Andrus Martin|
Ok Then My Grandma Has The Birth Wrong Thanks For The Info
|Brent Benson||Arthur Martin|
He Was Born November 12 1870 And Died December 28 1922 Ive Got The Name Of His Wife But I Would Half To Look At The Research Again I Will Let You Know When I Have A Chance To Look Again
|Brent Benson||Arthur Martin|
The Only Sourse I Have Is The Research My Grandma Did Its The Same Source For Lucy Martin They Were My Grandmas Great Aunt And Uncle If Im Thinking Correctly Cause Flor Mae Whitney Was Her Grandmother
|Brent Benson||Hiram Samuel Martin & Emily Wilcox|
I Was Looking Through My Grandmas Genealogy Research And It Says They Had 4 Children William Wallace, Hiram Martin Jr, Apollos Martin, And Delos Edwin Martin Can You Verify This.
|Jess E. Bromley||Thank you|
Thank you for making those changes, and so quickly too!
I put in a few dozen such requests and maybe half have responded, so I feel good having this one done.
I’d love to see Herrick done. He has been a special cause of mine since I was a kid, a mystery that I had no information on. A distant cousin of mine, Rebecca Bromley Guenther, we share a common ancestor, Bethuel Bromley 1737-1808, crack the case and determined he was my great great grandfathers little brother. They were buried close to each other but no one remembered who he was so now I feel glad he’s no longer forgotten.
Certainly no apology needed at all! I get so turned around just dealing with my own family, especially because they keep using the same names over and over again generation after generation, I can’t imagine how you can keep up with so many different names and families.
Once again, I’d like to thank you for all that you have done!
Jess E Bromley
|Jess E. Bromley||Betsy Bromley Sherman #103109769|
Betsy Bromley Sherman #103109769
The text on her page says “daughter of Bethuel Bromley and Lucinda Burt”
The parental section has Barton Bromley as the father, which is correct.
She had a grandfather, uncle and brother named Bethuel but not her father.
She also had a brother that is not listed amongst the siblings,
Herrick Bromley #6666082
Could you please make these changes?
Thank you so very much!
Jess E Bromley
PS-I know how difficult people can sometimes be,
I’m sorry that you’ve had to deal with it.
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