Begin New Search
Refine Last Search
Cemetery Lookup
Add Burial Records
Help with Find A Grave

Top Contributors
Success Stories
Discussion Forums
Find A Grave Store

Log In
Tim & Grace (#46907821)
 member for 7 years, 2 months, 29 days
[Add to MyFriends]
Bio and Links
Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
Leave Public Message
Contributions to
Find A Grave
 • 10,180 Memorials Added
 • 10,628 Memorials Managed
 • 27 Memorials/week
 • 7,571 Photos
 • 53 Photo Requests
 • 864 Volunteer Photos Taken
 • 9,551 Virtual Flowers
 • 36 Virtual Cemeteries
 • 209 Friends
Search Contributor's Records

First NameLast Name

Virtual Cemeteries
"There's the Rub" (7)
"Will the REAL person... ... (6)
312th Bomb Group USAAF-WW... (11)
5th Vermont Volunteers (7)
Added Cemetery Photo (35)
Added Memorials to Togus (27)
Added research to (6)
American Legion - Post Ev... (6)
Cenotaphs (9)
[View all Virtual Cemeteries...]
Find A Grave Friends
A.J. Marik, agnawkneemuss, Alan and Jane, Alan Fletcher, Amy Levesque, Angela, AngelWings, angora, Anne , Anne Shurtleff ..., AuntieJ, Barb Destromp, Barbara Shaw, Bearded Graver, Bethsgirl, Bev Winship, Bill Miller, Bill Paschal, Bill Velde, Bob R, [View all Find A Grave Friends...]
Messages left for Tim & Grace (964)[Leave Message]
Bill West
RE: John Farrar & Rebecca Coburn in Mount Vernon Cemetery
Sorry it isn't a better shot. The engravings on the stones are very faint and I tried taking shots at different times of day but it didn't matter.

I've linked John and Rebecca to their son John C Farrar with a memorial for him and two photos of the two headstones with his name on them. I took those two photos on the same days as the one for Rebecca and John and you can see how much better they came out.

BTW, Rebecca is my distant cousin through our mutual descent from Edward Colborne.

Added by Bill West on Jul 26, 2014 11:08 AM
Bonnie Kies
RE: Bettie Gertrude Wheeler McIntire buried in Chesterville
If your talking about the Frances on the stone that was my Aunt my Uncle Delmont's wife
Added by Bonnie Kies on Jul 25, 2014 10:29 PM
Bonnie Kies
RE: Bettie Gertrude Wheeler McIntire buried in Chesterville

you used to be able to click on this site and it would show you all the cemeteries but for what ever reason it doesn't work anymore
Well not the link above but the link I got from it

A town map of burial grounds is available at

that's the link that no longer works
Added by Bonnie Kies on Jul 25, 2014 9:30 PM
Bonnie Kies
RE: Bettie Gertrude Wheeler McIntire buried in Chesterville
My cousin told me at the time that it was called Lowell Cemetery in Chesterville, Franklin, Me. Don't think she took a photo of the other side if anything is on the other side. This is the photo that was sent me. In doing other searches in Maine there are many cemeteries that have never been Photoed. I had a map thing of all the cemeteries before but think they changed the site. One such cemetery was Nowell # 49
York Village
York County, ME

I guess these cemeteries some are located on private lands or lost in the woods. the one for Nowell #49 was for Samuel Linscott 1787-1864 There were several cemeteries listed as McIntire/McIntyre
Added by Bonnie Kies on Jul 25, 2014 9:17 PM
Bonnie Kies
RE: Bettie Gertrude Wheeler McIntire buried in Chesterville
No I have never been there a cousin took the photo's for me. I do not have her death date. What did you find out about her. I never knew my G.Mother, only my G.Father (my mom's parents). Never knew my Dad's dad or his Mom. His Mom passed when I was about 2 or 3 yrs. old. I started my tree to find out about my Grandparents and kind of hit a dead end with my Mom's mom Betty/Bettie not sure how it was spelled. Her middle name was Gertrude my Mom never spoke about her. Iv'e heard stories but not sure of them since I was young. Its kind of one of things you recall but not sure exactly what you recall. Bonnie :)
Added by Bonnie Kies on Jul 25, 2014 9:08 PM
Bonnie Kies
RE: Francis McIntire Hunt in Buckfield Village Cemetery
Thanks I will check it out. Hope the new job is going well. Bonnie :)
Added by Bonnie Kies on Jul 24, 2014 10:53 AM
Thanks again for photos at Togus, two of them I was able to update info on the memorials. Again, Thanks.
Added by oldwolf600 on Jul 24, 2014 9:57 AM
Bonnie Kies
Memorial# 64149654
this is Francis Mom link I was wondering if you Idea what happened to him. The last census I have for him is 1920 at 70yrs old. would think he has a stone somewhere. In 1920 he was living in Buckfield Oxford Me. Thanks Bonnie :) Been a while hope everyone is fine. :)
Added by Bonnie Kies on Jul 19, 2014 10:48 AM
sarah geary
RE: Percy Greenleaf Smith relatives
Yes, that would be fine.
Thank you for all your time and research.
Sarah Geary
Added by sarah geary on Jul 17, 2014 5:05 PM
Beth Hurd
RE: Berry burials in Warwick, Rhode Island
Hi, Tim -
let me know if you'd like me to transfer these memorials to you - they are no relation to me.

Beth Hurd
Johnston, Rhode Island
Added by Beth Hurd on Jul 16, 2014 5:31 PM
[View all messages...]

Privacy Statement and Terms of Service