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Delita (#47315206)
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Bio Photo Amelia, Debbie's granddaughter

Debra Lynn Barwick Birthday June 22

Our 31 yr old grandson TJ (Debbie's son) was found dead April 17 from suicide. Have no idea why he chose this. Still find it so hard to accept. Grief seems to grow instead of lessen. I appreciate all your thoughts, visits and prayers.

Grandson TJ Parham

Our daughter Brenda is recuperating from disc surgery on May 5.Brenda got the neck brace off on June 21. The x rays looked good and now she is learning to turn her head again. Not going so good with that. She is in hospital with depression problems. The 22nd was her sisters birthday and she started talking about going to be with her sister and TJ. She still needs prayers. It seems our life is in such a turmoil. Thanks for prayers for her and for us also.

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Delita, you are in my thoughts and prayers. It is just not right that your family is having to go through all of this. Hugs, Rosie
Added by Rosie♥Mooch on Jun 28, 2016 3:18 PM
rosie mcnaughton
I am so sorry to hear about your grandson's untimely death. One can never quite grasp the meaning of suicide. It leaves so many questions and feelings of guilt for those left behind. Will pray for you and your family that you can sometime find peace of mind.

Hope your daughter, Brenda, completely recovers from her surgery.
Added by rosie mcnaughton on Jun 25, 2016 4:04 PM
Zina ♥︎ Bee
Thank you ♥
Hi Delita,

I just wanted to thank you for leaving such a nice token for Zachary Killinger, my featured memorial for June 2016. He was such a brave young man, fighting a disease which has no cure and is 100% fatal - Batten Disease. It really warms my heart to see him get so many visitors.

I hope you're doing alright, and that your weekend is peaceful.

Thanks again,

Added by Zina ♥︎ Bee on Jun 17, 2016 5:59 AM
Shirley M. Strickland
So Sorry
Hello Delita,

I am so sorry to learn of your terrible sadness. I can only say, I know there are no words to explain what happens in one's lifetime.

Time will not heal this great loss that you have had but time will allow you to adjust. I know, I have been there twice although not in this vein but they were my sons.

Try to stay busy and cry when you feel the need. The release of emotions do help for a time....Take care of yourself...
Warm regards and my thoughts are with you.

Added by Shirley M. Strickland on Jun 12, 2016 4:17 PM
Thinking of you!
Hello Dear,
Thinking of you and your family. Sending prayers and well wishes! Hang in there Dear.
Sincerely, Debbie.
Added by D&D on Jun 07, 2016 9:24 PM
Thank you
Thank you so much for remembering my Father, Cosimo Riccio's birthday. You thoughtfulness touched my heart. I am so sorry to hear about your
Grandson. I am sending extra prayers to you at this difficult time. Blessings to you & your family...Hugs...Your friend..Anna

Added by ANNA on May 23, 2016 12:39 PM
I am so sorry about your grandson. Please know I have been thinking about you.I pray God will be with you and your family during this difficult time.we dont understand why things like this happen's. Please take care knowing our God will be with you all the way.....Love Allie
Added by Broken~♥~Heart on May 21, 2016 7:27 PM
Loretta Sampson
RE: Dear Loretta
So so sorry to hear about your grandson. My heart goes out to you . We never know what life has in store for us all, but I can't think of why such a young man would think life is not worth living.
I just hope by now your daughter is on the road to recovery. I will say a prayer for her.
For me, I am not doing that good,I just take one day at a time. I still think so much about your daughter Debbie, she is always in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care of yourself, my friend. Love,
Added by Loretta Sampson on May 18, 2016 6:57 PM
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Delita~We are sorry for your loss.
Added by kathy barnett on May 16, 2016 1:05 AM
Rhonda C. Poynter/Gannon/Friends
Dear Delita,
I realize that I am always ages behind in messages and news on here, but that doesn't mean my friends are any less out of my heart and thoughts, and I am just so sorry to hear of T.J.'s loss. One of my friends helping to monitor my pages while Gannon and I have medical issues yet again sent me an e/m asking me whether I was aware of the news, and I literally had to sit down and put my hand on my chest, so great was the pain for you and yours. Delita, you ask in your posts what you might have done...I have had many suicides in my own family and circle of friends, unfortunately, and I began asking that question with the very first suicide to affect my life, that of my brother, Ron...thirty five years later, I still ask the question, and still have no answers. My father's suicidal tendencies - many who do not follow my writing do not know that his eventual end in a nursing home, brain dead for many years, was due to a failed suicide attempt - continue to tangle through my "What could I have seen sooner, and done differently for this family?" arguments, year after year after year. I have written many pieces on the subject, and when I was a bit better physically and could do so, I spoke at many events for families of suicide victims, etc. I will tell you what I am sure you have been told many times in the last few weeks: You are not responsible for somebody's choice...but you will never believe this. =( It is a very sad and strange catch-22; those of us in this sad club will forever go round and round and round, day to day, knowing that you cannot change somebody else's mind, but two minutes later, we will be certain that had we said something else, made another call, whatever, the end result could have been different. ...I am sure that you have already been told all of this by others and so I will hush up, but again, Gannon and I are just so sorry to hear of this latest test to you and yours, Delita...please know that, even though it seems as though I am on here literally once a month, I keep all of my site friends close to my heart and in my prayers, and am a better person for meeting many of the people on here and learning about their loved ones. And that includes T.J. - we send you love and hugs, as we do T.J., now safe at Home and at rest in Light.
RCP and Gannon Blue
Added by Rhonda C. Poynter/Gannon/... on May 15, 2016 10:41 AM
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