Hello everyone my name is Valencia. I'm 44 years old ,married and have three great kids. Ever since I was a little girl I have been fascinated with cemeteries. I lived by one and would pass it whenever I walked home from school. Staring at the graves through the link fence usually added 10 extra minutes to my walk home. This fascination has followed me to today. I don't tell too many people about it(my husband thinks I'm morbid!) but I think they are beautiful, peaceful places. Now my daughter is starting to show the same interest. I'm especially fascinated by ethnic cemeteries(Serbian,Italian,Jewish,Ukrainian orthodox,Mexican,etc.). If anyone could let me know of any on this site, I would be grateful. Thanks and have a great day!
RE: Thank you ! So pleased to hear from you Valencia Ann & thanks for UR nice message. My honor to place flowers for your loved ones. Haven't been online for over 2 weeks and [why I did not reply before this]. Ruth
RE: Hello from Chicago Hello Valencia, sorry that you are having such a rough time but I certainly will have you and your family in my prayers, just hang in there sweetie. Take one day at a time, every day is a new day, Valencia. Wish I could make it all better for you. As you know prayers are very powerful. Also no need for any thanks, it is my pleasure to have sponsored your beloved brother. And I do realize no matter the length of time, they will always be missed. Again, please stay safe and sending you much love and blessings to you and your family.
Thank you So much for visiting my friend's site. We are all deeply saddened, he will be greatly missed. He was such a character. He is a wonderful husband, father, grandfather and a great friend who will be greatly missed. Again, thank you, deeply touched for your kindness during this difficult time. My heart goes out to my friend's family
Dearest Valencia Today we lost a dear friend of ours, Clifford Simmons. Would you kindly visit his memorial page? He is the father of one of my daughter's best friend. It would mean so much to me and his family.
RE: Poem about Valencia I completely understand worrying about your son. My son, he's now 28 years old and I remember his younger teen years, (he was only 12, when he lost his sister, Valencia) I constantly worried about him too, still do. It's our nature especially in today's society. All we can do is pray for them and keep them in God's care. Here is what I had promised you:
Mom, I'm just going to my friend's. I recall what you said, You didn't feel right about the sleepover. At first I had decided not to go, but left instead
Felt I didn't do the right thing Cause I know you are always right. I told you "Don't worry, Mom" I'll be home Sunday night.
You worried and felt That something was just not right In your heart though, you knew There was something about tonight.
While I laid in bed I thought of what I had done. It was about midnight when you called, Dee called me around one.
I finally fell asleep, Mom Missing my Milan so much When someone starting shooting, A bullet hitting me in my heart and chest
Mom, I'm laying here on the floor. I heard someone say They were after someone else, Now I'm the one to pay.
Call me if you need me, For whatever reason, is what you said. Mommy, I need you now. But you're home asleep in bed.
Mom, I'm laying here dying, I wish you would get here soon. How come this happened to me? I was just asleep in my friend's room.
The person who shot me is still alive And I don't think that's fair. Mom, I'm laying here dying And he doesn't even care.
Why do kids do drive-bys? With so much violence these days. Mommy, I'm not suppose to die, I still have my baby to raise.
One things for certain, Mom. I'm thankful you persuaded me To let you take Milan home. She was safer with you, than here with me.
Tell Dee and Jay I love them. Tell Dad not to cry, to be brave. Take care of my baby, mommy Tell her how much I love her Mommy, please be strong when you visit my grave.
Someone should have told or stopped them, Not to do a drive-by. Mommy, if they had done that, I would still be alive.
Mommy, my breath is becoming shorter. Mom, I'm becoming very scared. But please don't cry for me Cause when I needed you, you were always there.
Before I say goodbye, mom. I wasn't involved with gangs, So why am I the one to die?
I'm near the end, mommy and daddy. I wish you both were at my side, To say those final words, I love you and.....goodbye.
RE: Thank you! Valencia, I honestly want to make a difference in someone's life. I know what I've been through and I want other families who lose their own children whether through an illness, violence, etc. I want them to know that it does get better. Everyone grieves different and only they can say when they are ready to face the world again, when they are ready to adjust to life without their loved ones. I came up with a poem describing my daughter's last day. This poem was used at school when they were speaking against gang violence. The officer said during the poem was being read, there was complete silence. The student reading the poem could not finish reading it without crying. Never before had anything had an impact to these students with this poem. I had one girl approach me and said that she wished she knew Valencia. If you'd like I could email you a copy, just let me know
RE: Thank you! Hello Valencia, there is no need to thank me, sweetie. It brings me comfort in knowing that I can somehow touch someones life or bring them comfort as well. May you have a very Blessed Day today and always