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Janet Muff (#46951416)
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Bio Photo Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference."
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If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
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Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
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OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
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Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
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But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
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Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
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And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
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PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
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Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine and if you'll provide me with supporting documentation. I've never asked for proof of relationship before, but the tone of recent messages and the drive of some people to add as many notches to their gun belts as possible, has prompted my new "policy."
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Brent Benson
Whitney Grave Photos
Added Photos For Mary, Charles, W Frank, Charles R, And J Harold Whitney. Thought I Would Let You Know So You Can Take A Look At Them. There From 1987 Which Was The Year I Was Born.
Added by Brent Benson on Dec 11, 2014 8:28 PM
KSBlack
RE: Mary Fuller edit
Janet,
Thanks for your caution. I should have put the source info into the 'other edit' category. In the Barbour Collection of CT Vital Records, the entry for her birth in the Farmington book (referencing LR 17:435) gives her name as Mary Hart, daughter of Ebenezer (under the surname Hawley). And that's the source of my information.
Added by KSBlack on Dec 09, 2014 11:11 AM
Brent Benson
Grandma's Genealogy Stuff
My Mom Was Up For A Couple Days To See Me And She Brought Me All The Genealogy Stuff That I Was Talking About With Pictures, Documents, And A Couple Letters Even.
Added by Brent Benson on Dec 08, 2014 1:44 PM
Kari Olson
Edee Scott photos
Well I sent that rather abruptly... I meant to add I would appreciate it and add a photo credit to you of course, as in the past. Thanks in advance.
Added by Kari Olson on Dec 07, 2014 9:47 AM
Kari Olson
Edee Scott photos
Hi Janet, Can i use your Edee Scott photos on my tree?
Added by Kari Olson on Dec 07, 2014 9:46 AM
Holly
Stiles Cemetery
Hi. May I have your permission to copy the photo you took of Lawry (Haynes)Stiles headstone. For my family tree. I would give you credit for taking the photo. Holly
Added by Holly on Dec 05, 2014 2:23 AM
Kathy Brown
Roswell Parker
Would like your permission to use photos for Roswell Parker who is my husband's fourth GGrandfather. Thank you in advance. Kathy Brown mlfamilytree@yahoo.com
Added by Kathy Brown on Nov 12, 2014 12:37 PM
Beverly Smith Leach
Abner Blackmar
Would like your permission to copy gravestone picture of Abner Blackmar 1764-1825 in Read Cemetery to my ancestry.com family tree. He is there by virtue of marrying a relative in the distant past. Loved reading your "Dutch Uncle" dissertation, think you made your points clear. You did not mention snakes in cemeteries. You are brave.
Beverly Smith Leach
Corpus Christi, TX
Added by Beverly Smith Leach on Nov 10, 2014 8:43 AM
Beverly Smith Leach
Abner Blackmar
Would like your permission to copy gravestone picture of Abner Blackmar 1764-1825 in Read Cemetery to my ancestry.com family tree. He is there by virtue of marrying a relative in the distant past. Loved reading your "Dutch Uncle" dissertation, think you made your points clear. You did not mention snakes in cemeteries. You are brave.
Beverly Smith Leach
Corpus Christi, TX
Added by Beverly Smith Leach on Nov 10, 2014 8:43 AM
Moon Chaser
RE: John Newton Whipple
Awesome thanks!
Added by Moon Chaser on Nov 09, 2014 11:21 AM
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