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CryptoGram (#46897564)
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

PS/PreScript: the system did not used to give us the option of "Mrs" as a prefix and still doesn't offer "Mr" so, if you now want to change things, do it yourselves rather than tick us off with silly "edits"...and don't request to put anyone's first name as "male" (or, worse, capitalized Male, which makes it look like a real/incorrect name) daft to apply the designation for an unnamed CHILD to a grown man!

For 2014, we should welcome the obvious: FindAGrave is like any other pyramid-type as the membership increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? -LOL and go figure.

The picture "request" function started around mid-2007, and pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed; at first there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Newbie & younger FindAGrave members aside, there are more of us Boomers retiring with time to dedicate to genealogy and actually traveling around, stopping to visit and photograph cemeteries...MANY times we'll discover there're already pictures on memorials we INTENDED to either make or add to...but we also take and exchange pictures to help our old-fogey networks fulfill requests far away from themselves so our foot/finger/brain exercises are not all for naught.

Fodder is running lower, but there are still helpful and personally-rewarding "angel" tasks to be done. Oak Hill in DC used to not allow pictures or much record sharing, but is now pretty complete...YAY to whomever was able to supply this good deed! Maybe some of you with button cameras and smartphones can start furtively snapping up & down the rows of Mount Olivet in DC, Rosehill in Chicago...and I'm sure others...that still do not cooperate with picture-taking.

ANY information on privately-owned and defunct burial places is still ALWAYS appreciated by those seeking the trails of their ancestors...are they still there lying unmarked and disrespected? Were they moved elsewhere? Are they by other family and/or friends? I was gladly able to do this for the cemetery nearest to me in kidhood that I never knew about way back then ~ when I held my breath in passing cemeteries ~ as it was already defunct...altho' one of my brothers once found a toppled headstone while bike-riding (him, not the headstone) dirt roads there.

Those who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I myself have encountered snakes and Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter. Which reminds me I did visit one cemetery that had a homeless? person living in it...not there, but I didn't want to bother his? belongings.

You many kind, prolific contributors might try to add more links...such function was NOT allowed/available on FindAGrave until the last few years...of families whose memorials you manage. And "Mrs" was not listed as a "prefix" option ~ just as "Mr" still isn't ~ so it was used as a first name when else was not know, but might need to be repositioned we'd remember all those, huh?

I'm still glad to help with the research part however I'm able.

Other Less-Important Stuff:

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >> ONLY post photos for which YOU hold the copyright (meaning photos you took)!!!

The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.

No photos taken from any website, including Find A Grave!!! <<

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including " FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

I found including biographies & obits helpful, but they are against site rules unless I/you own the copyrights so do not ask me to add them to memorials unless you can include ownership assurance.

My Reasons for Being on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died while my husband ~ who, BTW, hates cemeteries and has much more important things to do, like saving the lives of nearly 3000 people striving for a mid-east democracy, than be on FindAGrave ~ was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors: at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my "hanky-panky in the palace" people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My biggest peeve in research was seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly referred to as "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of finding and posting ladies' maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have two maiden names in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up. May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(Bobby Goldsboro, 1960s)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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RE: James Boyd Lynn
Well, you did ask for it! --

According to the 1905 New York State census, his wife's name was Ida, born about 1881; and his daughter's name was Helen F, born about Sept or Oct 1904 - she was 9 months old at the time the NY census was taken, and that census was supposed to be as of 1 June 1905. The NY censuses rarely gave any information about birth location beyond "US," and this one was no exception. I'm guessing Helen was born in NY because, although her Dad was born in MI, he was living with his dad, step-mother, and older brother (my grandfather) in Steuben County, NY, for the 1892 NY census. In the 1900 census, he was living on his own, still in Steuben County. In both of those censuses, his name is shown as Boyd. In the 1905 NY census, where he is married, his name is shown as James B Lynn. It appears as James Boyd Lynn in his New Mexico death record.

Apparently, several members of the family moved to MI from NY after the 1880 census, including James' parents. His mother died in MI in 1886, and his father took the younger children back to NY at some point before 1892. James' older sister was married in MI in 1888 - either the rest of the family had not yet left MI, or she stayed on by herself. His second sister and brother were both married in NY.

I'm still looking through the records on "seeking michigan," although James' mother died before the death records begin, and the MI state census records for 1884 are incomplete. I've been spending a lot of time trying to come up with different search criteria to try to find Ida and Helen in both NY and NM, as well as leaving out a state altogether. With so young a child, Ida may well have gone someplace where she had family, or remarried quickly. I think I need to stop for a while and give my brain a chance to work out new combinations of the few facts I have. ;-)

I have a cousin who almost invariably finds things I can't, just because of the difference in the way our brains work. I would have asked for her help, but she has been quite ill.

I would be most grateful if you were able to find anything, but don't feel any obligation. Thank you for making an offer.

Take care.


Added by Kathy on Oct 01, 2014 10:09 PM
James Boyd Lynn
Thank you so very much for the photo of the area in which James is buried. He was my grandfather's only brother, and I only learned of his existence relatively recently. I had no idea where I might find him. Although you were not able to find a headstone, I deeply appreciate your consideration in photographing the area. When I found out about James, who was born Boyd James Lynn, I finally understood why my grandfather had named his first son Boyd James Lynn. Now I just need to find out what happened to his daughter.

Thank you for helping me take a big step up this ladder I never even knew I was climbing.

Take care.

Added by Kathy on Oct 01, 2014 1:57 PM
Pamela Thompson
Anna Alford, Mount Calvary
Thank you for researching Anna's burial, reporting that she has no gravestone, and posting a photo of the area where she should be buried. I appreciate it.
Added by Pamela Thompson on Sep 30, 2014 9:25 AM
John Iacoletti
thank you once again!
Thanks so much for taking the time to help with headstone photographs. Greatly appreciated!
Added by John Iacoletti on Sep 29, 2014 9:51 AM
What a pleasant surprise, thanks for the photo of Cowan's memorial. Much appreciated.

Added by Dale on Sep 28, 2014 4:07 PM
Thank you very much for your pictures of Brothers and Sisters. It looks like fellows periodically clean their markers.
Added by MousAnon on Sep 27, 2014 1:06 PM
Sharon Fulton
Bruce Lewis at Pleasant Valley
Thanks so much for fulfilling this photo request. I really appreciate it!
Added by Sharon Fulton on Sep 24, 2014 3:44 PM
RE: Mount Calvary Cemetery
Thank you for taking the time on all of these. These are still folks out there that won't take the time to do Military graves....Harv
Added by Harv on Sep 23, 2014 2:58 PM
John Iacoletti
thank you!
Thank you so much for posting the photo of my grandparents headstone! I greatly appreciate it.
Added by John Iacoletti on Sep 22, 2014 4:46 PM
Sanford H. Cole and Mildred Cole
Thank you very much for taking and then posting the pictures of Sanford H. Cole and his wife Mildred. You responded so quickly -- within 48 hours! The set of three photos is amazing -- as you show not only the gravestone detail but also the perspective of the gravesite. I am lucky that you filled my request. Thanks again for your time and dedication to Find A Grave!
Best, Sonja
Added by Sonja on Sep 21, 2014 9:30 PM
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