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I've loved history, research and have been fascinated with the Old West/Victorian times, since I can remember. So when I was introduced to genealogy it just fit! It began for me in 1991 when I was asked by a sweet, elderly neighbor to help her with her family history, as she was legally blind and "afraid to learn how to do this stuff alone, and I sense you love well and learn well." I gave it a try, was quickly hooked and later, became a Genealogist. My first realization that history was a passion for me began in childhood and came through the freakish looks my friends would give me as I'd stand motionless and stare at the dilapidated remains of old cabins, sheds and homesteads; wishing that for just a few seconds I could go back in time to see and feel what they did. I wanted to know what life was like for those that lived there, built their lives literally by the sweat of their brow and sacrificed so much in search of truth, freedoms and a new way. I'm grateful for and to them.
I was born in 1962, have been happily married since 1983, we have four grown and great kids. I grew up in Utah County, mostly Provo, but have lived in Montana since 1996. I love: my family, music, learning, truth, teaching, humor, words, reading, research, singing, children, history, psychology, horses and dogs, mountains, four seasons, sewing, creating, designing, color, being trusted, defending people, organizing, quilts, observing people, serving, volunteering, and the many opportunities I've been given to help people find the best in themselves... their gifts. I love my Savior, Jesus Christ, and His simple truths He shares. I don't love: making mistakes, my weaknesses, condescension, injustice, when power is more important than people, abuse of any kind, especially of the innocent; the use of "so called" truth and religion to gain control over people (ignoring the gift of free will), and when fear stops people from doing the right thing, especially when I notice it in myself.
Pursuing my family history has provided me with much more than I ever anticipated. I am the oldest of six children, as well as, three half siblings and a step-sister. I grew up fast in an incestuous, abusive, negligent, sadistic, chronically traumatic and controlled; yet deeply religious home. I lied to hide it, protect, relate and survive. I felt (and was expected to be) responsible to the extreme, for the well-being of my younger siblings and saw clearly, at a young age, that my parents had been harmed, also. I had many questions, feelings and needs I wasn't allowed to express. The effects caused four disabilities, but I am healing. I've had much to heal in terms of trust in anything or anyone, identity, hope, and just how far back this multi-generational hell goes. Why are the meek, shy, honest and loving in my family devoured by the rest? The ultimate examples are the murder of my paternal grandfather (one of two adults I ever felt unconditional love from in my family) by his own wife, when I was nine years old; as well as, the suicide of one brother. I could not accept that to be loving, sensitive and truthful meant you'd be abused/destroyed and it contradicted the Gospel I was "taught" in the same family and home. I've found some answers, learned much and continue to. The Gospel of Jesus Christ will ALWAYS be true.
I've learned that my heritage also has much greatness besides horrendous abuses and suffering. I see now why I was so compelled to be the first in at least four generations (that I know of) to speak the ugly truth out loud...at age 15. I've been denied, persecuted, threatened, abandoned and alienated by the same people I dedicated my life to. Blamed for "ruining the family" by not keeping the secrets, but still used as their servant, confidant and the only one they could turn to when they needed to be loved, a place to live, to speak their truth and be understood. I see and feel intensely, as I move through my healing and the discovery of each ancestor; that they are grateful the truth is out. They're sorry for the destruction they either passed down or concealed (denied) and they feel freedom as I find and slowly forgive them. They want and need the truth more than ever, since leaving this life. They are grateful that they matter, that their lives did, and that even though much denial still exists in their posterity...the opportunity to face the truth has been offered because it has been spoken out loud and brought out of the shadows, lies, secrets and denial that have enabled it to infect each new generation. They know me...I know them. They can progress from where they are and so can I. We help each other. They matter and have great worth... and they help me finally know that I do too.
Please use edit function on memorial. I'm happy to add/correct info if requested with respect and kindness, include your source. You may use my headstone/cemetery photos.
I love this work, this website and volunteer a lot of my time here. I find that it has truly enhanced my professional genealogical research, as well. However, transfers have become a real issue, many Find A Grave friends are noticing the same thing. Most people are great when negotiating transfers, but too many are toxic. Due to demanding, disrespectful and vicious correspondence I now adhere strictly to Find A Grave transfer rules. Also, a transfer will not happen if you: Fail to state relationship: spouse, parent, sibling, grandparent, great-grandparent, children, grandchildren or great-grandchildren | have no profile | are a collector (harvesting with few contributions) | make demands | request on my public profile - please use edit function | create duplicate claiming you'll delete after transfer | or have been abusive in the past. You can add memorial to your virtual cemetery instead. Abuses will be reported with screenshot as proof. No exceptions. I'm sorry some create the need for these rules to exist. I'm grateful to those that know how to conduct themselves in an appropriate, kind and adult way. Let's keep in mind why and how this website exists.
Please remember I have 30 days to respond to requests, rarely taking longer than 24 hours. I've been entrusted with almost 2500 memorials from inactive, photo-only or fallen gravers, besides memorials I've added; so it takes time to maintain them all. Please be patient. Enjoy Find A Grave!
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|Squeak||Susannah and George Hammond - Evergreen Cemetery, Oakland, Alameda County, CA|
I saw that you had entries for Susannah and George Hammond. I actually took photos of their graves and stones in June. I did not know if you knew George got remarried to Mary Jane. Don't know if that's part of your family history, but thought I'd let you know. I made a memorial for her and also her daughter, Mary A. Smith. There are a lot of people linked to the Locke family (the plot in which they are all buried). It's quite interesting!
Added by Squeak on Sep 13, 2014 1:20 AM
|peggy fannin||RE: Your Family.|
You are a very strong lady. I wish you well .Peggy
Thanks for the note about Tom. We got a call night before last to let us know the arrangements. I'll clean up his memorial after we get through the funeral this weekend.
Added by Becca on Sep 10, 2014 1:56 AM
|Heather Cottrell||RE: Sula Cemetery|
Hey thanks for all your looking around. No hurry. I'll put him in Sula Cemetery. I think it makes sense that his marker might be covered up. If it is a flat style military marker that is something that could have happened for sure. One of my Great Uncle's was a WWII vet and his marker has sunk into the ground quite a bit and mud washes over it sometimes. I have to clean it once in awhile. No hurry and thanks in advance for looking!
|Bonnie T||RE: So happy you're here!|
miss me already? lol, I do you. yes, I am figuring it out as I go. Thank you so much...however, now I am hooked. I also signed on as a volunteer photo taker. Went walking the graveyards yesterday..I love graveyards, but didn't find them...yet, going again today to finish. These graveyard here are pretty well documented I think, cant really freelance unless I figure out a way to weed out the ones that have been done and the ones that still need doing. I lived in Provo also...briefly 85-87, it is so beautiful there, also have family in Heber. Took a train through Montana, on a visiting trip from seattle to Indiana and also driving when I was transferred from Virginia to California. Traveler or just restless?..neither, it just happened, I didn't even try? Yes lots of places, lots of differences. But of all the places I have been, I have only wanted to go to Italy since high school. questa è la vita.
Added by Bonnie T on Sep 09, 2014 12:56 PM
|peggy fannin||RE: Your Family.|
I hope you can help by writing a book . It could help you heal. Write a little bit and go back later and add more. There are many people out there that had to suffer like you did. We all have skeleton in our closets Me included.
|Heather Cottrell||RE: Sula Cemetery|
Thanks for the reply. I was wondering if you thought maybe he could be at Sula Cemetery or maybe it used to be called something else. Anyway, I know he has a marker because his family applied for a military one. He was a Civil War veteran. Here is the info if you want it. I'm looking for Larkin Cameron born Nov. 28, 1823 in TN and died at Sula, MT June 16, 1898. His wife is buried in Illinois along with two daughters. Both of the daughters married into my Jennings line and I thought it would be nice if I could locate their Dad but he isn't really in my tree. I'll take a look at some of those leads you sent to me. Thanks!
You should write a book . It might help other people that had had to through life like yours It touched my heart. Peggy
|peggy fannin||Your Family.|
Your story was so moving and so sad. Hope you can get beyond this life you had and went to a better life.
|Heather Cottrell||Sula Cemetery|
I am looking for someone with information about the Sula Cemetery in Montana. I'm looking for the right cemetery to add a person to. He lived in Sula but his burial record says he was buried in Tolan Creek Cemetery. There is not a Tolan Creek Cemetery on Find a Grave. Any info you can send me would be helpful. I picked you out because you posted the photo of Sula Cemetery. If you have no info of the area do you know anyone else I can contact? I'm way out in the Midwest so need help with the "leg" work. Any help is appreciated.
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