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Tim & Grace (#46907821)
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Bio Photo I have been doing genealogical research since 1984. I retired from the Air Force in 1994. I recently became a volunteer of RAOGK (Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness) for Somerset County, Maine. I am a member of the Maine Old Cemeteries Association, the New England Historic Genealogical Society, and the Buckfield Historical Society. I am also Historian and Past Commander of John D. Long Post #58, American Legion, Buckfield, Maine. I am a son of Donald Mackay Cooper and Ruth Marcelyn Hersey.

Findagrave is an excellent way to reunite families by linking them together. Most families are buried together, so finding where they are buried helps to reconstruct families. Linking them together using the census is also helpful. I have a few "trees" on that I use in conjunction with my findagrave research. Not everyone can afford membership to, so linking families together on findagrave can help more people find their lost kin.

I will [Transfer] memorials.
I feel that we can make more meaningful memorials on FindAGrave if volunteers can work together instead of using the "Family First policy of Four Generations" as an excuse to keep memorials from being corrected...

If you are afraid of making transfers (I guess in the old days people would delete the transferred memorial) there is an alternative to the long and tedious process of having the other contributor "spoon feed" the information to you. Do a "temporary transfer". This is done the same as a normal transfer, but with the understanding that once the updates and links are made, it gets transferred BACK to the creator. This involves TRUST. It is best to do just one memorial at a time. If it doesn't get transferred back... NO MORE SOUP FOR YOU! "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me!" Please, give it a try. There are so many "inactive" volunteers these days, the rest of us need to be able to work together and not bicker. When you click on [Transfer Management] the instructions state: "This action is PERMANENT and can not be undone." This is misleading. The PERMANENT implies that it will be lost to you FOREVER. That is true only if it NEVER gets transferred back to your control. The other aspect of TEAMWORK TRANSFER is that the person who contributes the research can add their name in the bio or notes with an embedded link. Contributors who say they will add information that you send to them don't always credit their source. They don't want others taking credit for the photos they post, but they don't think twice about taking credit for other people's research. Just pass it off as their own.

I have been working on families in Maine in the early 1800s, about the time that Maine became a state separate from Massachusetts. Many of these people seem to have gotten "lost in the shuffle", so I am trying to find where they are buried and link the families together.

I also have a "permission slip" from the Public Affairs office at Togus to take photos of the gravestones of the Disabled Volunteer Soldiers from the Eastern Branch of U.S. National Home that are buried in Togus National Cemetery.

Some people won't link to "unknown burial locations". A lot of old gravestones are "lost" in old cemeteries that have been neglected over the years. "Roots" helped to renew interest in cemeteries back in the 1970s. Old "lost" cemeteries are still being discovered as old family homesteads are being sold in this depressed economy. The families who lived there may have known about the old cemetery, but nobody else did.
Many of those old timers passed away long ago. We often know when and where they lived and died, but just don't know where their gravestone is. It is irresponsible to just stick them in any old cemetery in the town that they died in. It is a sure bet that SOMEBODY will request a gravestone photo and then someone else will go off on a "wild goose chase" looking for the gravestone.
When "unknown burial location" is used, there is always a risk of "duplication" if the gravestone is ever found in the real world.

By the way... these are all "virtual" cemeteries... this is the internet! Any resemblance to "real" cemeteries in the "real" world is purely coincidental. Right now Findagrave is more like FOUNDagrave. If they don't have a gravestone still standing... they didn't exist!!!

Just my opinion. Opinions are like rectums, we all have one... and the older we get the harder it is to keep from hearing them to ourselves!

"Live Long and Prosper!" \V/,
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Charles Frith
Mabell Idella Bickford-Simmons
Hi Tim/Grace.... Mabell is not buried in Mt. Pleasant... she's in Mt. Hope Cemetery...the Mt. Pleasant section is closer to the hill... Also her husband, Charles A. Simmonds is not buried there. He is buried in South Portland in Mt. Pleasant cemetery with his Mother Sarah Marsters-Simmonds-gould (1849-1919).... I believe they are in John gurney's lot.......Mabell is in the lot with her son, Clyde P Simmons and his wife Cherrie Grant.... there is also an infant child of George Simmons there, Charles A Simmons.......also my parents Burton & Joyce (Simmonds) Frith. I don't seem to be able to update the cemetery on Charles A. Simmons. I have the funeral flyer for both Charles A Simmonds Jr. & Sr from Sept 15 & 26 1906.... they both died in train accidents in the train yard where Charles Sr. worked... if you would like to email me at I can give you more information. I'll post some photos I have. Mabell died in 1926 from uteran cancer at age 49. She was 29 when widowed and pregnant with twins, Everett & Evelyn, who were born in April 1907 and died that July from Cholera.
Added by Charles Frith on Sep 20, 2014 7:30 PM
Charles Frith
Mrs. Polly Britt (1796-1830)
You have Mrs. Polly Britt listed as a daughter of John & Catherine and wife of John Chamberlain...this doesn't seem in line with her tombstone which clearly states Mrs. Polly BRITT and with Polly as a nickname, her formal name would have been either Mary or Martha, so it stands to reason she is a daughter-in-law of one of the you have access to You wish to look at my Simmonds-Frith tree that gives a lot on the Britts... I may still have the Britt tree up as well (unsure)....

Charles Simmonds-Frith
Added by Charles Frith on Sep 20, 2014 11:29 AM
Charles Frith
RE: Vienna Cochran Bickford
I JUST found the Robert & Judith Cochran in Waterville..... how this family illuded me I do not know but I am definitely going to compare them to Robert & Martha (Kennedy) Cochran/Cothran in Edgecomb.... after seeing the census, Robert & Judith seem most plausible for both Judith & Vienna.......
Added by Charles Frith on Sep 19, 2014 6:14 PM
Sally - Midcoast Maine
RE: Sally Cony, wife of James Hewins in Kling Cemetery in Augusta
Hi Tim,

Hope all is well. I do not think I said thank your for your help on this one - so thank you :-)

Added by Sally - Midcoast Maine on Sep 17, 2014 5:40 PM
Quick Question

I was looking at your wonderful memorial for Mary Carpenter (Memorial# 55513020). The letter from Governor Bradford and his wife to their sister Mary is amazing. Where did you find it?
Again, thanks for posting it.
Added by Angie on Sep 10, 2014 5:35 PM
k. jordan
Added by k. jordan on Sep 09, 2014 7:20 PM
Charles Allen Young
Hi Tim

Please submit the information you want added through the EDIT system. I update several times a week.

Added by AuntieJ on Sep 07, 2014 5:19 PM
Bonnie Kies
RE: Lucas family in Maple Grove Cemetery
Not sure where my brother was stationed. I do know he went to Germany, and a few other places. And Thanks, I know you feel that way but I still like to ask. I don't think Iv'e found any Coopers yet but you never know. Thanks and Good night cous.
Bonnie :) LOL
Added by Bonnie Kies on Sep 06, 2014 11:05 PM
Bonnie Kies
Air Force
I just noticed that you were in the Air Force, Iv'e read your face page before but it just hit me. (It's late n I'm a little slowwww). My Brother Richard was in the Air Force as well. Bonnie :)
Added by Bonnie Kies on Sep 05, 2014 9:44 PM
Bonnie Kies
RE: Lucas family in Maple Grove Cemetery
Who's Mary Lucas his wife was Jane R. Reed McIntire. Or did you mean Mary J Larrabee?
May I add John Avery Lucas to my tree? Giving you credit for the Photo and Memorial. I don't know why they didn't see it unless it was because they were looking for a stone. Do you have the Plot #?
Thanks for all your help. Bonnie :)
Added by Bonnie Kies on Sep 05, 2014 9:42 PM
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