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E49 (#46944208)
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Dear Concerned Find-A-Gave Contributors and visitors,

Regarding: DUPLICATE MEMORIALS in the Shenandoah Valley of Virginia

A former large volume F-A-G Contributor had a dispute with Find-A-Grave staff and Deleted some 80% or more, of their contributed memorials, estimated to be about 40,000 or so. Thus causing the rest of us local Contributors, over the last year or more, to re-enter those family, friends and distant relatives we noted were missing.

Once F-A-G had decided to take positive action, they reloaded all the Deleted memorials from that former F-A-G Contributor, on Wednesday, 25feb2015. F-A-G staff, undoubtedly knew they would cause tens of thousands of Duplicates, and assigned their staffer, known as 'ProjectMgr' to work through their Merge process.

Please be patient and allow F-A-G to work through the entire group of Duplicate memorials.

Thank you.


My primary Find-A-Grave foci are the following cemeteries for which I clip Death Notices:
-ANC - Arlington National Cemetery, Arlington,Va
-CG - Columbia Gardens Cemetery, Arlington, Va
-MC - Merrifield Cemetery, Falls Church, Va
-NMP - National Memorial Park, Falls Church, Va
-OC - Oakwood Cemetery, Falls Church, Va
-QNC - Quantico National Cemetery, Pr Wm Co, Va

Anyone having interest in ANC & QNC, primarily, that would like to add memorials and/or death notice data, I have been amassing them since I joined FAG and could use your help. Just send me an e-mail indicating your focus and I'll arrange as many as you would like to handle and mail/deliver them to you. Thank you in advance for your consideration. Special Note: Due to several prolific FAG Contributors, most of the Death Notices I have clipped have been memorialized with only the basics: name, dates and cemetery data. Many of the DNs have relatives, living and predeceased, plus biographical data that are truly worthly of posting, and Linking. This type of enhancement requires submitting the data to the original Contributor or transfer of the memorial to other caring Contributors willing to do this further step. My sincere thanks to those who have offered to assist me in the past.

To all those wonderful people who add photos, provide link data, etc, and those who simply offer 'flowers' to any of my memorials, I humbly Thank You on behalf of those who have passed on.


Your tombstone stands among the rest
Neglected and alone
The name and date are chiseled out
On polished marble stone
It reaches out to all who care
It is too late to mourn
You did not know that I exist
You died and I was born
Yet each of us are cells of you
In flesh, in blood and bone
Our blood contracts and beats a pulse
Entirely not our own
Dear Ancestor, the place you filled
One hundred years ago
Spreads out among the ones you left
Who would have loved you so
I wonder if you lived and loved
I wonder if you knew
That someday I would find this spot
And come to visit you

Author Unknown


*You know who you are when you know who they were.*

*Those we love don't go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard but always near, still loved, still missed, forever dear.*

Per FAG Contributor Treva Poe.


No terror has death, or the grave,
To those who believe in the Lord -
Who know the Redeemer can save,
And lean on the faith of his word;
While ashes to ashes, and dust
We give unto dust, in our gloom,
The light of Salvation we trust,
Which hangs like a lamp in the tomb.


Unable are the loved to die.
For love is immortality.
~ Emily Dickinson ~


A fine compilation by Contributor Patricia, 4753 3805, of worthy words:

Lastly, a few thoughts on genealogy . . .

The wise man must remember that while he is a descendant of the past, he is a parent of the future. . . Herbert Spencer

Nothing makes our ancestors seem more real than to walk where they walked and to stand where they finally came to rest.

Our most treasured family heirlooms are our sweet family memories. . . Unknown

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. . . Anonymous

"There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go." ~Author Unknown


"When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark of who I am in who you are. It means that even after I die, you can still see my face and hear my voice and speak to me in your heart." - Fredrick Beekner

As found on 'Calmly Searching's Contributor page.


"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."


When we are dead and people weep for us and grieve,
Let it be because we touched their lives in a special way.

Let it not be said that life was good to us but rather we were good to life.

We should not measure life by its length but by the value it gave.

Lives that have been intimately intertwined,
can not possibly be separated without pain.

It is a miracle, nothing less than a miracle,
That flowers bloom every spring,
That living thing begets living thing
That we human beings immerge again and again
From ignorance to knowledge from hopelessness to
From sadness to joy.
It is a miracle nothing less than a miracle.

They are not dead, those who leave us this heritage of remembered joy,
They still live in our hearts in the happiness we knew,
In the dreams that we shared.

They still breathe in the lingering fragrance,
Windblown by their favourite flowers.

They still smile in the moonlight silver,
And laugh in the sunlight sparkling gold.

They still speak in the echoes of words we have heard them say again and again.

They still dance in the rhythm of the grass and dance in the branches of the trees.

They are not dead,
their memory is warm in our hearts,
comfort in our sorrow.

They are not apart from us but a part of us.
For love is eternal and those we love shall be with us for all Eternity.

From the reading by
Robyn Lenehan - Civil Celebrant
(NSW Australia)

As found in the memorial to
Margaret A. Runte Dibbert
# 5232 5569 by cryptfindr.

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"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal
love leaves a memory no one can steal."
~ From a gravestone in Ireland

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Excerpt from memorial to Find-A-Graver Patricia Ann Holaway, # 6574 5644, by Beverly Joe Vaughn.
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RE: Polk, Mary A 'Polly' nee: Hepner - # 13375 5645 - Christ Reformed Ch Cem, C, ScV
I have changed Polly Polk's name to reflect the changes you suggested. On, I found some information about William West, but haven't found out anything about his actual date of death or burial place. He is listed on the 1850 census with his parents and siblings, but haven't found any subsequent census'.
Added by Nancy on Jul 21, 2015 4:34 AM
Anne Agee
RE: West, William Henry & Gertrude nee Minor - # 14864 8979 & 14864 9037 - Glenwood Cem, W, DC
Like you, I was following a twig on a distant branch. I'm related to the Somervells, Marie Louise West's first husband's family. I happened to get access to the Glenwood records and I always like to create memorials and link up families when I can. I'm so glad it was helpful to you. I've certainly gotten a lot of help from other people's work on Find A Grave. So, it's nice to be able to pass along the favor.
Added by Anne Agee on Jul 19, 2015 6:33 PM
RE: Dellinger, Sarah Ann nee: Overholtz - # 77561516 - Revisited
Dear E49,
I really don't want to hear from you again. It seems that you think I am two years old for some reason (I am way beyond that). A short note asking me to move the photo would have sufficed, not a dissertation on how Find A Grave works. Sorry to sound gruff, but I really don't have time for this. Best wishes!
Added by Nancy on Jul 15, 2015 1:09 PM
Shenandoah Valley of Virginia
Thank you for the note above concerning the deleted/reloaded memorials. I have never figured out the discussion forums and had not heard about this. Fortunately I only created three memorials that are affected.

Do you know if Find A Grave will consider mine (which were created when no other memorial for the individual existed) to be the "duplicate" because it has a later date? Or, if when the duplicates are merged, will I "loose" mine to whoever is managing the reloaded memorial? (One of the reloaded memorials that is a match to mine has already been transferred to another contributor.) Is there a way to get those other two "matches" transferred to me?

My apologies for asking so many questions. I just haven't figured where else to turn. Please let me know if there is a better place to get the answers.

Best wishes and thanks again.

Added by Flutterby on Jul 06, 2015 9:34 PM
Brenda & Pete
RE: Helsley, Samuel Joseph & Elizabeth F - 63849583 & 63849174 - Rolling Green Mem Pk, PA
Good afternoon,

You're so very welcome. I check every day for any edits/corrections to the memorials that I created. When I have the time and opportunity I look to see if there is anything else I can add.

Genealogy and grave hunting are rewarding and frustrating at the same time. Pete and I enjoy walking cemeteries hoping to find lost family. We have discovered a few family members that way.

If there is anything else we can help with, just let me know.

Have a good day.

Brenda & Pete

Added by Brenda & Pete on Jul 05, 2015 1:04 PM
Philip Jay Nielson
I did put in an edit to link the daughter but I don't think the owner of the memorial saw it because now my link is listed as "no change."
Added by hgs205 on Jul 02, 2015 4:19 PM
Leland Sorensen
Philip Jay Nielson
I have not yet received any edits to link Phil and Stephanie, but I have gone ahead and linked them anyway. Thanks for the heads up.
Added by Leland Sorensen on Jul 02, 2015 3:34 PM
Vernon Marsteller CGC
I'm afraid I know nothing about him except what the obit says.
Added by hgs205 on Jul 01, 2015 3:04 PM
John Rentz
RE: McArdle, Willard Cottle 'Mac' - 11428 4932
Thank you for the information on Willard McArdle. Memorial number 114284932.

Added by John Rentz on Jul 01, 2015 1:46 PM
Bill and April
RE: Wakeman, Harold & Mabel - 140773777 & 140773821 - Bayside Cem, Lacona, Belnap Co, NH
We were happy to help. Just sort of stumbled onto the stone. We were able to figure out nine of the ten. Do you know how Florence J. wakeman figured into the family. I would love to link her appropriately if you know something. All the best. Bill &April
Added by Bill and April on Jun 05, 2015 1:57 PM
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