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With Spring moving into summer, I find myself trying to focus on the theme of rebirth, and trying to shake the gloom of the losses of the past year.
Yeah... it's been a year: my mom, May 26.
And two days later, it's my birthmom's Angel Day on the 28th.
My sister and brother in law and their son recently lost a very special friend, Smokey, a wise and wily feline sprite who smartly avoided homelessness by choosing more than one home.
If you are wondering whom else to visit, perhaps you'd kindly look in on my dearest, or maybe you would read about some of my sponsorships.
I also recently learned about the passing of one of my former mentors, and have remembered the dynamic Emile O. Schmidt, if you have the time to honor him.
For our family, 2012 was a long and challenging year that included two major losses. Bouncing back is coming slow. Right now with these losses, it feels difficult to spend a lot of time on the site; dear ones now gone take up a lot of my brain already. As things settle down inside, I hope to be more active once more on the site. I am grateful to the folks who, despite my relative absence, have been faithful friends to me, who have honored my family here, and who kept my mom in their prayers and supported me.
If you have a moment, would you please send prayers to fellow contributor Ann H?
And if you have another moment, please consider leaving a token for our fellow contributor, White Light.
Picture use: You are welcome to use pictures for personal use, but I do NOT consent for their use online or on commercial or paid sites. FindAGrave is about sharing what you know, and I will not have my good will co-opted and monetized. I saw some of my pics stolen from here and put on ancestry.com and I am taking action to correct this.
Transfers and suggestions: Forgive me, but experience has been a harsh teacher. I used to be very cool about transferring, but I've had enough of people demanding transfers for relatives for whom they cannot even articulate the relationship or who want all the people I have memorialized with a given surname or a spouse's great uncle. I'm alienated by people who single-mindedly expect a transfer without reflecting that maybe the memorial in question has meaning or relationship to me and my family. I'm adopted, working on both birth and adopted families. I have a lot of family to cover, possibly double the size of yours, and I have not articulated my relationship to the subject of every memorial for privacy reasons. You love them? Guess what? I might too.
We can both be related to and love the subject of an online memorial. Rather than quibble, I would be gladder still to improve a memorial with your suggestions sent via SAC. Let's do the right thing and make the memorial accurate, suitable and a reflection of that person's life. You can put the improved memorial in a "virtual cemetery" without needing ownership of it, as I have done with relatives that other contributors have added to the site. I can add links or the info you wish, and you are welcome to add pictures.
On the other hand, if the memorial is one I have added by chance or the subject is no one related to me or is one to whom I have no attachment, I will offer to transfer in a heartbeat.
FindAGrave memorials are online representations of real graves, not trading cards. I don't collect them for numbers. There are relatives of mine another contributor has memorialized on the site that I do not "own" and have not asked for, content that I have added the info I have, and linked them to their kin.
"Many African societies divide humans into three categories; those still alive on earth, the sasha, and the zamani. The recently departed whose time on earth overlapped with people still here are the sasha, the living-dead. They are not wholly dead, for they still live in the memories of the living, who can call them to mind, create their likeness in art, and bring them to life in anecdote. When the last person to know an ancestor dies, that ancestor leaves the sasha for the zamani, the dead. As generalized ancestors, the zamani are not forgotten but revered. Many can be recalled by name. But they are not living-dead. There is a difference." -- from "Lies My Teacher Told Me" by James Loewen
So perhaps the progression of the living to the sasha to the zamani cannot be helped, but we record here those we knew, both sasha and zamani, and leave some record of them. And if they are sashas to us, perhaps our record keeps them sashas longer as we offer our first hand accounts of them.
It bothers me that time passes, because I sense my friends and family members moving out of sight as they pass through the celestial plan, or whatever you like to call it. I am just conscious that our grip on those we know and love is constantly eroding. I think this is why I have been drawn to FindAGrave; I can't stop people from dying, but I can stop them from being forgotten, and can see the lives of people other contributors feel the same about, those they don't want to shift out of focus as time clouds memories and people who knew others pass on. Here, at least, we can freeze them in time and recount all that made them good or special.
Your visits to my loved ones mean a lot to me. They mean my folks here are not forgotten, and honor people I really loved or respected or took the time to research, so thank you. I enjoy honoring people remembered on Find a Grave, and do take the time to read bio info on memorials. I appreciate knowing about the people other folks want remembered.
Every memorial entered here has been done with respect and good intent, in the hopes dear ones will not be forgotten. Any concerns, additions and so on are most welcome here on this page.
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|TRUCKER||RE: so very sorry...|
Thank you so much for your kind words of support i am so very greatfull for you and others on this site,very kind and caring people.I only somhow got the strenght to put my father on site after i lost my wife ,I want to make a memorial for my wife but i guess it might take me some time i loved her so much and still cant belive she is not here, im sorry to ramble Thanks again God bless you and your familly . your freind TRUCKER
Added by TRUCKER on Jun 17, 2013 5:40 PM
|Shirley Kepner Maribona||RE: Rev. Lackey|
|Zuzu*s Petals||RE: prayers said...|
Thank you for the prayer said for my mom. I appreciate you kindness more than you will ever know!
Warmest regards - Kathie
I wanted to say thank you for remembering my brother on his Angel Day. My Mom had a stroke a few days before his angel day and we were tied up in the hospital with her. I wasn't able to get to a computer to remember him on that day; my heart is grateful that you were able to to honor him. Thank you again from the bottom of my heart.
Added by Cheri on Jun 13, 2013 9:02 PM
|Linda B||Henry Kephart|
Thanks for the postings.
Added by Linda B on Jun 10, 2013 9:43 AM
Thanks - that's a long way from home! Summer's great. Hot and love it!
Added by GerbLady on Jun 08, 2013 6:19 PM
|Tigress||A soldier to remember|
Dear sr/ks, Over the Memorial Day holiday, I discovered the Find A Grave site of my cousin George M. Hogan whose plane was lost over the Pacific in WWII. He was the child of my mother's twin sister, who died giving birth to him. George was only 19 when he disappeared on a combat mission. I never knew him, but his loss was very painful for my family. I am so pleased to be able to honor him, and would greatly appreciate your visiting his site.
Find A Grave Memorial# 56110995
Thank you very much, Janice aka Tigress
Added by Tigress on Jun 08, 2013 1:36 PM
|BJShields||Re: Rev. A. M. Evers|
Thanks for letting me know about the other memorial. There's was actually listed before mine, but I did search for a possible existing memorial before I added mine. I guess it was a slim chance I would recognize the memorial, especially in another state. I did contact the other owner and let them know. Thanks again!
|BJShields||Re: Isaac Statton|
I've added the links you provided. Thanks for the info!
|David Bays||RE: Kephart|
That was a good and short bio for Henry Hunter Kephart, Jr.! Thanks for adding it. I knew his son's (Bishop Cyrus Jeffries Kephart) daughter, Ethel Lucile Kephart (Curts). Ethel and her husband Lloyd got me hooked on the Kephart geneology. They were a terrific couple!
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