Please, please do not send me a personal email unless I have sent you a message through the FAG system first. If I do not know you, your email will be deleted, no exceptions.
I write the obituaries you see in the biography seciton of the memorials I post here on Find A Grave. I collect information from many sources such as online newspapers, mortuaries and not least of which ancestry.com. If I regurgitate an obituary, I will do my best to state the credit where it is due to cover the plagiarism caused. If you see an obituary posted to the side of the memorial in the photo section, feel free to click on it to find the paper and date it is from.
Find A Grave is becoming more than just a gravesite reference. More and more, the site is being used for genealogy research, even if FAG is not quite aware of that yet. I say that because of some of the "rules" they have set up. There is one question they try to address that seems to be a detriment towards that goal. The rule that first memorial in a cemetery, over a memorial made in the "unknown" status, is the one that should stand in the cemetery, It is quite detrimental to the site. It not only deters anyone from doing genealogy research for known memorials on their said family tree because of nowhere to put the information found, it also deters current memorials being set up from obituaries that do not state the disposition of the body.
Since Find a Grave has become a remembrance site, EVERYONE deserves to be remembered, cemetery or not. On obituaries that do not state the burial place, I will say so in notes. If a cemetery is later found, I will place the memorial correctly, regardless of a memorial entered at a later date than my original memorial in the correct cemetery. I believe contributors are all here with one goal; to preserve history. I have no patience or respect for contributors who do not search for a previous memorial and contribute to the refinement of that previously entered memorial. Those who regurgitate memorials from cemetery lists and obituaries without showing respect for fellow contributors hard work are not doing good work here and only contribute to the growing perception that FAG is becoming unreliable with so many entries and conflicting information. Personally, first memorial entered is the one that should stay in the site. If I have duplicated a memorial, it was not intentional. If there is information on my duplicate memorial, use it on your memorial and let me know and I will gladly delete mine. Those contributors here for the "count" find some other meaning in your life.
That being said, Find A Grave has as many silly and arbitrary rules as the site has inadequacies. It is a great site, but nobody and nothing is perfect, including me, by all means. Work with the sites shortcomings, not against them. Please don't put all the previous married names on the maiden name slot. It just makes the maiden name of the woman completely unsearchable because they are there. Enter the female memorials as the person was last known. If she was known with the previous married names, enter them in the last name slot, otherwise leave them off. Mention the previous marriages in the biography, that's what it is there for.
If you need to contact me for transfers, additions or corrections, do so through the edit tab only. If I have contacted you by that means and you need to discuss the message with me, email me but please put the name of the person of the memorial and the memorial number in the regarding line. If this is not done, your message stands a very good chance of being deleted.
If you have read this far, good on you and thank you. I spend a great deal of time on this site and I do so for free, as do most contributors. Please show kindness and be polite, those two things will get you a long way in life.