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CryptoGram (#46897564)
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

Time to welcome the obvious: FindAGrave is like any other pyramid-type as the membership increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? -LOL and go figure.

The picture "request" function started around mid-2007, and pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed; at first there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Newbie & younger FindAGrave members aside, there are more of us Boomers retiring with time to dedicate to genealogy and actually traveling around, stopping to visit and photograph cemeteries...MANY times we'll discover there're already pictures on memorials we INTENDED to either make or add to...but we also take and exchange pictures to help our old-fogey networks fulfill requests far away from themselves so our foot/finger/brain exercises are not all for naught.

Fodder is running lower, but there are still helpful and personally-rewarding "angel" tasks to be done. OakHill in DC used to not allow pictures or much record sharing, but is now pretty complete...YAY to whomever was able to supply this good deed! Maybe some of you with button cameras and smartphones can start furtively snapping up & down the rows of Mount Olivet in DC, RoseHill in Chicago...and I'm sure others...that still do not cooperate with picture-taking.

ANY information on privately-owned and defunct burial places is still ALWAYS appreciated by those seeking the trails of their ancestors...are they still there lying unmarked and disrespected? Were they moved elsewhere? Are they near other family and/or friends? I was gladly able to do this for the cemetery nearest to me in kidhood that I never knew about way back then ~ when I held my breath in passing cemeteries ~ as it was already defunct...altho' one of my brothers once found a toppled headstone while bike-riding (him, not the headstone) dirt roads there.

Those who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I myself have encountered snakes and Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter. Which reminds me I did visit one cemetery that had a homeless? person living in it...not there, but I didn't want to bother his? belongings.

You many kind, prolific contributors might try adding people from their death records found online...including where you got the data from and that they probably have no marker so the living don't get false hope for a picture.

I'm still glad to help with the research part however I'm able.

Other Less-Important Stuff:

Some might think others of us are too possessive about pictures we take and post, but you probably haven't encountered someone who deletes memorials after lifting the pictures others added to them...then remakes the memorials with same pictures claimed as their own. It takes just one rotten apple to require others to generate reports on such activity...and restrict the rest of the barrel.

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >> ONLY post photos for which YOU hold the copyright (meaning photos you took)!!!

The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.

No photos taken from any website, including Find A Grave!!! <<

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including " FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

I found including biographies & obits helpful, but they are against site rules unless I/you own the copyrights so do not ask me to add them to memorials unless you can include ownership assurance.

My Reasons for Being on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died from the effects of Agent Blue (used along with Agent Orange in Vietnam) while my husband was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors: at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my "hanky-panky in the palace" people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My biggest peeve in research was seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly referred to as "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of finding and posting ladies' maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have two maiden names in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up. May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(Bobby Goldsboro, 1960s)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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Terri Hutson
soleme Sanchez
Hey, thank you for the picture.

Have a great day.
Added by Terri Hutson on Dec 22, 2014 8:06 PM
Bryan Anderson
Amarante L. Castillo
Thank you so much for the photograph of the gravestone for Amarante L. Castillo. This is definitely the guy I was seeking.

As I may have said, I'm collecting photographs, stories, and etcetera of the members of Company B, 355th Infantry, 89th Division. I'm not sure of where I'm going with this, but would it be acceptable to use your image in any article or perhaps even a book I may write?

Again, thank you for your efforts.


Bryan Anderson
Added by Bryan Anderson on Dec 22, 2014 4:24 PM
Leona Henderson
Harrison, Mary Lou
Thank you for contributing your time and effort to fulfill my photo request for Mary Lou Harrison.

I am pretty sure you have walked miles in cemeteries for Find A Grave-smile

Happy Holidays
Added by Leona Henderson on Dec 15, 2014 3:42 PM
John Iacoletti
Charles T Hubert
Thanks so much - you are the best!
Added by John Iacoletti on Dec 13, 2014 5:46 PM
A Walston
William Jackson Walston, Jr-Find A Grave Memorial# 21131223
Thank you so much for posting the nice headstone photo on William Jackson Walston, Jr-Find A Grave Memorial# 21131223. I appreciate your work.
Added by A Walston on Dec 13, 2014 5:37 AM
Carol Gutierrez & Mary Sena
Thank you so much for another well done job.
Added by Rosalie on Dec 12, 2014 5:06 PM
robert sanchez
Thanks for Steven A. Garcia's Grave Site Picture!!!
Added by robert sanchez on Dec 10, 2014 5:57 AM
John Iacoletti
Charles T Hubert
Thanks again for your efforts Crytogram! This is the wrong Charles Hubert though. The middle initial and dates don't match. Can you check?
Added by John Iacoletti on Dec 09, 2014 5:26 PM
thank you
I live too far away to regularly visit my brother's grave - to find his grave here was a surprise, thank you for posting the picture.
Added by nightshadesraven on Dec 08, 2014 9:11 PM
Mary Lou Pfenning
Thanks again and have happy holidays!!!!
Added by Mary Lou Pfenning on Dec 08, 2014 9:36 AM
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