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sticksandstones (#46888135)
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Bio Photo BIO: Interested in genealogy, cemetery art, historical preservation, Colonial, Civil War, and present day history of the Eastern North Carolina and South Carolina low country regions, plus visiting historically significant cemeteries in the United States. My interests have lately focused on the Baynard, Barnwell, Bailey, Burrows, Elliott, Jenkins, Mikell, Jones, Smith and Whaley families of Beaufort, Edisto Island, Charleston, Columbia, Orangeburg, Port Royal, South Carolina.

Why Sticks and Stones?

I have to take a moment to express appreciation for a book I found about year 2000 in an independent bookshop on the 2nd floor of a building in Wake Forest, North Carolina. That book was ' Sticks and Stones: Three Centuries of North Carolina Gravemarkers (Richard Hampton Jenrette Series in Architecture and the Decorative Arts) by M. Ruth Little'. It spurned my interest in the historical and cultural aspects of cemeteries, and lured me into exploring the backwoods, and not so backwoods cemeteries of North Carolina and South Carolina, and eventually led me to join Find A Grave to help document and photograph stones for others to see.

I've stood in amazement looking at wooden gravemarkers over 300 years old, learned of the stone carvers trade, dominated by the Italian stone artists of Connecticut and Massachusetts, that were first imported to the south, and later done locally by stonecarvers who moved to the South. I learned about the distinct regions of distribution of peoples in NC,from many places; the Scot-Irish of the mountains, the Germans and Czechs(Moravians) of the piedmont, the English in east central NC, and the French Huegenots and Irish who settled along the coast. Many of the settlements were influenced by early Indian trade routes. I encourage you to get a copy for your taphology library.


Want to know how to convert the practice of stating a person's elapsed life span(example: 59 years 10 months 14 days)at the time of their death, into their date of birth? Use this Age Calculator Tool

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I will no longer do additional information/links etc from this message area... Please use the EDIT link on each memorial for that.

Transfer are only done by FIND A GRAVE RULES below and with-in the generations noted..PLEASE read the rules carefully..... and do not expect to get transfers just because you state they are in your FAMILY OR PARENT lines...

Transfer requests should be your siblings, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

You are free to use any of my photos for personal genealogy and family tree work. It would be much appreciated if you give credit to me as the source. Please do not use my photos for any commercial purpose without contacting me. Thanks for assistance in this request.

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Please be aware of the rules when asking for transfers. Guidelines

Transfer requests should be your siblings, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

Please state your exact relationship when you contact me.

You should not ask for transfers of people whom were born and died in the 1700 time frame. MANY OTHERS MAY ALSO BE RELATED TO THESE SAME PEOPLE.

Again: Please use the edit tab on the upper right hand corner of the memorial when wanting additional information added... Please use the suggest a correction link.


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Could you please transfer the memorial of my great grandfather to me?

Find A Grave Memorial# 64296012
David McDuffie

Added by Rebecca on Nov 18, 2014 1:46 PM
RE: Herman Harris
You're welcome. Information: There is a Louise Harris in same plot Sec/Block 8-1, Plot/Row B-1, Lot# 12 Type of Marker Single. Date 1908 - 2001.
Added by Carolyn on Oct 31, 2014 8:07 AM
Just Plain Nosy
RE: William Boyd Evans photo
You're welcome! And thank you for the nice messages! :)
Added by Just Plain Nosy on Oct 26, 2014 6:40 PM
Linda Quackenbush Turner
Melisa J Buell Smith
Dear Sticks & Stones,

You have posted a photo for her husband's marker, George Buell, however, it's also her marker too. Would you please copy the picture onto her FindAGrave page?

Thank YOU!
Linda Turner
Added by Linda Quackenbush Turner on Oct 19, 2014 8:34 PM
RE: Thank You
Thank You {~;~}
Added by Darryl on Oct 05, 2014 7:19 AM
Annette Bradford
RE: Donnie M Freeman at Dix
I am surprised how many stones are wrong. Death dates are often off by a day. Names are wrong. I do broad searches in the death certificate database--all the ba last names who died on a certain day in raleigh, nc, for instance--and find a record that works on many points but includes problems that would make it hard for family using findagrave to find these folks.

How do these errors get introduced? Unclaimed bodies were sometimes used by medical students. The more times the body changed hands, the more chances of human error.

The easiest public document to find and include is a death certificate, but this works only for folks born since 1910. Some names are unique and easy to research. Others not so much. And the names were recorded at time of death and many names are wrong. They are spelled wrong or they are informal names, what the person was called. The death certificate, being a legal document, was completed by the doctor usually and uses information in the admitting record. I trust it more than the ledger where hospital employees recorded information in hard-to-read handwriting.

The folks who turned numbers into stones did a phenomenal job, but it is inevitable that mistakes would be made.

Added by Annette Bradford on Oct 04, 2014 7:13 AM
Gustav Gaylord Suhrstedt
I am curious about the picture that you posted for Gustav Gaylord Suhrstedt (my 1st cousin 3x removed). Are you related to him? I have many old family pictures that have no names and am anxious to see if any will match this person. I wondered about the number 252 that appears to be hanging from his neck. Do you know what that is? I also would like to ask permission to copy it to my family research —or do I need to ask someone else?

Thank you

Kathy (#48084087)
Added by Kathy on Sep 20, 2014 2:43 PM
Lori Hager
RE: Jane Fludd
I haven't been to any cemeteries in Flat Rock yet but it's not far from me.
Added by Lori Hager on Sep 14, 2014 11:49 AM
Charles Asche
Ethel Schley
How kind of you to write back to me .
The information I have regarding Ethel Schley , is that her birth date is October 9 , 1884 .
Her parents were Charles H. Asche and Isabella ( originally Elisabelle ) Stolpp---[note spelling STOLPP ] Father was Albert Stolpp.
Her[ Ethel Schley's] death date seems to be May 15 , 1971 .
I do remember going to visit her once or twice in the 60's in Winter Park , Florida , where she lived in a little house behind her son's house - who was also named Herbert Schley .
Ethel Schley's two children were Herbert ( same name as father) and Isabelle .
Isabelle was single and never married and lived in Ocala , Florida .
Added by Charles Asche on Sep 08, 2014 4:06 AM
Julia LeGare
Hello again...just wondering if I could use your photo of the crypt for an article I am writing about her story. I would give you photo credit if I can have your permission. -- Also, I found a photo of the inscription that shows 1852 like the memorial states, I just wonder why the older books state she died in 1862?--
Added by J.R. on Aug 07, 2014 3:56 AM
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