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HJ (#46937296)
 member for 8 years, 7 months, 19 days
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Bio Photo 1. SEND SOURCE INFO!!! When sending info for inclusion on memorials I have entered, please include your source (where you found it, or how you know it). This is important. If I think the info is questionable, I might not add it, or will note who sent it to me. I decline to perpetuate errata and will NOT post anything from an unreliable source.

2. MANNERS COUNT. I appreciate POLITE requests and corrections. If you don't know how to use the words, "please," and "thank you," or can't be bothered, then please don't bother at all. If you send extremely rude, or threatening messages, no matter how subtle, I will forward them to the Find A Grave administrators, without exception.

3. I TRANSFER. Aside from my own family, and close friends, I do not hoard memorials. POLITE requests for your family (close, OR distant), and close friends will all be considered. If I am even remotely related, I will not transfer. I will keep my friends, unless your relationship is significantly closer. If you are prone to entering sloppy memorials with incorrect info, I will think twice about a transfer.

4. YOUR PHOTOS: Please don't add bad photos to memorials I have entered, i.e. photos where you can be seen reflected in the stone, your car is in the background, the stone is covered in bird poop, or leaves, or dirt, your dog, or kid can be seen, or photos taken at a carelessly crooked angle, or ones with more "white space," than gravestone (NO need to crop ALL the white space out, and photos of entire family plots are the exception). Please do not add photographs of new graves in their entirety, with no grass growing on the freshly up-turned dirt. Please do not add photos of the temporary plastic grave markers placed by the funeral home, or photos of the gravestone, prior to inscribing of the DOD for new burials--if you do, please anticipate that I will request a removal when a photo of a fully inscribed gravestone has been posted. I spend a lot of time to make attractive, respectful memorials. Your help with that is appreciated.

Note: If the persons grave has no marker, please at least add a photo of the area where the grave is located.

5. MY PHOTOS, those of gravestones and cemeteries, may be used without my permission, EXCEPT on, or any site which requires an exchange of money. There is no need to give me credit and in fact, I would prefer that you don't. However, please do not post one of my original photos to a Find A Grave memorial yourself. Politely make a request and I will gladly add, if appropriate.

6. CAUSES OF DEATH are a matter of public record. If you are related to an individual who has a cause of death posted in their memorial, and you are disturbed by the posting of that cause, I will remove it, upon polite request.

7. I VOLUNTEER. As another member has noted on their profile, I'm not getting paid to do this. Nope, not a penny. I sometimes get behind in doing corrections, updates, etc. Your patience is appreciated. Please remember that edits take time, no one is entitled to my time, and demands are wholly unappreciated (please refer to point #2 above). If you can't wait, you may send the edit request to Find A Grave.

8. LIVING PEOPLE: Please don't add memorials for them, especially, if you haven't yet entered a memorial for YOURSELF. Not only is it against policy, but it's just a horrendous thing to do to someone, without their consent.

9. LIVE & LET LIVE. I am all for receiving and sending updates, corrections, etc. I appreciate notification when I have added a duplicate and will notify others of duplicates. Beyond that, I do not consider myself to be on the Find A Grave police squad, and neither should you. Please allow me to tend to the memorials I have entered. If I add something you don't like to a memorial you have entered, or to that of a family member's, please point it out to me POLITELY. Vague references to Find A Grave policies are not helpful in specific instances--I have entered hundreds of memorials and manage hundreds more. Above all, please remember that Find A Grave IS NOT REAL. The internet is NOT TANGIBLE. What does that mean? In the grand scheme of life, this is small stuff and could go "poof" in an instant.

10. To those who are all about the numbers: THERE IS NO END TO DEAD PEOPLE. Just because I might enter a memorial you wanted to enter, doesn't mean you can't enter one for someone else. There are plenty for all.


In Honor of Our Fallen Brave . . .

In Flanders Fields, 1919, by John McCrae

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie,
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.


THANK YOU to everyone who sends info and corrections for memorials I have entered. Time does not permit me to thank everyone for each individual contribution, but please know that they are appreciated!

In case I have missed anyone, THANK YOU to the PHOTO VOLUNTEERS who have fulfilled my requests--much appreciated!

MANY THANKS to those MEMBERS who have entered memorials for members of my family and who have had the kindness to transfer them to me--you're the BEST!


PRIVATELY OWNED CEMETERIES & PHOTOGRAPHY Privately owned cemeteries may regulate the taking of photographs by persons physically within the boundaries of the cemetery property. Please refer to the laws of the relevant state. More discussion may be perused here: (Courtesy of Find A Grave Member Diehard, profile # 46809256)
Finally, when I die, please no one euphemistically assert that I have "passed." It sounds so impolite, as though a catastrophic gastric feux pas has occurred, and won't fool anyone into thinking I have done something other than dropping DEAD. Geesh, we all do it, so I don't think it is taboo to say it. Furthermore, I shall haunt anyone designating my date of death as an "angel day," or similar nonsense. How presumptuous it would be for anyone, except God, to make such an assumption.

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Andy Allord
RE: Question
Thank you.

I contacted both people regarding Bentley and even a Petrzelka listed as St. Wencel's. I haven't heard back from them yet but I hope to.
Added by Andy Allord on May 02, 2016 10:28 PM
Andy Allord
HJ, how do you fit into the Bentley's?
Added by Andy Allord on May 02, 2016 8:05 PM
Andy Allord
RE: Bohemian National Cemetery
Madeline is not buried there yet. I know she passed away a couple days ago but arrangements are still being finalized by my cousin Gene.

Madeline is my Aunt, Gene is my Uncle (her husband)... Erwin and Helen Bentley are Gene's parents, my grandparents.... William and Anna are my great grandparents... Ralph is brother to Erwin with their sister being buried in Antigo...

I've communicated this information to the person taking care of St. Wencel's but I will gladly contact them again.

As for the confusion happening. There was once a tree line between the Bohemian National and St. Wencel's, unfortunately it was cut down years ago, before my Dad passed in 1997 as his plot was right next to the tree line as he loved trees...

As you can see this is a family kind of cemetery as even Petrzelka's are related as my grandmother's maiden name was Petrzelka...

Thanks again and enjoy your evening.
Added by Andy Allord on May 02, 2016 7:06 PM
RE: Joyce.Omahen
I have first hand knowledge. Her mother was my father's sister and our families were close. Thanks, Julie

I, also, left this message public.
Added by Julie on May 02, 2016 8:45 AM
Re: Joyce Omahen
Joyce was my first cousin, her mother Sophie was my father Marko Varichak's sister. I have first hand knowledge of family and will share what I can. Thanks, Julie
Added by Julie on May 02, 2016 8:42 AM
Andy Allord
RE: Bohemian National Cemetery
Thank your for the heads up.

This confusion comes from before I took over the Bohemian National Cemetery and the person taking care of St. Wencel's not following through removing those names from that cemetery.

Long story short, it was/is a real mess as one time it was right, then the previous person agreed they were in St. Wencel's. and they were all put there...

Again, thanks for the heads up.

Added by Andy Allord on May 01, 2016 9:46 PM
Robert Reeve
RE: Susan.Reeve.Granville.Cemetery.IL
Susan Reeve is my 4 x gr, grandmother, now are you related to her or any other Reeve's if not I would like to take over her memorial please. the source is from my family tree and ill be putting a photo on her memorial. Thank you, Robert Reeve
Added by Robert Reeve on May 01, 2016 7:54 PM
RE: Kenneth.Peterson
Social Security Applications and Claims Index (which is often mistaken)
U.S., Social Security Applications and Claims Index, 1936-2007
Name Kenneth Henry Peterson
Father Harry L Peterson
Mother Hanna M Nelsen
Birth 18 Aug 1925 - Walnut Burea, Illinois
Death 28 Jun 1997
SSN 358207548
Gender Male
Race White

US Veterans Gravesites (which is usually right)
Name: Kenneth H Peterson
Birth Date: 18 Aug 1925
Death Date: 28 Jun 1997
Cemetery: Chapel Hill Memorial Park
Cemetery Address: 1121 N Galena Avenue Dixon, IL

Thanks for asking. FindaGrave says they will soon be including a place for documentation on the Edit tab, which will be so helpful.
Added by Robinette on May 01, 2016 5:17 PM
john santa cruz
RE: Hi.
What do you mean, the site or the contributor? because I can't message Contributor #8.
Added by john santa cruz on Apr 27, 2016 6:43 AM
john santa cruz
RE: Hi.
She was only 34. I'm asking you again. Can you manage her memorial, please? She was family to me.
Added by john santa cruz on Apr 26, 2016 6:54 PM
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