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Cathy Lama (#47935227)
 member for 3 years, 9 months, 14 days
glenda (contributor #47305349)
Edit Requests 105751566
Thank you for the edit requests. They will be processed as soon as I review them. Just a reminder, or in case you don't know, I thought you might like to know that I transfer out of guidelines. If you would like custody of any memorials I manage please submit an Edit request using the "Suggest any other correction or addition" option. If I am not related I will transfer. Thank you!

If you want any of my memorials located in Mount Vernon please ask soon as I am in the process of transferring them all to Find-a-Grave and you cannot count on them transferring out of guidelines. I am transferring about 1,000 a day.

Added by glenda (contributor #4730... on Apr 09, 2016 12:11 PM

Mary Cebecauer
Cathy, your words lifted me up again. I love photography, I have a good camera and I love history, and, best of all, I love to help people with their genealogy concerns, specifically with grave photos. (I love cemeteries too!). The photos could have been a lot better but the light was against me. During this time of the year the morning sun does not come from the east but from the southeast, and that is a great problem for headstones that are facing north, like Mary Cebecauer's headstone. When the sun shines on the front of the headstone, it turns almost into another headstone, and, very importantly, when the sun rays hit the engravings, you see them in 3D and they are easily legible. Unfortunately, this is not today's case, so I had to use a software to enhance the stone surface and define the engravings. In the springtime the planet's axis turns the opposite way and the sun will illuminate the front of the headstones that are facing north. I might have another visit to First Calvary in the spring months and will take a new set of photos.

Added by Marcial on Jan 03, 2016 5:41 PM

Among a few typos, the most important is "date of birth" when I meant to say "date of death".

Added by Marcial on Jan 03, 2016 1:45 PM

Mary Cebecauer
I did it!!!
Cathy, I had the impulse to do it this morning and face the challenge of the grave location "mystery". I have to say that I was right when I said that your "65, Section 50, Grave 20" should be no other than Section 50, Plot 65, Grave 20. Only the order was a little unconventional but it was easy to guess. Calvary office gave you the correct information but I see that the problem could have been the name. Let's start with my trip. I usually avoid First Calvary for two reasons, first because it's old system is kind of confusing sometimes and because it's not 2 blocks away from my home like New Calvary is. For the "Old" (First) Calvary I have to take the subway for 3 stations or walk about 2 miles, in addition to the walk inside the cemetery, because I knew that Section 50 was at the very end. So from the subway station (33rd Street, Sunnyside) to the cemetery it's like 1/2 mile walk and once in the cemetery, just another 1/2 to Section 50. At 10 a.m. the NY temperature was 40º F and windy. Needless to say, I had a lot of fun!? Once I got to Section 50, I had to figure out where that "Plot 65" was located. In this section, a "plot" is like a section within the section. So I started walking in zigzag in the entire section until I figured out where Plot 65 was, then I started walking again in zigzag thru that rectangular Plot 65, and reading each headstone names and location (the location is usually engraved in the lower part of the headstone). "I'm not leaving until I find Mary, provided that a headstone was actually on her grave. At the very back of the Section and Plot I saw a name, "Marie Cebaur", I don't know why it rang a bell. then the year of birth, which I remembered, was 1920. A coincidence? Then I found the grave location engraved in the lower right corner: "50-65-20". "This is it; I found it !!!" The discrepancies with the name will be seen when I get home. Then I got home and voilà, the name Cebaur was in your memorial, in one of Marie's daughters, Hellen Cebaur. My impression is that the original name Cebecaur was shortened and changed as "Cebaur". But, no doubt in my mind, this was the grave. And... hey, please don't be sorry for my walk or the 40 degrees. I am used to it.

Added by Marcial on Jan 03, 2016 1:42 PM

RE: Mary Cebecauer, P.S.
Cathy, your words motivate me to keep doing this work the way I'm doing it. I feel flattered. The fact is that I enjoy providing F.A.G. members with the photos they request about their relatives' final resting place. Besides, Calvary Cemetery is a nice place to walk around. As for Calvary office, in most cases they are very accurate. At least we now know that Cebecauer's grave should be in First Calvary, Section 50. If I go tomorrow to First Calvary (which is farther away from my home), I might try walking around in Section 50 and see what I can find. I am looking at the map now and I can see that Plots A thru Y probably apply only to the edge of the section, in which case Section 50, Plot 65, Grave 20 might be possible. First ("Old") Calvary is confusing, to say the least. If I go tomorrow, I'll let you know. Maybe I find the grave...!

Added by Marcial on Jan 02, 2016 1:04 PM

Mary Cebecauer, P.S.
Cathy, I went to grave 65-50-20 in Fourth Calvary. There is a headstone but the family name is McShane with 6 persons interred in that grave but none of them is names Mary. Besides, the first one to die was Thomas P. in 1930. So this seems to be wrong grave; in which case the other alternative would be First Calvary but, like I said, instead of 65-50-20 it should be Section 50, not 65, and the rest I don't know because "plots" have letters in Section 50. At least, we can rule out Fourth Calvary, Section 65, Plot 50, Grave 20.

Added by Marcial on Jan 02, 2016 10:13 AM

Mary Cebecauer
Cathy, this is the grave location as you wrote in on the memorial: 65, Section 50, Grave 20. Are you sure this is correct? My first reading told me that it should be Section 65, Plot 50, Grave 20, which is in New Calvary. Section 50 exists but that is in Old Calvary and "Plots" have letters, not numbers. Calvary Office can tell you in a matter of minutes the correct grave location.

Added by Marcial on Jan 02, 2016 7:29 AM

Margaret & Francis King
Cathy, I hope to get the pictures for Margaret & Francis' grave/headstone 40-8-C-8 tomorrow. According to the memorials you created, both seem to be buried together.

Added by Marcial on Dec 31, 2015 1:23 PM

RE: William King
Cathy, I do appreciate your words. I also posted the photo for Joseph King with my comments but just as I finished doing it F.A.G. crashed on me and all was lost. So I am going to do it again now. And I am sorry to say that Joseph King does not have a headstone either.

Added by Marcial on Dec 31, 2015 12:53 PM

Larry Luna
RE: Family - Resurrection Cemetery
Hi Cathy,

Thank you for your note of appreciation! It's very rewarding for me to hear that I have succeeded in helping connect the dots, so to speak. I have also benefitted from the help of others numerous times. Let me know if there are any other photos needed in this area!


Added by Larry Luna on Aug 17, 2015 10:03 PM

Fairview cemetery bios.
Just go to the memorial in question, click on "edit", and go to "other". Type in what you want to add, and send. It will come to me and I will add it.

Added by Jim on Jul 20, 2015 7:46 AM

Robert Quinn
RE: Raymond Conlon Memorial 129894704

I do not know much unfortunately. I have a copy of the inscriptions and am transcribing into the records a little at a time. Glad this can be of help. There's a few thousand more to be entered, which I will do as I find time.


Added by Robert Quinn on May 22, 2015 6:33 AM

Robert Quinn
RE: Raymond Conlon Memorial 129894704

You are very welcome!


Added by Robert Quinn on May 22, 2015 6:32 AM

JP Rayder
RE: Conlon Grave - Calvary
Hi Cathy
I also have a number of my family that don't have headstones, I guess the cost was to much at the
William Conlon plot location was Section-08,Range-75,Plot-Z,Grave-13 the number 2 should have been the letter Z.
I did come across a headstone with the name of Patrick Conlon b-1873 d-1984,Susan b-1883 d-1978 and also on this headstone Regina Ann Farrelly b-1910 d-1986 and the location was not to far from William. The location was Section-08,Range-Z,Range-73,Plot-AA-Grave-17. Just though I would pass the information on to you thinking they might be related......JP

Added by JP Rayder on Jan 16, 2015 8:10 PM

Calvary Cemetery - Conlon

Hi Cathy

The next time I'm at Calvary Cemetery I will stop by the office and see if I can locate this plot.....Have a Happy New Year.......JP

Added by Tom on Jan 01, 2015 8:31 AM

JP Rayder
RE: Calvary Cemetery - Conlon
Hi Cathy
In Section-08 the plot go by letters not numbers, its a very big section and havering the range,plot letter and grave number makes its easier to locate,
I do plan on going to Calvary in the next week or so.....JP

Added by JP Rayder on Dec 29, 2014 6:49 PM

Robert Quinn
RE: Raymond Conlon Memorial 129894704
Regarding Raymond Conlon, I am not related. I have, however, been adding entries to the website from a transcribe sheet I have. I am probably about 40% done with the cemetery. Any other names you are looking for, let me know and I will see if it is on the list.


Added by Robert Quinn on Nov 19, 2014 4:19 PM

RE: Ryamond Conlon - Hamilton Cemetery NJ
He got the name from a list of people buried at Hamilton. Put in a photo request, there are several people who go there on a regular basis. If I am in the area, I'll check, but without a section it isn't easy. The caretaker is usually there in the morning if you want to try to call him for a location and to see if there is a stone.

Added by Kat on Nov 16, 2014 10:59 AM

Rich H.
RE: Calvary Cemetery ew York
Cathy, there are 4 different Calvary cemeteries, but someone at Find A Grave decided they should be listed under one listing, because most people don't know which one to put and they are managed by one group. You can call the cemetery, they have a full time staff working.

Added by Rich H. on Aug 14, 2014 3:53 AM

RE: Rebecca Adams - Spring Vale Cemetery
You are correct that the document I posted was a Family Group Sheet printed from

On the side, I wrote a reminder note to myself to read the RELPH FAMILY TREE document that's posted on about the alleged presidential connection to John Quincy Adams.

I actually copy & pasted the story to a Word document. It's a PUBLIC document that's floating around on and I attached it to my tree under John Relph, SR. If you have an ancestry account, you should be able to access it when you get to John Relph, SR.

The document is titled, RELPH FAMILY TREE by Harley Lofton, III. It's 6 pages. The records and information on the Relphs comes from family letters and papers. The stories information and research was provided by Harley Lofton III, great grandson of John WILLIAM Relph; it is greatly appreciated that he shared this information posted to on 10/2/2012. It's about John Relph, SR. & Jane (Parker) Relph, Reynolds (she married 2nd after John died), and their offspring.

JOHN RELPH, SR & JANE (PARKER) RELPH'S SON: Cpl. John WILLIAM RELPH (Union Civil War Vet) called ‘WILLIAM', b. 19 July 1839 in Riegelsville, Northampton County, PA, d. 19 September 1908 in Cedar Bluffs, Decatur County, KS. Married Rebecca Jane (Adams) RELPH (b. 7 March 1844 in Lafayette, IN and d. 24 February 1934 in McCook, Red Willow County, NE) in Lafayette, Tippecanoe County, Indiana, on 1 January 1861. They were farmers and raised 9 kids in Red Willow County, Nebraska. The story goes on to tell about the alleged presidential connection. However, the above is how the Adams family and Relph family are connected.

If you can't access the document on ancestry, then let me know if you want it and give me directions on how to get it to you. I could copy and paste it here, but not sure if it would be too overwhelming for everyone.


Added by I SEIVER on Jan 05, 2014 2:41 AM

RE: Conlon
Section 1 at Holy Name, the numbers do not go up that high on the headstones.
So I checked Holy Cross through the Archdiocease records and sure enough there they were with the plot locations you gave.
Go to:
Let me know how you make out?
By the way, why do you ask?

Added by joiseygirl on Dec 30, 2013 7:15 PM

RE: Conlon
No promblem, glad to help.

Added by joiseygirl on Dec 27, 2013 2:33 PM

Hi Cathy,
Edward and Grace are buried in Holy Cross Cemetery in North Arlington, NJ, Bergen County.
I am going to delete you requests in Holy Name Cemetery in Jersey City.
You will have to re-request them for Holy Cross.
Anything thing else I can do to help just let me know!
Happy New Year

Added by joiseygirl on Dec 27, 2013 12:53 PM

RE: Conlon Family Holy Name Cemetery
You are very welcome Cathy.
The best part of photo volunteering are the thanks I get and knowing I bought a family member closer to home.

Added by joiseygirl on Dec 08, 2013 6:57 AM

Ron Meyers
RE: Conlon Family - Holy Name
Hi, Cathy. It was nothing really. I never go to the office and I enjoy the walks through the cemetery. It's great exercise really. I was happy to get the pics and would gladly get more for you. Ron

Added by Ron Meyers on Jul 29, 2013 3:37 AM


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