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Carmelita&Maryn (#47479149)
 member for 3 years, 6 months, 29 days
Susan Barwick
Thank you for transfers
Hi, You transferred two people to me and I am not related at all, just found info on them. I will take care of them and hopefully a family member will come along requesting a transfer which I will do. Thanks for all your work.

Added by Susan Barwick on Oct 31, 2014 8:32 AM

Muriel Brooks
Thank you, how very nice of you! I do enjoy Find-a-Grave so much. I'm willing to accept any that you want to transfer to me. The cemetery where they are buried is one of the most fascinating that I have seen. I have learned so much of the history of this area. I'm not a native so I have a lot to learn! Again, thank you.

Added by Muriel Brooks on Oct 27, 2014 7:22 AM

John Otto
Wlliam T Stark memorial 69664865 for William T Stark has a wonderful photo that you added to a memorial you created but no longer manage. I would appreciate it if you would correct the typo in the photo caption. The name should be Stark, not Starr.

I'm sending this as a message because I'm not sure if the new manager can update a photo you added. I have already asked the new manager, Martha Reid 19 UDC, to update the bio in the same way.

Thank You,

John Otto (#47195538)
Va. Beach VA

Added by John Otto on Jun 15, 2014 1:30 PM

RE: Possible transfer?
can you confirm your contributor ID? Thanks. If you prefer, send it to my email address. There was a Dyno that married into my grandmother's family (Trella).Elizabeth Trella married my Grandfather and is the mother of my mother.

Added by TomW on Jun 04, 2014 6:14 PM

Sandra "Spiritwalker" Selph-Hunter
Marvin Graham Coursey
So considerate of you to send me the obit for Mr. Coursey. Your work is very much appreciated by me. Thank you!

Added by Sandra "Spiritwalker" Sel... on May 18, 2014 7:33 PM

RE: Error
Sorry about that, I missed that when I went back to edit. Corrected now. Unfortunately, I think the Proshaka headstone you are looking for has fallen victim to time. There are three crumbled grave sites next to this one I photographed that are so far gone, you can't even make out partials on the names.

I will take a look to see if it is in one of the other sections but I suspect it may be a lost cause.

Thanks! Jas

Added by Jas on Apr 30, 2014 12:53 AM

Kym Hodge
RE: Henry Jacobs edit
Thank you! I don't even know where I got my incorrect info now. It's good to know someone is on the ball! Keep up the good work. Kym

Added by Kym Hodge on Apr 22, 2014 1:47 AM

Joan Pacitti
Your last e-mail to me
I send public messages mostly to thank someone who has alerted me to edits. That's true, however, I do not need you to tell me that. I also leave public messages to others for different reasons and that's between them and me.
I write nothing personal in my public e-mails. I would write privately to that person.
I really don't need your instructions. Your last message had better be your last e-mail to me. Edits are one thing, but what you're doing is bordering on harassment. If you continue to contact me for anything other than edits (in the correct way), I will report you to FindAGrave.

Joan Pacitti


Added by Joan Pacitti on Apr 07, 2014 6:29 PM

Joan Pacitti
Your edits of 4/5/14
It wasn't a thank you. Maybe you really need to re-read it.

The only time I want to hear from you is if you have any MORE edits to send.

Joan Pacitti

Added by Joan Pacitti on Apr 07, 2014 11:30 AM

Joan Pacitti
Your edits from 4/5/2014
I received your edits and have dealt with them. I found 3 entries which COULD have been combined. I know that can be done because others have done it.
That would save YOU time.
Just trying to help.
By the way, on Anderson Anastasio, you show his middle name as Abelardo and I put that in the bio., but left it A. in the identification part.

Added by Joan Pacitti on Apr 06, 2014 2:36 PM

Thomas Bourke
RE: Nora Virginia Disney Gessner
Hello Maryn,
Nora would be my Uncle's Wife.

Added by Thomas Bourke on Apr 03, 2014 7:18 AM

Joan Pacitti
Your comments
I really think there should be NO MORE COMMUNICATION FROM YOU TO ME.
Just add your edits to my site and they will be taken care of.


Added by Joan Pacitti on Apr 02, 2014 8:25 PM

Joan Pacitti
Joseph Rocks memorial
By the way, I don't make mistakes day after day.


Added by Joan Pacitti on Apr 02, 2014 7:46 PM

Joan Pacitti
Joseph Rocks memorial
I'm not doing incomplete memorials on purpose. If I, like most people, enter memorials right after the person is buried, sometimes complete information is not available. If the obituary doesn't state date and place of birth and the funeral home doesn't state date and place of birth, as far as I know, there won't be ANYTHING on the social security index yet.
Oh, and you don't need to come behind me and finish the job.

Joan Pacitti

P. S. You don't need to give me any more information.

Added by Joan Pacitti on Apr 02, 2014 7:41 PM

Joan Pacitti
Josph Rocks' memorial
Hi: Thank you for the date of birth for Mr. Rocks.
I know that I can go into Social Security Index as I've done it in the past. For me, it's a work in progress.
I do the best I can to enter correct and complete information. If necessary, I also go into the funeral home website to find out birth dates and places of birth, but they're not always on those sites.
I do check and double check before I make entries, but everyone makes mistakes. When I discover even after checking that I just created a duplicate memorial, I delete it immediately.
As far as checking my Edits tab, I do that EVERYDAY. I usually add the information requested the same day if possible.
I'm sure you don't mean to be critical but that's the way you're coming off.
I checked my Edits tab and noticed that you put three dates on people to be add or corrected or whatever. They will be done TONIGHT.

Joan Pacitti

Added by Joan Pacitti on Apr 02, 2014 7:14 PM

Rod Morken
Grace Johnson
Her obit has been added. Thank you for sending.

Added by Rod Morken on Mar 31, 2014 8:57 PM

Sharon Girvin-Davison
RE: Edits

Added by Sharon Girvin-Davison on Mar 30, 2014 7:53 PM

Nancy Paul-Grammer
Elfriede E Ayotte 116600377
I've added your information to the memorial. Thanks so much.


Added by Nancy Paul-Grammer on Mar 27, 2014 8:44 PM

daniel cooke
RE: Downs
Thank you kindly!

Added by daniel cooke on Mar 27, 2014 6:07 PM

i am not trying to disrespect anyone, but dont know if the markers were failed to be updated. here's one example i found where this is the case.

Ok T St Clair # 125446235

i chose to be consistent and enter as i go. i make errors but please dont berate me for not being perfect because i do try.

Added by Boojee on Mar 27, 2014 1:00 AM

i made the corrections

Added by Boojee on Mar 26, 2014 5:25 PM

Terry Collins
RE: Obituaries, question please.


in the transcribed obituaries i put on the memorials, the reason i source them is not so much to give credit to the newspaper, but more to show family researchers where the obituary came from. And some like to use that information to find a copy in the newspaper to add to their research. i think most of us would rather have a genuine copy of the obituary than someone's transcription.

be that as it may, a transcription is still very valuable and welcomed in the genealogy community.

okie-doke, then, my friend... continue to have what i hope is a mighty fine day.

warm wishes on a snowy afternoon,
terrence ♣

Added by Terry Collins on Mar 25, 2014 1:46 PM

Terry Collins
RE: Obituaries, question please.

Hello, Maryn!

I hope you are doing very well this fine day.

Find-A-Grave rules do not prevent the posting of newspaper obituary copies. In fact, there are many on Find-A-Grave. Find-A-Grave just warns that the newspaper may want the obituary copy to be removed since it is a copy of their newspaper. In my experience, I've never heard of a newspaper being so picky as to request the removal of an obituary. Newspapers don't like to bother their customers by seeming to be so mean over such sensitive things. Plus, it is usually a family member who writes the actual obituary, so it wasn't like a news article written by one of their reporters.

So, if you'd like to add an image of an obituary I would just do it.

As for the obituary containing the names of persons still living... well, I used to be a bit timid about putting on Find-A-Grave the names of living relatives, but as I thought about their names being in a public newspaper, and then put in online obituaries (which are accessible to the entired world), I came to feel that adding them to Find-A-Grave memorials wasn't really being all that intrusive since the world alreqady had the same information.

With that said, if anyone contacted me wishing me to remove the names of the living from any obituary... I would, and I would do so without any bad feelings.

I am a rather private person, also, and if not for the newspapers and internet obituaries, I would not post the names of the living. Last year on I found someone's family tree that had my parents' obituaries. I didn't like it, especially as it contained my name, and other personal information.

Nonetheless, that person had gotten it from an online newspaper obituary, which meant everyone on Earth (which pretty much means everyone in the Solar System - laughing) had access to this information. And I took into account that my own family had supplied the newspaper with the information. So, I just let it be. That person on (a distant cousin) had not put anything online which had not already been there for over six years.

And with that knowledge I 'adjusted' my own way of thinking about the use of obituaries and the information that they contain.

Naturally, you have your own opinion, and are quite free to handle them in your own way.

I have a few obituaries that are copies right from the newspaper, as the death occurred back in about 1917, so I know people would like to see the original obituary in such an older publication, and see how they wrote things back then. Plus, the copy makes for a pretty much indisputable record.

As far as the memorials I put-up are concerned, it does not bother me if you wish to upload a copy of the obituary instead of a transcription. Again, I doubt any newspaper is going to bother anyone over the use of an obituary. And if Find-A-Grave isn't bothered, then they aren't going to bother you.

Pets being mentioned in obituaries... yes, I understand why that is so upsetting to you. I feel the same way. A close cousin of mine from West Virginia was working with me to get photographs and all the information we could about a few lines of our families. We communicated for years, and she was going to show me where our Collins Cemetery was in Kanawha County, West Virginia.

In our communications, we talked about many things, including her pet and pal, Max the dog. A few years back my cousin died pre-maturely, and as terribly sad as that was, when the obituary mentioned those who survived her, at the end was Max's name. It made everything all the more sadder. Fortunately, my cousin had/has a very close and loving family, and Max stayed with them. Still, we know that Max knows his best friend is no longer around. Yeah... I do understand how you feel, Maryn. Then again, you are quite kind and sensitive and caring. Some people would not get it.

Well, I didn't want to get too wordy in my answer, and make it too long, but there it is. I can only hope this helped, and not confused.

And I hope the people you meet as you work on Find-A-Grave will be very nice to such a nice person as yourself. Be warned... the longer you are on Find-A-Grave there may come a time when you meet someone who is a'might unreasonable. Even ill-mannered. Just don't let them get to you. They are a vast, vast minority.

It is *snowing* again as I write this, Maryn. I love the *snow*! It's not supposed to get deep, but I'm happy for what we're getting.

I hope things are to your liking where you are.
And never a need to apologize for writing to me. It is always good to hear from good people. (smiling... warmly)

And don't forget to watch "ANDY HARDY GETS SPRING FEVER". It's got some touching and romantic scenes in it. And it is Spring! (warm smile)

Stay warm.
Stay safe.

Most Very Sincerely,
Just Ol' Terry ♣

Added by Terry Collins on Mar 25, 2014 1:35 PM

Terry Collins
Edna Louise Hall Tucker obituary



I thank you for finding and contributing the nice obituary for Mrs. Edna Louise Hall Tucker (103579246), interred at Holly Hill Memorial Gardens, Middle River, Baltimore County, Maryland.

It was a kind act in and of itself, but Edna's obituary also supplied a good bit of information which was not on her memorial previously (such as her maiden name).

Your work is always appreciated. Very much so.

I hope your day is going along most happily, Maryn.

Most Gratefully,
Terry ♣

Added by Terry Collins on Mar 24, 2014 1:32 PM

Terry Collins
Helen Mary Armstrong Taylor



Thank you for supplying Helen Taylor's middle name and maiden name. It is much-appreciated.

I accidentally hit the [ENTER] key in my previous message to you, so feel free to delete that one.

Helen Mary Armstong Taylor (110653382).
Interred at Holly Hill Memorial Gardens
Middle River, Baltimore County, Maryland

I hope your weekend is going well.

Happy Spring!

Terry ♣

Added by Terry Collins on Mar 23, 2014 4:45 PM


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