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Anne042068 (#47425147)
 member for 5 years, 11 months, 28 days
Declined Edits
I want to make sure you understand the editing system and know what is coming next. Now that you have declined the edits I have forwarded them to management and they will decide what to do. Since the memorials clearly violate the naming rules, there is no doubt that they will make the changes I suggested.

I just didn't want you to think that this was the end of it just because you declined the edits.

Added by Chris on Oct 01, 2016 6:12 PM

RE: Edits
Read my messages again - I've explained what you are doing wrong and why, and I've explained your available options. Continuing to justify breaking the rules is not one of them.

Added by Chris on Oct 01, 2016 7:33 AM

RE: Edits
I am not the rules police, but every Find A Grave member is allowed to submit edits to any memorial. If you are irritated by that ... contact Find A Grave and see if they will change the entire system just for you.

I did not "go in and change people's memorials". I submitted suggested edits to you. You have 21 days to review them and either accept or decline to make the changes. If you don't do anything, the changes will automatically be made after 21 days. If you decline, I will forward them to management. They ALWAYS make the changes for me when you won't. I don't submit changes that are frivolous.

As an example, your memorials with last names or maiden names of "Motes/Moats" cannot be found by anyone doing a search. Besides the fact that they violate Find A Grave rules, that's a pretty good reason to change them, don't you think?

I have no interest in winning or influencing people. There is no popularity contest involved here. Just make your memorials comply with the rules and you'll never hear from me again.

Added by Chris on Sep 30, 2016 2:20 PM

RE: Edits
"... stay out of my memorials. These are mine ..."

The memorials belong to Find A Grave, and you are simply the temporary custodian. As such, you are charged with maintaining memorials with correct information and following the rules of this website.

If you don't make the necessary corrections, others will do it for you. You also run the risk of having the memorials removed from your control and/or being banned from Find A Grave.

Added by Chris on Sep 30, 2016 10:04 AM

RE: Edits
I'm correcting errors in your memorials. You're making enemies.

Added by Chris on Sep 29, 2016 9:06 PM

I have submitted a number of edit corrections for your memorials, which cover the following violations for naming rules:

Spelling variations are not permitted in any name field. Pick one for the name field and mention the others in the bio. In the case of the last name, it must match the last name on the grave marker.

Multiple married names are not permitted in any name field. Only the actual maiden name goes in the maiden name field and only the final married name goes in the last name field. All other married names can be mentioned in the bio.

All CAPS are not permitted in any name field.

Added by Chris on Sep 28, 2016 11:29 PM

Jody Gonda
George Fenstermaker - 66999304
Will you please tell me where you found that his middle name was Tillman? George Fenstermaker is my ancestor also, and of all the documents I have, I do not have him with a middle name of Tillman.

Now, George and his wife, Mary, had a son named George Tillman Fenstermaker. This son, was born in 1865 and died in 1915.

Would love to share any information you have on this family.

Added by Jody Gonda on Jul 02, 2016 1:08 PM

Rich Lebo
RE: Eliz Will & Mary Feidt
Finally got around to making these links you requested. Sorry for the delay.


Added by Rich Lebo on May 23, 2016 9:29 AM

Salome Kolb
The RCIP has her as Salome Bauer. They do not have the originals, but for everyone of her children it is listed as Bauer. Her place of birth varies, but most have Waldsee, Bavaria, Germany.


Added by David on Jun 23, 2015 11:09 PM

Kolb Family
I sent you an invite from my tree. Frank Buell AKA Bruins is my great grand uncle, married to Catherine or Katherine Kolb, daughter of Joseph and his second wife Salome. Besides the Holy Sepulchre website, you may also be interested in which is Rochester Churches indes project. Searches include baptism, marriages and deaths. I'm working on the baptisms for Kolb right now. There are 108 of them plus 177 burials at Holy Sepulchre. Mt Hope cemetery in Rochester is also a good place to find burials in Rochester. They even have indexes with plots and cause of death and where the death was. Good hunting.

David Russell (

Added by David on Jun 23, 2015 10:56 PM

Kathy (Hoy) Eltiste
Conrad Will # 114515540
Hi Anne,

If you find out he is indeed related, just let know, and I will be proud to transfer.


Added by Kathy (Hoy) Eltiste on Mar 07, 2015 5:18 PM

Steve Hale
RE: Photos for Martin and Julianna Kolb Holy Sepulchre Cem
We didn't get the snow when Buffalo got it. We only had a few inches, but that melted already. It was just starting to snow today when I was out taking pictures. Today the coast is getting a big storm, but that is missing us also.
Glad to help with the picture.

Added by Steve Hale on Nov 26, 2014 6:03 PM

donald murrell
RE: Kolb Graves in Holy Sepulchre Ce
Catherine Ritter Kolb was my great great aunt. I'll transfer the Kolb family to you. but it will probably be after Thanksgiving. Don Murrell

Added by donald murrell on Nov 23, 2014 9:53 AM

F Priam
RE: Martin Kolb Obituary
Great Anne, Thanks! I'am Glad I was able to help you out.

Added by F Priam on Dec 22, 2013 8:13 PM

Law-Miller Roots
RE: Price Family Grave Photos Maplegrove Cemetery Ohio
Thank you for the nice words regarding our volunteer photos, they are much appreciated. However, we have no plans to change our method of posting the overview photo, the tombstone, and, if needed, a close-up of the name/dates. We feel it is important on a web site where the MAIN purpose is to document the final resting place of the deceased. We've done this same process for nearly five years (over 3,000 volunteer photos taken) with MANY compliments from family members who requested photos and are unable to visit their relatives' graves. While I appreciate your opinion, I respectfully disagree with you on this one point. If family "gains management" of the memorial, they have the option of sponsoring to increase the photo limit to 20 for ONLY $5.00. Its an easy process.
~ Marilyn

Added by Law-Miller Roots on Dec 14, 2013 9:51 PM

Law-Miller Roots
RE: Price Family Grave Photos Maplegrove Cemetery Ohio
I've removed the photos you requested.

For John and Sarah, I removed one of the photos you requested and the overview photo I posted to free up two additional slots on each.

When there are ZERO photos at all (these memorials were "empty" when I went to post in response to a photo request), I try to add ONLY three photos so as to leave a few slots open for other photos. I realize now, though, that two of these memorials had 4 photos.

Also, I'm not sure if you knew this, but ONLY un-sponsored memorials have a five photo limit. If the memorial is sponsored (for $5.00), you can post as many as twenty photos to the memorial.

~ Marilyn

Added by Law-Miller Roots on Dec 13, 2013 6:47 PM

The Lady in Black
RE: Andrew Jakcsy Memorial photo #83427804
The original photos of the footstones that someone took for you a year ago were covered in mud (at least that's what it looks like to me--look at the wide shots at the base of the monument), and they tried to clean them off, smearing them in the process. I did nothing to the stones when I took my photos this year. What you see is what I saw when I took them. As I told you before (and it's on my profile page) I do not clean off stones--I am physically unable to. And, I do not have Photoshop on my computer at all. I do little, if anything at all, to my photos--99% of the time, I don't do anything to them. I also have a good camera, and have been doing this a long time.


Added by The Lady in Black on Dec 09, 2013 9:37 PM

maryjo durek
RE: Photos on Joseph Benton Price Memorial #51247165
anne i took off the pictures and i looked at my tree, my great grand mother was emma price,i am so happy to find family on my dads side as we did not get to know them. thanks for posting your pictures

Added by maryjo durek on Dec 09, 2013 10:53 AM

maryjo durek
RE: Photos on Joseph Benton Price Memorial #51247165
anne, im really sorry i upset you, i will remove it soon, i just wanted to post pictures for people to add to there tree, i will ask your permission on any other picture, thank you for writing, and again im sorry. mary jo

Added by maryjo durek on Dec 09, 2013 10:28 AM

The Lady in Black
RE: Just a tip...
Here's the rule, which is under the link I gave you:

"Full capitalization (ALL-CAPS) of names should not be used, whether it be surname or the full name."

(This is under "What are your naming conventions?" section of the Help with Find a Grave link on the left of this page--the link I gave you goes directly to it. Just cut and paste it into your browser.)

We photographers do the best we can with our photos. That's all anyone can ask. I cannot dig up things and clean like some can, due to physical limitations, and you have all levels of skill here. I have well over 30 years experience working with photographs, video, and film (pre-internet and Photoshop). But, a "bad" (and that is in quotes because "bad" to one person may be great to someone else--subjective) photo is better than none, IMHO--this is a volunteer web site, and we all contribute to the best of our ability. I am not "the exception" as you put it. Until you try and photograph the stone yourself, you really cannot tell what you can do with a given memorial--there are too many variables involved.

Added by The Lady in Black on May 21, 2013 10:15 PM

The Lady in Black
Just a tip...
When you create memorials, please do not use all capital letters. Please read this, from the Help With Find A Grave link on the left hand side of the page:


Added by The Lady in Black on May 18, 2013 4:05 AM

The Lady in Black
RE: Guy and Bertha Dulla @ Woodmere

I assume you're talking about the close-up of the names.

I worked on the Dulla photos, and that is the way it naturally looks. It is very difficult to read because of the way it is carved, the marble color, and choice of font that the mason/designer used. It's also in the shade nearly all year, except when the leaves fall. I took four different photos, and used the one I had not played around with. My 80 year-old father was with me at the time, and he was surprised that I could read it at all. It's a rather unique monument, and I've never seen one where the inscription was done that way--no matter what you do, you have trouble reading it. That is as legible as it is going to get.

There is also some moss/lichen within the carving, and if you enlarge the photo, you can see it. There is nothing else that can be done with it, because we are not allowed to mess with that--it can cause a disaster.

Believe me, it's not anything I did--you'd have to see it yourself. Not every photo comes out as nice as you'd like, but you can only do so much. And, I very much doubt you could any more than what I did, which was return to the original. I will remove it if you don't like it.

Best regards!

Added by The Lady in Black on May 17, 2013 8:10 PM

The Lady in Black
Guy and Bertha Dulla @ Woodmere

I posted photos of their monument on their memorial pages. Hope you like the photos.

Have a great day!

Added by The Lady in Black on May 17, 2013 1:31 AM

RE: John Buggy Photo
Hi Anne. I just sent it to you via email.

Added by Sean on Sep 03, 2012 12:54 PM

Don R Haynes
RE: Carl Olander Photo
Picture from Swedish America Heritage Online
Sweeds in Texas Book.
I am not related. I was doing cemetery research on burials at the Bethel Lutheran Cemetery at Ericksdahl, TX near Stamford

Added by Don R Haynes on Sep 03, 2012 6:40 AM


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