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Del Gran (#47366987)
 member for 4 years, 6 months, 10 days
Margie D
Thank you
Thank you for your kind words. Your work is appreciated as well!

Added by Margie D on Apr 17, 2015 9:10 PM

Patsy Lubben DiMarco
Rose Anderson Memorial
Are you related.
God Bless Patsy

Added by Patsy Lubben DiMarco on Apr 13, 2015 7:12 PM

Anne Rupert
RE: Anne is A True Genealogist
Thank you for the kind words. I am also going to forward it on to several others I work with that feel the same way. Anne

Added by Anne Rupert on Mar 14, 2015 8:54 PM

it did get replaced
F a G, typed as one word, did get replaced by Find A Grave...

Added by RobMinteer57 on Mar 13, 2015 8:12 PM

this and that
Karen Sipe's comments are quite mild compared to some of the rants I've seen on people's Bio pages through the years. I used to browse the Forums regularly, but quit doing that after it got to be just more of the same. Plus after Find A Grave was sold to Ancestry they decided to moderate a few of the Forums, which seemed completely unnecessary.

There are threads which can be followed in the Forums, on a wide variety of topics, Find A Grave-related and otherwise. (It will be interesting to see if Find A Grave gets replace by something else always did in the Forums...and there was another term that got replaced, too, but I can't think of it now.) As for following this discussion of ours, people could go back and forth between our Bio pages--but after a few days when newer messages push these to previous pages, nobody will likely ever see it, and they sure can't search for it.

Added by RobMinteer57 on Mar 13, 2015 7:25 PM

more about names
Thanks for all the info. As to your question about hyphens, I guess I wasn't specific enough. They are not proper except in last names when the person's legal name is hyphenated.

And again, I do understand quite well the thing about searches. I think the reason Find A Grave doesn't provide for AKAs is because it is a Graves Registration website, meant to catalog the final disposition of people's remains. Everything else is "icing on the cake."

Since, as you mentioned, a search will only find the first name of multiple or hyphenated names, what should be entered in the Surname field is what is on the cemetery marker, if there is one. If there isn't a marker, then it should be the person's legal last name at the time of death.

In cases where two surnames are on the marker, it's often not possible to tell if the one not matching the husband's is a maiden name or another married name, although the death dates usually make that clear.

Whichever name is used, it is always possible that someone will add a duplicate using the other one--however, that should be less likely when the legal surname is used.

What you had inscribed on your parents' headstone is excellent! I've considered having some brass placques made to be bolted to several old stones, showing more of the family relationships. It would be great if there were more people in every family who were interested in making that sort of information more accessible.

I think that those who do become interested in their family histories will find family members, no matter how the names are listed. I think Find A Grave is great because all you need is a name. Thousands of cemetery lists are on the Internet, but if you don't know which one a relative is in, they can't be found just using the name. It's great that you're thinking of ways to make people even easier to find in the future.

Added by RobMinteer57 on Mar 13, 2015 7:22 AM

names on Find A Grave
I understand the importance of trying to make it more easy to find women in searches--but when all the family gets linked together descendants won't need to search for various great-grand-aunts (or whatever) individually. They can just follow the links, then read the details of any multiple marriages in the person's Bio.

For women with multiple married names I think it would be helpful for Find A Grave to institute an AKA option, similar to what exists for cemeteries. Many cemeteries are listed under multiple names, yet still have only one page.

To my eyes (but, I realize, perhaps not to everyone's) it's a glaring error to see two (or more) names in the maiden name field, or two (or more) last names after a maiden name (unless hyphenated)--it makes it appear as if the person who entered the name didn't understand the meaning of maiden name or surname.

I don't browse Find A Grave searching for such things to correct--although there are a fair number of Contributors who do--but when I come across them in the course of adding Bios or other info that people send, I do often suggest such corrections. After I do, I don't keep track of what I sent, nor do I try to follow up to see that they got done.

The exceptions are for duplicates. Those I keep track of and eventually send to for them to deal with. And that's the main purpose for the naming conventions that Find A Grave has instituted--to avoid duplicates.

Added by RobMinteer57 on Mar 12, 2015 7:17 PM

Oscar Bonander
If you need more room for personal photos, let me know and I can remove one or two of those I added--or you can send an e-mail to and they should remove the old photo posted by Jim Harrison.

Alternately, as you may or may not know, you can Sponsor the memorial for five bucks--I've done that with a few of my ancestors. Ads are permanently removed, and up to 20 pictures can be added.

Added by RobMinteer57 on Mar 12, 2015 3:46 PM

Oscar and Mary Bonander
I started working on getting photos for the remaining 20% of people in our local cemetery last September, and didn't quite get done before the snow covered the flat markers. I didn't expect to be able to get started on the remaining 4% this early either, and hadn't really planned on checking for any Photo Requests until next month, probably. I'm glad I could get to them sooner.

Added by RobMinteer57 on Mar 12, 2015 3:17 PM

Morten Nilson Gran
THANK YOU! What great history you have provided in so many of the family memorials

I just wanted to let you know how much all your work and time is appreciated.

Cousin Peggy

Added by Peggy on Feb 28, 2015 3:37 PM

Cindy Clark Reichard
RE: Photo for First James River Norsk Lutheran Cemetery
Thank you Del, I appreciate your kind words. While I do understand why Find A Grave requires photos submitted show an entrance, memorial or some kind on marker for the actual cemetery we all know that is not always possible. In this case, sadly the cemetery and final resting place of some has been returned to farm land. Since the goal here is to document and preserve the common sense answer to be applied in a case such as this one would be to do just what you did. My opinion, the photo you presented is very appropriate for the situation.
Take care,

Added by Cindy Clark Reichard on Feb 21, 2015 1:44 PM

Lavonne Gran Shea
Transferred Lavonne to you and your family. We are most happy to have her "adopted!"


Patty & JR Blanton
Rosman, NC

Added by PATTY McFERREN-BLANTON & ... on Jul 20, 2012 1:04 PM

Sandy Smith
I went to the office at Memorial Park and got a listing of all the Moreheads in the park. I have put them all on findagrave for you.
Sandy Smith

Added by Sandy Smith on Oct 21, 2011 10:24 PM

Jenny Burgin
Thank you
Thank you Del for everything. I appreciate it

Added by Jenny Burgin on Oct 07, 2011 8:22 PM

Nancy Abraham
RE: Clark, Mattie--White Deer
So sorry to hear about your Mom but know that she had a wonderful life with you as a son. Amarillo is in the 70-80s after a MOST miserable summer. Got a 1/2" rain Sat. night--that will help with our total of 2-1/2" since Jan. Usually have about 18-20. Might want to come back before the winter arrives up there.

Added by Nancy Abraham on Sep 05, 2011 12:29 PM

Nancy Abraham
Clark, Mattie--White Deer
Del, I believe I have finished canvasing and photographing Groom Cemetery and did not find a grave for Mattie Clark.

Added by Nancy Abraham on Sep 04, 2011 1:51 PM

RE: Bonanders at Sunset Hills
I am sorry to hear of your mother's passing. I will be happy to send you the photos, but I do need an email address. You may contact me directly at:

Best wishes,


Added by dingwall on Jun 06, 2011 12:02 PM

Leslie Wilco
Stillman Cousins
Wonderful to see so much info! I have added a great deal of Stillman family information on

Go to the George H. Stillman Family Tree and you can get info on Bainbridge Stillman, his parents and grandparents back to the 1500's.

Take care, cousin!

Great-great granddaughter of Clark Stillman
Great grand niece of Bainbridge L. Stillman

Added by Leslie Wilco on May 15, 2011 10:54 PM

Sandy Smith
Lester Olsen
I found his obituary online. If you would like a link to it please let me know. Thanks
Sandy Smith (#47466141)

Added by Sandy Smith on Apr 25, 2011 5:35 PM

Corey in Nebraska
James River Cemetery/Nikolai Larson
I see you are the manager of his memorial. Please add the following information.
My great grandfather (Jul Stephen Olsberg)left written history in 1942 stating that Nikolai Larson drowned in the Jim River and is buried next to Lars Olsberg (my GG-grandfather). That means he drowned some time after 1878. I hope you will post what I have left here. I feel information like this is priceless because it is so seldom left behind or found. Please reply. Thanks, Corey Olsberg.

Added by Corey in Nebraska on Apr 15, 2011 2:46 AM

RE: Washington Memorial Park
I did not take pictures on my last visit. Now that I have the updated info, I plan to go there again. Just waiting for the storms to pass.



Added by Tiermark on Mar 15, 2011 8:21 PM

Paul Fiskum
RE: Photos of Emmet & Martha Olson Headstones (SD, In the Winter)
I will retake them in the spring as I like a non-snowy picture better. Your requests for Bonander's will take a bit longer as there is still too much snow in that cemetery. I did locate the family marker but not the name markers. Paul

Added by Paul Fiskum on Mar 13, 2011 1:14 PM

James M. Jelle
added photo
I added the photo of a family get together that has Margaret Gran in it, Jim Jelle

Added by James M. Jelle on Mar 12, 2011 4:36 PM

Jenny Burgin
Photos of the Garrisons were taken.

Added by Jenny Burgin on Mar 05, 2011 2:55 PM

Cindy Clark Reichard
RE: David Burkey
I have turned over both memorials to Jenny as of this morning. Thanks Del,


Added by Cindy Clark Reichard on Feb 25, 2011 4:43 AM


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