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GerbLady (#46637511)
 member for 9 years, 8 months, 15 days
Mary T.~AKA ~poe~
Would you kindly stop sending me edits to remove the prefix "Mr. or Mrs." from my pages? I have lost count of the ones I have declined. The headstones are carved with "Mr. or Mrs." I have the published cemetery record books for the county that I have transcribed which also lists their names using "Mr or Mrs" Also in the South, we have a something called "respect" we use "Mr or Mrs" when we speak to someone, even after they have passed away. So please, Mrs. GerbLady could you have a little respect for the dead? Thank you, and have a nice evening. Blessings.

Added by Mary T.~AKA ~poe~ on Jul 13, 2014 5:38 PM

Judy nee Ritter Martens
wayne f. mensch sr.
His parents was Elias B. and Eva nee Christman
Mensch. His wife is Lorraine nee Malone Mensch My mom was his sister.

Judy Martens

Added by Judy nee Ritter Martens on Jul 13, 2014 4:38 PM

Re: Mrs.
I finally found how to look for these and I believe they are all gone. Then I remembered the Suffix Judge, Major and a couple of others were not in the drop down either.

I sure hope mine are all fixed now.

Thanks for your help.


Added by Winnette on Jul 12, 2014 10:02 AM

Susanna Parrish Allen
Hi-can you come visit my wall and see if you know who the person is that left me the wonderful message? I have reported it to AJ.

Added by Susanna Parrish Allen on Jul 12, 2014 8:01 AM

unknown 14
Please note that this plot in the cemetery I am photographing, has a large plot of young children that were victims of a disease that hit the area at that time. At a later date, I or someone from the local genealogy society will be checking death records from those years and the plot number to find the family name of the child. I have taken photos for now and made memorials so that we can identify these persons. This is part of a special project being done.Thank you for your concern.

Added by butterfly on Jul 11, 2014 5:33 PM

William Harrison
Naming conventions
I have seen how picky you are about persons following FAGs naming conventions, hence, in extracting the following from your contributor's home page, "A period should be used after names where only an initial is known. If the full name is known, use the full name and not the initial.", I have submitted edits for a few of your errors so that you can correct them.

Added by William Harrison on Jul 10, 2014 7:29 PM

Valerie Mauk
Nicholas Mollish #22907857
Could you kindly transfer ownership of Nicholas Mollish #22907857 to me? Nicholas is my dad's brother & I would like to have membership of close family members. Thank you ~ Valerie Mauk

Added by Valerie Mauk on Jul 10, 2014 4:44 PM

Judy Russell
Larry Dwayne Riegel

Could you please transfer Larry's memorial # 125254379 to me, Judy Russell # 47413511.
He is family and I would like to update and connect him to his family.

Thank you

Judy Russell

Added by Judy Russell on Jul 08, 2014 2:22 PM

Old Southern Belle
TYPO make that second reference to FAQ#166 instead of FAQ#168. Its interesting to though.

Added by Old Southern Belle on Jul 06, 2014 3:16 PM

Old Southern Belle
Naming Conventions
NOT OPTIONAL OR SUBJECT TO INTERPRETATION! you mean like how you are telling contributors to change "Infant Son or Daughter", which is ON THE MARKER, is respectful & sensitive, to "Infant Male or Female" which is your personal preference, disrespectful and very impersonal.

Show US where that is in the "Naming Conventions".
Please show us! What is the FAQS# on that?

Please read FAQ #137

It says to use:
First name: INFANT
Middle name: TWIN SON or DAUGHTER
Last name: DOE(meaning surname of parent, but that is an interpretation)

Also FAQ#168 where it says: "What information should I include from a headstone?
All of the information on the headstone should be typed into the appropriate fields in the memorial form. It is not sufficient to create a memorial with only a name and a headstone photo and expect people to click on the photo to read the information that should be readily available in a name search, such as birth and death years. Of course, if the headstone only has a name, then you cannot add information you do not have. However, if the information is on the stone, it should be entered into the form."

Are we to understand that you want us to enter the names YOUR WAY instead of what Findagrave says? So you want us to change the memorials to "Infant male or female". Even thou the NAMING CONVENTIONS specify SON OR DAUGHTER. And to put "UNKNOWN" instead of "Mr." in the 1st name field, when it is the only name on the marker. Which would make the memorial unsearchable.

WE DO NOT TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER WHEN YOU ARE WRONG! You personally have 2971 infant memorials that over half are outside the "FINDAGRAVE NAMING CONVENTIONS". Especially the ones where you name them "Infant A or B" where the A and B in the middle name field appears to be the 1st Initial of the infants name when the memorial is viewed. See #124477433 & #124477432

Maybe when you start following the GUIDELINES we will follow your personal advice.

When is the last time YOU READ THE FAQS?
They have changed since came on board. It's not done YOUR WAY anymore, actually it never has been! That's way you are having such a time of it. To quote you from your profile: "I am sick and tired of the antics of members who can not take NO for an answer." Yeh - I made a copy of that too. Your profile seems to change daily these days.


Added by Old Southern Belle on Jul 06, 2014 1:46 PM

Sue Lee Johnson
Evans and Boddie
I received your edit to make "MALE" the first name on these unreadable gravestones. But if you don't know 100% that these are indeed "male's" who are buried here, if it's all the same with you I prefer to put "Unknown Evans" and "Unknown Boddie". Using the known dates I have tried to find these people on, but I can't find them with any certainty.
Thank you.

Added by Sue Lee Johnson on Jul 06, 2014 11:16 AM

Bonita Campbell
Hello, I was hoping you could transfer the memorial # 71547350, Natala Dennis, is my grandmothers sister. Id love to be able to post a pic and link her to my family. Thank you so much.

Bonita Campbell

Added by Bonita Campbell on Jul 06, 2014 9:10 AM

Kathleen Ferguson* Matthews
Thanks for the transfer of my brother, James Ferguson.

Added by Kathleen Ferguson* Matthe... on Jul 05, 2014 12:09 PM

Old Southern Belle
How I Know the "FACTS"
I dare you to leave this response here and see how many other contributors agree with me. You have promptly deleted every other message that I or anyone leaves that is the least bit critisizing of your abuse of this website. WOA! I was going to copy and paste the message here that you left on my profile page, but guess what, it has disappeared from my messages, how did you do that???. Please tell us, because I am sure there are other contributors that wish they could take back messages they left. But wait! you are just going to deny you did it and blame it on a system glitch, like you always do. But this time I beat you! I saved a copy of it to my computer.

GerbLady Please enlighten me
Where you are getting so many "facts" about my handling of transfers? Am at a loss how you seem to know whom I do and do not transfer.

This is just one example of the posts you have left on a number of members pages:

"You have to use the EDITS tab on the memorial to ask for the transfer of your fathers memorial from GerbLady. She ignores requests from her profile page. She is good at telling other contributors how to follow "findagrave guidelines" but does not follow them herself. If she refuses to transfer him to you after using the proper guidelines then make your request to . Tell them he is your father and you have corrections and addition you want to make and she will not tranfer him to you. She does not transfer ANY memorial she created that was a military burial."

Request you don't assume or otherwise broadcast unsubstantiated accusations how I handle transfers. And for the record, have made plenty of in-guideline transfers from national cemeteries. Those are actually the bulk of the transfers made.
Added by GerbLady on Jul 05, 2014 8:11 AM

See the time stamp - I started composing this message at 1:25 pm same day and you still have not transferred that contributors father to him! But you took the time to copy "part" of my message from his page and paste it in your message to me. YOU NEED TO GET YOUR PRIORITIES IN ORDER! Transfer of requests come FIRST!!!

Those who would like to read the rest of my message it is at Alec Stewart's messages.

I HAVE THE FACTS - I have not "assume or otherwise broadcast unsubstantiated accusations" about anything you have done. I can verify every statement. You confirm my statements with your OWN profile statement - quote: "I strictly adhere to the Find A Grave guidelines regarding transfers. No exceptions. Requests made outside of the guidelines, or do not state relationship, are no longer being acknowledged. Virtual cemeteries are the way to "gather" your ancestors together."

You did it to me several times when I was new here, to the point where I stopped asking for anything from you. You did it to many others of my fellow contributors and now you are doing it again. I suppose you don't remember, 3 years ago, ORDERING me to remove the hyphen from my mothers memorial or YOU would have it removed for me. I bowed done to you and removed it because I thought you were a member of the administration. When you kept "picking on me" I checked you out. YOU ARE NOT, THEN OR NOW PART OF ADMIN. Your name is not in the list of six administrative people that started Find A Grave. And you certainly do not control You have no more power here than any other contributor. I know of several contributors that have become inactive and one that deleted her own account of over 3,000 memorials because of YOUR bullying. I almost did that myself. But didn't want to encourage your "bullying" behavier. You spend more time when people ask twice telling them "you have 30 days to respond to their request" than it would take for you to DO the request. I have not stated anything that I am not personally aware of and back up with copies of your statements.

You are spending so much time doing the ANNOYING "criticizing" and "correcting" of other contributors memorials that you don't have time to respond to any requests made to you. YOU DO NOT HAVE THE AUTHORITY to "order" corrections OR you would add that proof to your profile. You are filling up other contributors EDITs with individual requests to "Add a period to the initals", "Do not put Mr. in the 1st name field" even if the only 1st name on the marker is MR. and the best of all "change Infant son or daughter to Infant male or female". That is just plain Stu .... WRONG!

If you noticed, All of the messages I left about your "procedures" were left to newbies or contributors with less than 300 memorials, of which are their own family. I have not found one response to a newbee where you offered HELP on how to get a process completed, other than telling them to "READ THE FAQ'S" then instead of following up with the request you ignored them. Most the time you delete the request from your messages.

No contributor should have to make "8" request to you to tranfer their SISTER'S memorial. No contributor should have to say "I am begging you" after 4 requests and 4 months to get the transfer of her grandparents. I have also made copies of all the request from your profile page that you are ignoring, in case you decide to delete them, like you usually do. I have also informed other contributors to make copies of their requests so if you do "delete" they can prove they sent you the request. NO MORE DENYING THAT YOU RECEIVED A REQUEST!

I HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG when I inform other contributors how to get around you ignoring their requests.

Added by Old Southern Belle on Jul 05, 2014 12:09 PM

cindy hartley
Robert Eason
Thank you so much

Cindy Eason Hartley

Added by cindy hartley on Jul 05, 2014 11:28 AM

Amy Robbins-Tjaden
SAC for Mr Goldie Wright Evergreen Cemetery, Franklin Co, NC
Do you know for sure his name wasn't Mr Goldie? If you do, I'll gladly change it. Around here there are more than a few people named Queen Esther, Prince So and So, Miss Betty Smith, etc. I don't automatically assume someone's legal name couldn't be Mr. As I said, if you know it wasn't a name (perhaps it was put on his marker just so people wouldn't assume Goldie was a woman?), I will change it and do so right away. My intention is always honor those whose memorials I create and to do what is right on this site.

Added by Amy Robbins-Tjaden on Jul 04, 2014 9:20 PM

PS - to previous posts -
The spouse link was also 'deleted'! which I have now restored.

Added by widow on Jul 04, 2014 7:54 AM

Mornin' "Lady" -
Just 'poppin in' (on the 4th - lol) to let you know:

An SAC just arrived, asking why the 'mother' link on one of my pages "disappeared"? Proof that the problem I've spoken about is still occurring!

This person sent me an edit, adding (only) the father link, without including the existing mother link ... which I marked 'accept' ... which apparently then deleted the existing mother link.
I have reentered the mother link for this page, but who knows how many other links are being deleted with folks just 'accepting' the new feature?

Scary - and SO WASTEFUL of all the hours invested in entry work! Perhaps a 'good idea' - gone horribly 'bad' - just saying!

Added by widow on Jul 04, 2014 7:18 AM

Howdy again -
You asked: "...were the edits "separate"? One for mother, one for father, one for spouse? That WAS an issue in the beginning - the last one wiped out the other two.

Reply: My experience with the edit feature =

All links submitted, whether father, mother, or spouse ... wiped out any/all other links already on a page, UNLESS ALL links were included in the request; specifically - those already on a page, had to be included (again) with any new link request.

Because of this? I decline links as sent, and create them manually. I don't trust this new fangled feature! and I know that many, many links were lost in the process, before I became aware of the problem.

Hope this helps . . .

Added by widow on Jul 03, 2014 2:59 PM

FYI . . .
The new 'edit' feature? for links - requires ALL existing links to be included in the request! I was shocked to find that just 'accepting' those submitted, DELETED some already in place spouse links, unless they were included,, your feeling that this new feature is a time saver? Not for my pages! thanx anyway - lol

Added by widow on Jul 03, 2014 10:05 AM

Dolores Kingston
RE: Memorial 49730485
I've added a 1945 newspaper clip on my Uncle Harry Herbert Lyons Findagrave Memorial about his military service but cannot re-order the photographs. Would you please place the photo of my Uncle (in uniform) as the top photo on his Memorial? Apparently you are the only one who can rearrange the photo order.
Thank you.
Dolores Kingston

Added by Dolores Kingston on Jul 02, 2014 9:39 PM

Just to let you know, I do appreciate you finding all of the memorials where Mrs. was added in the first name area. At the time they were made, there was no Mrs. in the Suffix List.

Thanks for your consistent help.


Added by Winnette on Jul 02, 2014 3:18 PM

Donna L. Tolliver
McAfee 1880-1916 McKnight 1836-1916
Additions completed. Transferred to you. I deleted McElroy 1856-1908 it was a double. Peace. Donna

Added by Donna L. Tolliver on Jul 02, 2014 4:42 AM

Jean Pinick
Mrs Clark
IS there a verification for Mrs Clark's maiden name as Reed other than the notification on the memorial? Is that where the maiden name of Reed comes from? Did you know the lady in question or a relative? Just curious because Sal Reed could be short for Sally and Reed could be a married name. Thanks Jean

This is per an edit to memorial #5447140 in the Reed Cemetery in Monroe Co., W Va

Added by Jean Pinick on Jul 01, 2014 1:52 PM

Ilo-Vollmer Historical Society
Mr. Blunt
I have to decline your edit of Mr. Blunt as it is 1) not within findagrave naming conventions and 2) makes no sense as this is what the original cemetery records have for him.

Mr. Blunt Sent by: GerbLady Jun 27, 2014 6:00 PM

First Name: Mr. First Name: Male

Added by Ilo-Vollmer Historical So... on Jun 28, 2014 6:24 PM


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