|Birth: ||Mar. 30, 1935|
|Death: ||Mar. 6, 2008|
Published Pittsburg, KS - March 28, 2008
Virgil "Wilke" McCarty, age 72, of Independence, Kansas, died on Thursday, March 6, 2008, at his home in Independence, Kansas.
He was born on March 30, 1935, in Elk City, Kansas, to Elmer and Vada (Wilke) McCarty.
On March 16, 1962, he married Eloise Holmes, in Independence, Kansas. She survives of the home.
He served in the United States Army, earning a rank of Private first Class.
After his military service, he worked as a truck driver for Independence Ready-Mix until his retirement.
He was preceded in death by his parents, two brothers,Leonard McCarty and Dale McCarty and two sisters, Evelyn Knisley and Shirley McCarty.
In addition to his wife, he is survived by two sons and one daughter; two sisters, Edith Eckles, Rio Linda, CA, and Audrey Handy, Sacramento, CA; four grandchildren; and one great grandchild.
Memorial service Eulogy by Wilke's son.
My Dad passed away on March 6, 2008. Growing up, I didn't understand him. He seemed stern and distant. I longed to hear him say "I love you" , but he was silent. I longed for a hug and did not get one. As I grew older, I accepted that Dad had never gotten a hug as a child or heard his parent's say they loved him, so maybe he didn't know how to express love.
I grew up and when I got married, I vowed that I would say "I love you" everyday to my wife and children. I told my wife about my dad and she suggested I should tell him that I loved him. So on Saturday, January 27, 2001 when our daughter was one month old, I gave my dad a hug and told him I loved him. My wife said that he had a huge smile on his face.
As I have grown older, I have come to understand my dad. He might not have been able to say " I love you, " but he showed his love through his actions. He went to work each day and worked hard, sometimes working for 10 or 12 hours in the summer time, driving his truck day in and day out, even though his back must have hurt him after having broke it in an accident years earlier. I remember him coming home and falling asleep in his chair after supper because he was so tired. He provided for his family faithfully because he loved us. He might not have been able to say it, but he showed it.
Yes, my dad loved me all along and I know it beyond any shadow of a doubt. Some people can't say it but they show the love they have for their family by providing for them day after day without ever complaining.
I miss my dad more than I ever thought possible! He was always there and now that he is gone he will be sorely missed.
Dad, I know you are listening.
Dad, I love you!
Elmer Lester McCarty (1897 - 1982)
Vada Dena Wilke McCarty (1902 - 1981)
Audrey Jean McCarty Handy (1930 - 2011)*
Leonard McCarty (1932 - 2000)*
Virgil "Wilke" McCarty (1935 - 2008)
Shirley Lee McCarty (1937 - 1988)*
Evelyn Marie McCarty Knisley (1939 - 1984)*
Dale LeRoy McCarty (1941 - 2000)*
Note: VETERAN - US ARMY
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Record added: Mar 28, 2008
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