|Birth: ||Nov. 23, 1947|
North Dakota, USA
|Death: ||Dec. 1, 2007|
Nov. 23, 1947 — Dec. 1, 2007
Brenda Oberson, beloved wife, mother, grandmother, sister, daughter, niece, cousin and friend of many, died Saturday in her home in North Albany. She was 60 years old.
Brenda Lou Fadness was born in Minot, N.D., to Kermit Melvin and Ruth Christine (Nelson) Fadness. Her parents married on Dec. 14, 1945, after the end of World War II. Brenda Lou was welcomed to the family by her 14-month-old sister, Lauren Kay. Three and a half years later both girls welcomed baby brother, Rodger John, named for his late maternal grandfather, John Nelson (Johann Nilsson), who had emigrated from Vaxjo, Sweden.
The Fadness family lived in North Dakota until 1952, when they moved to Oregon. Except for short periods living in Minot (1960 to 1963, during her middle-school years) and California (1970 to 1972, during her post-graduate years), Brenda lived in Oregon all of her life and loved the state.
She attended grade school and high school in Albany, where she was valedictorian of the Albany High School Class of 1966. She graduated from Lewis & Clark College in Lake Oswego in 1970 with a degree in psychology. She worked at Stanford University Memorial Church in Palo Alto, Calif., during the early 1970s. There she met Black Panther Bobby Seale and babysat for Joan Baez and David Harris' son. She also hung out with her sister, Lauren, who had moved to San Francisco in 1971, and brother Rodger, who eventually settled in Southern California.
After returning to Albany in 1972, she worked at Type Ink with Muriel and Jack Davis and began seeing Mark Loren Oberson, whom she had briefly dated in high school. They fell in love and married on Sept. 16, 1973. Their daughter, Brooke Anne, was born on Jan. 21, 1977; their son, Dax Loren, arrived on March 12, 1979.
Brenda was a stay-at-home mom during her children's pre-school years. Once they started school, she was an enthusiastic school-mom and teacher's helper. The children's grandparents, the late Kermit and Ruth Fadness and Alvin and the late Pearl Oberson, all of Albany, frequently babysat Brooke and Dax. The family spent summer vacations at Lake Shasta in California and enjoyed winter weekends camping and snowmobiling in the Cascade Mountains. Mark and Brenda traveled to Hawaii, Costa Rica, Cancun, Mexico and the Bahamas, and took Caribbean and Mexican cruises.
After her children were in school, Brenda started working part time at the family's business, Oberson Oil. She worked there fulltime from 1986 to 2002 as the office manager, handling computer applications, accounting, finances and human resources. She left Oberson Oil in 2002 to pursue her other interests.
Her avocation and talent was for art, which she loved tremendously. She was a doll-maker, photographer, sculptor and painter — in watercolors, pastels and oils. She was also an avid and knowledgeable doll-collector.
Brenda loved all aspects of her life — husband, children, family, friends, traveling and being a mom, business woman and artist. She was greatly anticipating the birth of her second grandchild, Dawsan Lou, in January 2008. She was kind, sympathetic, loving and generous, and she will be greatly missed.
She is survived by husband Mark Oberson of Albany; daughter Brooke Oberson-Henness and husband Christopher Henness of Albany; son Dax Oberson and wife Anjie and granddaughter Shay Ford of Lewisburg; sister Lauren Kunkel and husband Michael Selhorst of San Francisco and Santa Barbara, Calif.; brother Rodger Fadness and wife Annette of Irvine, Calif., and sons Jordan and Matthew, who both loved their Auntie Brendy dearly; father-in-law Alvin Oberson of Albany; aunts Florence Flatla and Grace Fadness; uncles Juel Fadness, Robert Mikkelson and Larry Flatla; and many cousins.
Her parents, Ruth and Kermit Fadness of Albany; grandparents Martin and Anna (Jensen) Fadness and John and Ida (Nordstrom) Nelson of Velva, N.D.; aunts Helen Nelson, Ella Graumann, Jean Nelson and Mabel Mikkelson; and uncles Leslie, Willard and Ernest Nelson and Lee Graumann preceded her in death.
A memorial service was held Thursday at Fisher Funeral Home Chapel in Albany. The service was conducted by the Rev. Les Goertz, husband of Brenda's cousin, Vernajean (Nelson) Goertz, of Abbotsford, British Columbia.
Contributions can be made to the Special Olympics in care of Fisher Funeral Home, 306 Washington St. S.W., Albany, OR 97321.
Brenda supported the Special Olympics for many years in memory of her second cousin, Gilbert Fadness Jr., who had Down syndrome and passed away at the age of 16.
Albany Democrat Herald December 6, 2007
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