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Gertrude A. "Gert" Bougie Kalil
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Birth: Mar. 9, 1931
Saint Paul
Ramsey County
Minnesota, USA
Death: Jun. 8, 2009
Mecklenburg County
North Carolina, USA

Gertrude A. Kalil, our mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, mother-in-law and aunt, slipped away quietly and peacefully from this life on Monday, June 8, 2009. Gert had suffered a traumatic brain injury in 2006 as the result of a fall and never fully recovered. She recuperated in Minneapolis near her daughter Patty for two years. Gert died in Charlotte, NC, a place she loved, where she had been living close to her daughter Laurie for the past several months.

The funeral will be held on Monday, June 15, 2009, at St. Joseph's Catholic Church in Williston, ND at 10:00 am with burial to follow at the Riverview Cemetery in Williston. A family vigil and Rosary will be held on Sunday, June 14, 2009, at 8:00 pm at Everson Funeral Home in Williston.

A native of St. Paul, MN, Gertrude was born on March 9, 1931, the daughter of Laurence Laisne Bougie and Gertrude Bridget (Muldoon) Bougie. She was educated in St. Paul and graduated from St. Paul Central High School. Gert earned her license as a dental hygienist after completing her education at the University of Minnesota. She worked in the Twin Cities for local dentists until her marriage.

On February 7, 1953 Gert and Charles D. (Bud) Kalil were united in marriage in St. Paul. They moved to his hometown of Williston, ND where he was active in the family's business and farm and they started their family. Gert's primary role was that of wife and mother to Terry, Patty, David, Dan, Laurie and Michael.

Gert lived in Williston for more than 30 years and was an active member of the community. Her greatest passion was reading and she was among the most active patrons and volunteers at the James Memorial Library. She introduced her children to the children's library and instilled in each of them a great love of books. She also served on the Library Board.

When their children entered St. Joseph's School, Gert was a dedicated and active parent, always participating in the school's activities. She was also a member of the St. Joseph's Church Altar Band.

During the summer months, Gert could be found daily at the Harmon Outdoor Swimming Pool enjoying a leisurely swim during "family hour." She made sure her children learned to swim at a young age as their presence at the pool was required.

Gert was a dedicated homemaker and mother who enjoyed doing home improvement projects, gardening and collecting antiques decades before television shows were dedicated to these pastimes. During harvest at the family farm, she brought meals to the fields, enabling her husband and sons to keep bringing in the crops.

As her children grew, Gert was able to devote time to another great passion, her love of travel. She traveled to Europe three times, visiting historic sites and exploring the English countryside she had come to love through books. In 1986, she visited her daughter Laurie and future-son-in-law David Metzger in Tokyo, Japan. She and her daughter Terry went on from there to Hong Kong and Beijing China to explore Asian arts and culture. Two other favorite trips were to Paris with her daughter Laurie and granddaughter, Betsy and to Ireland with her friend, Darlene Leinen on a UND sponsored trip.

Gert traveled extensively throughout the United States where she was inevitably drawn to the oceans, lakes and beaches. While she loved visiting the historical sites and museums, it was walking on a beach that was most special for her. The beaches of Cape Cod where her son Michael lived, South Carolina and Minnesota's lakes were her favorites.

As Bud's career with Metropolitan Banks of Fargo progressed, they moved to Fargo in the early 1980s and remained there until his retirement. Her interests and passions never wavered, they just changed facilities. The Fargo Public Library was her source of books, the Fargo Country Club pool the location for summer swims. She was also a member of Holy Spirit Catholic Church.

Gert later retired to Bemidji, MN, to fulfill her dream of living in a lake home. She spent her final years doing what she loved reading, solving jigsaw puzzles, traveling, antiquing, and keeping up with the lives of her children, grandchildren and great grandson. During those years, she painstakingly and methodically sorted the thousands of books in her library and made significant donations to help rebuild the Grand Forks Public Library following the devastating flood of 1997. Later the Bemidji Public Library was the recipient of many volumes. In Bemidji, she was a member of St. Philip's Catholic Church.

Gert is survived by her husband of forty five years, Charles D. (Bud) Kalil of Sun Lakes, AZ, where he lives with his wife Gloria. Gert is also survived by her children: Terry, Detroit Lakes, MN; Patty and her husband Joe Margarit, Bloomington MN, and their children Ted, Betsy and Charlie; David and his wife Candy (Bar) Kalil, Rapid City, SD, and their children Chad, Kevin (fiance Megan Kruse), Tim, and Melissa Kalil Anderson; Dan and his wife Kathy (Hagen) Kalil of WIlliston and their children Bill, Thomas, Alex and Ian; and, Laurie and her husband David Metzger, Charlotte, NC, and their children Matt and Katie. She is also survived by one great-grandson, Jay Anderson, who brought her great joy during her final years.

Her sister Mary Jo (Ed) Datko of St. Paul, MN, and sister Rosemarie (Paul) Carlsten of Iowa City, IA, also survive her.

Gert has many nieces and nephews in the Kalil-Zine family as well as the Bougie family who also survive her. She was especially fond of her sister's daughter Mary Beamish who visited her frequently.

Gert was preceded in death by her youngest son Michael who died in 2004 at the age of 39 after a life-long battle with a congenital heart defect and countless surgeries. Gert devoted her life to Michael's care and his ability to lead a productive, happy life.

Her parents, brothers James and Laurence Bougie, and sisters Elizabeth Beamish and Margaret Ann Neurenberg and several nieces and nephews also preceded her in death.

Memorials in Gert's name may be sent to: St. Joseph's Catholic Church or School, 124 6th Street West, Williston, ND 58801; Riverview School, 551 Route 6A, East Sandwich, MA 02537; or the Williston Public Library, 1302 Davidson Drive, Williston, ND 58801.

Friends may call at the Everson Funeral Home of Williston Sunday from 1:00 p.m. until 5:00 p.m. and Monday at the church for the hour preceding the funeral.

Everson Funeral Home in Williston is assisting the family.
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  Michael Joseph Kalil (1964 - 2004)*
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Riverview Cemetery
Williams County
North Dakota, USA
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Record added: Jun 10, 2009
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Gertrude A. Gert <i>Bougie</i> Kalil
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- In memory of R. Vivian Zetter of Sheyenne, ND
 Added: Jun. 10, 2009

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