Born in New Jersey to Abraham S. Van Fleet and Sarah Hall Van Fleet. She married Eli Dow in New Jersey. They had a child D. Annie Dow, Debra, Deborah or Annie, who later married becoming Annie Thatcher. Sarah and Eli were divorced as best as I can tell.
She remarried to Daniel T. Oakley who preceded her in death in 1915. I do not have an exact death date for her, she was alive as of the 1920 NJ census living with her daughter and son in law in New Jersey.