|Birth: ||Oct. 15, 1987|
|Death: ||Feb. 14, 2008|
A NIU student, 20 yrs old, a finance major and member of the NIU rugby team.
Parmenter grew from a sickly baby into an imposing 6-foot-5, 250-pound athlete. He attended York High School in Elmhurst, played football and impressed coaches with his team-oriented attitude. Parmenter, a member of Pi Kappa Alpha, held a part-time job as a stock boy at Pottery Barn in Oak Brook. He also worked as advertising rep for NIU's student newspaper.
Parmenter began working as a sales associate for the NIU student newspaper in August. Working on the Northern Star's business staff was a tradition at the Pi Kappa Alpha house and a fraternity brother had recommended him for the job.
He initially handled grunt work such as answering phones and manning the fax machine. His work ethic quickly earned him a promotion to office manager and later to advertising representative, said Maria Krull, the paper's business adviser.
He took care of everybody. He was prompt, smart and very attentive. I could depend on him for everything.
Parmenter, wanted the hands-on business experience, Krull said. He had hoped to be an intern at the Chicago Board of Trade this summer.
His Pi Kappa Alpha brothers remembered Parmenter as an imposing figure, at 6-foot-5 and 250 pounds, who was shy and quiet when he first joined the fraternity.
He had become more outgoing recently, getting members to help with bingo games at a nursing home.
He was described as a "gentle giant" by an adviser at the NIU student newspaper. Parmenter was a sophomore studying finance and a member of Pi Kappa Alpha fraternity where "Dan was always helping other people out, giving you a ride to class, helping with homework, doing community service," said Eta Nu Chapter President Jason Garcia. Known as Danny, he sold ads for the Northern Star campus paper. At York High School in Elmhurst, he played football as a defensive end.
Days after his death, Dan Parmenter is still making his father proud.
Daniel was one of five people shot and killed at Northern Illinois University last week.
He was in the class with his girlfriend, Lauren Debrauwere, when the shooting began. Debrauwere was wounded by the gunman and remains hospitalized.
In talking with Lauren's father, Gary Parmenter learned how his son tried to comfort and protect Lauren.
"Dan and she dropped to the floor for cover, and Dan held her hands and he started praying for both of them until the time he was shot," Gary Parmenter said.
"Everyone feels the loss as if he was a son or brother to them," he added. "His mother, sister and I have are just overwhelmed by the sympathy and support of immediate friends and the circle of friends that extends from the state and nation in expressing their feeling of loss for Dan and all five students."
Parmenter said Lauren's father detailed his daughter's recollections just hours before visitation took place Monday at Hursen Funeral Home in Hillside in honor of Dan Parmenter.
The six-hour service was attended by more than a thousand people. An overflow throng of mourners huddled outside the funeral home, waiting their turn to pay respects to the family. Once inside, it was another two hours to get to the Parmenters to express condolences.
"We just wanted them to know they're in our prayers," said Dawn Ricordati, whose two daughters went to high school with Dan. "I'm not surprised to see so many people; Dan was a good kid. He was special."
Dan Parmenter's funeral today will be preceded by another visitation from 1 to 2 p.m. at Christ Church, 31st Street and York Road in Oak Brook.
A final 11 a.m. service will be held Wednesday in at the Taylor Ridge Methodist Church in Taylor Ridge near the Quad Cities. Gary Parmenter said his family is from that part of the state, and his son will be laid to rest alongside Dan's grandparents and great-grandparents.
Mark Debrauwere planned to attend Monday's visitation to meet his daughter's boyfriend's family.
He said his 19-year-old daughter remembers everything that happened Thursday when a stranger opened fire in the lecture hall.
She told her father she and Parmenter were sitting near the front of the class when the gunman appeared on the stage and opened fire at the instructor. She never had time to run, he said.
Lauren was shot twice -- once in the hip and once in the abdomen -- after Parmenter was shot and killed.
She was conscious when she arrived at the hospital, her father said.
"She knew what had happened," Mark Debrauwere said. "She just said her stomach hurt, 'Please make it stop.' "
He said his daughter, who was later airlifted to Northwestern Memorial Hospital, is expected to make a full recovery and may be released from the hospital soon.
"How long the mental side of it (will take), I don't know," he said.
Daniel L. Parmenter, age 20, suddenly, of Westchester, formerly of Elmhurst. Beloved son of Gary Parmenter and Linda (Robert) Greer; devoted brother of Kristen Parmenter; dearest grandson of Russell and the late Betty Lou Parmenter and Hans (Lorraine Stazak) and the late Doris Blohm; dear nephew of Carol (Tom) Baker, Sandi, Ed and Mark (Sandy) Parmenter; fond cousin of Andrew, Brittany, Eric, Kelly and Shannon. Visitation Monday, 3 to 9 p.m., at Hursen Funeral Home, S.W. corner of Roosevelt and Mannheim Roads, Hillside/Westchester. Lying-in-state Tuesday, 1 p.m. until time of funeral service 2 p.m., at Christ Church, 31st and York Road, Oak Brook, IL. Interment Wednesday, Chapel Grove Cemetery, Milan, IL, following 11 a.m. services at Taylor Ridge Methodist Church. In lieu of flowers, memorials can be made to the family for charities yet to be selected. Info. Toll-free: 800-562-0082 or www.hursen.com
He is a direct descendant of an American Revolutionary veteran, Elias Parmenter. He is a direct descendant of a Mayflower Passenger, Richard Warren. He is a direct descendant of a Frenchman, Guillaume De Parmentin (born in 1435 in the Kingdom of France.) His grandfather, Russell Eugene Parmenter, passed away on May 24, 2011 at age of 83 and Russell was a World War II veteran. Russell's obituary is according to http://www.journalstandard.com/obituaries/x1355386516/OBITUARY-Russell-E-Parmenter.
Chapel Grove Cemetery
Rock Island County
Created by: AMCorBTC
Record added: Feb 15, 2008
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