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PFC Stanley Gray Toler
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Birth: Dec. 9, 1946
Craven County
North Carolina, USA
Death: Sep. 2, 1966, Vietnam

PFC Stanley Gray Toler, Vietnam Veteran, Native of Ernul, NC.

Private First Class Stanley Gray Toler was a casualty of the Vietnam War. As a member of the Army, PFC Toler served our country until September 2nd, 1966 in South Vietnam. He was 19 years old and was not married. It was reported that Stanley was killed by friendly fire. His body was recovered. Stanley was born on December 9th, 1946 in Ernul, North Carolina. PFC Toler is on panel 10E, line 062 of the Vietnam Memorial Wall in Washington D.C. He served our country for one year.

I was attached to the RECON Plt. as a Forward Observer. We had just made contact with VC and we shot and killed 2 of them. We had walked up on an outpost and the 2 we killed must have been going to replace the 2 on the outpost. It was over very fast. We waited because we thought the unit that they we protecting would come and engage us. After about 30-45 minutes nothing happen, I had called in some mortar fire but nothing. The Plt Sgt had called back to our HQ and they said for us to stay in place and they would drop another unit behind where we thought they were located as a blocking force and then we could move in. But we would have to spend the night there because it would be the next morning before they could get the unit in place. We had captured a rice bearer about an hour before we made contact and he said that there was a very large unit operating in that area. We were only about 35 so we waited. Stan and I went forward of our line to drag off the two bodies so that if their friends came they would not know our position. We had just dragged the second body off the trail when we came under fire, Stan was hit in the side I had to hold him because he was trying to fall back to our line but that is where the fire was coming from. I found out later one of our guys had fallen asleep and when he woke up he heard us out front and opened up. Stan was alive when we put him on the med-vac but the pilot radioed me and told me he did not make it. So he was killed by our own unit, but we had been in a fire fight that led up to his death. I have never forgotten Stan even though I had just met him and I have always felt that this was my fault because you see it was my idea to remove the bodies. Kenny Ballew,

He was the son of Mr and Mrs Aubrey A Toler, Route #1, Box 166, Ernul, NC.

He served with Headquarters and Headquarters Company, 1st Battalion, 35th Infantry Regiment. "Cacti Forever", 25th Infantry Division, "Tropic Lightning", USARV.

He was awarded The Combat Infantryman Badge(CIB, The Purple Heart Medal, The National Defense Service Medal, The Vietnam Service Medal, The Vietnam Campaign Medal and The Vietnam Cross of Gallantry with Palm Unit Citation.

High Bridge Cemetery
Craven County
North Carolina, USA
Created by: Tom Reece
Record added: Jan 30, 2007
Find A Grave Memorial# 17760080
PFC Stanley Gray Toler
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